what helps you ? for me I would like to hand on the best bit of advice I heard here.

Just do the step you are on

its really simple, I don't have to try and think or anticipate anything or worry about how things will go. Just do my step

it was hard the first few years for me as I still worried. Early days I was trying to do all six steps at once and so felt anxious at events sometimes. I found it almost impossible to just focus on breakfast when there was Christmas pudding to try and avoid

then I realised if I managed to get four parts of breakfast right and all smooth and flowing the rest of the day could do its own thing

I discovered I can harness my energy into forward planning, which I am good at
so that was the next thing

it is a little mantra for calming and soothing really, to think, just do my step