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October 19, 2015

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I have just returned from presenting at a training in Denver for people who are using a program called LENS (low energy neural stimulation) as a neurofeedback practice. It was primarily a group of people who are clinical psychologists who are adding this particular kind of neurofeedback into their practices. I spoke to them about how adding nutrition into their practice could enhance the outcomes of their LENS work. it was very exciting to be collaborating with people so connected to the healing world who are so open to adding things and making their work deeper. It was joyful for me. The people who gave the conference are colleagues I have known for a long time and we always love catching up on how our work is evolving.

It gave me a wonderful opportunity to think about the steps in a new way. I developed a protocol for practitioners who might like to add something about Radiant Recovery® to their work. I will put together the presentation for any of you who might be interested in the material.

And it was wonderful to come home feeling renewed and filled up. Lots of think about and I will be sharing more as I integrate it.

I will be starting a series in the article section about What Else is Embedded in the Steps. This is from the class I do on this topic. This will give a preview to all of you and a special head start to those coming into the class where we will be discussing this material in depth.

And here is a really fun new blog I just found. I think he is right on target. Maybe go on over and add your voice. He is a young soldier working with the military on nutrition. Maybe we can get him excited about what we are doing too.

This class will begin Wednesday, October 21, 2015. Please Signup and it will take you to the registration page:

Healing Grief

I have not run this class in a couple of years. But I am aware that a whole number of us have experienced loss this year. I thought it would be a good plan to share again this healing process. We will explore how to come to reconciliation about the loss of people or animals or places or things that are dear to us when we are choosing not to anesthetize ourselves. It will be about letting go, grieving deeply and letting pain wash through us without having to *do* or *take* something.

This class will begin Wednesday, October 28, 2015. Please Signup and it will take you to the registration page:

Problem Solving for Newbies

This is an introductory class for those of you who have completed the Using resources of the Community class and would like some help in creating a map for success with the steps. It will be fun, focused and useful. Come join us for motivation and direction.

A number of you have asked me how the classes work. Check the class list page for more information on this. And please go read the questions and answers before you write to me. If you have trouble getting through the process, write the tech forum.

Be sure to visit our Radiant Recovery website and Community Forum regularly.



**Quote From Kathleen**

Doing the food creates a steady bowl to hold your life experience. As it fills, the connection deepens inside and outside.


**Testimonial of the Week**

Last year several of us gathered up a bunch of Halloween ideas. They haven't been put into any order, but I thought I would go ahead and share what was done with all of you. I'll post them in separate posts...there's a bunch of information. Please make additions if you have any!

This first post is ideas of what to give out at the door for visiting trick-or-treaters...food items and non-food items.



Food Treats
  1. Individual wrapped packets of microwave Popcorn. Sam's Club or Costco has the big box. Local grocery stores may have boxes of this...it is a little more expensive but more convenient.
  2. Individual wrapped packets of Halloween pretzels from Sam’s Club, brand name Utz. The pretzels come in black-and-orange packages, and are shaped like bats and pumpkins. One large "bucket" contains 60 packages of pretzels.
  3. Individual bags of Barbara's potato chips. These are the kind made from potatoes with the skin on them. They can be a little pricey but if you don't get a lot of kids at your house they would work
  4. Peanuts, prepackaged (this you need to be cautious with as many children have allergies to peanuts...we gave it to the children we knew / bought from Costco)
  5. Apples (to the children that we know)
Non-Food Treats (Have your kids wrap them individually in spooky wrapping paper)
  1. Party supply stores (Party City):
    • Little packages of tattoos
    • Puzzles
    • Spider rings
    • Skeletons
  2. Target or Oriental Trading Company (Oriental Trading Company is much cheaper and has a huge variety):
    • Themed straws (pumpkins, bats, and ghosts)
    • Pencils
    • Mini-playdoh containers
  3. Glow-in-the-dark jewelry (Buy online - do a search for glow-in-the-dark bracelets, for example and lots of websites will show up)
  4. Halloween pencils and Halloween "bendy" straws (online search)
  5. Crayons/pads/booklets/stampers


**Thinking About Ranch**

Having just attended a seminar where I was a *new* person, I was reminded of how difficult that *night before* can be. I had to go down and eat in the restaurant alone. Sitting in a restaurant alone and watching people in groups at the other tables laughing and talking and thinking I wished I could have just ordered room service made me realize that maybe those of you who have thought about coming to Ranch have had these kinds of feelings. I want to let you know that we make a very concerted effect to make sure everyone is included and welcomed. No one has to feel this way. (smile)

Each week I am going to add a little more about why Ranch is so special.


**Notes from the Forum **

In Response To: How to not slip back into old, bad habits

Why I stay with the programme? that is an easy one for me to answer.

Here is me pre steps: I have a lovely life but I am totally anxious, weight obsessed. I have rosacea/acne and dermatitis. I live on a permanent yo yo of dieting. Certain foods pull me in and I feel controlled by it. I am tied to drama and worrying. I am fat and self conscious and less-than. I have the same old black tops and leggings and I cant fit in anything else.

Me with steps steady: I still have my lovely life and I appreciate it. I am calm. My skin is clear and I don't feel embarrassed about it any more. I have a keen eye on my journal and work on my weight maintenance. It's work but I don't feel driven by that any more, it's just something I do. I have a great freedom around food now and I get to choose. I have a normal BMI for the first time in my life. I love shopping for tops and jeans. I don't get pulled into other peoples drama so much these days. It's peaceful.

If something is off in my steps, I have a little reminder of what life used to be like. For instance, last year I ate some unwise pecans with sugar on.... I got very rosy and looked sunburnt and DH said .... 'what did you eat ?' and added to that, while travelling I didn't get enough protein etc. - well! I felt low and grumpy and the world was against me. I knew it would pass though and focused on steps as much as possible to rebalance.

So it is so easy to stay and not slip. No contest about it, I so much prefer steady I wouldn't say it has been easy though, there were times in step three when I thought I had fallen down a hole and would never get out. But I don't regret those experiences. I learnt such a lot from them.

The 'tools' that help me are: journal (because if I don't journal I forget) and connection. Reading the forum and listening to everyone's ideas and reminders. Focusing on my step. I do step seven but often have a special eye on one of the others according to my circumstances



**Radiant Recovery® Store**

As the holidays are coming round, I wanted to remind you about our cookbook. It has some great recipes. But it also has lots of other neat stuff, like info on browns and how to calculate proteins and material that has not been published anywhere.

I love the cookbook. I think it is a great resource for any radiant kitchen, or for any kitchen wanting to be radiant.

Please send questions and suggestions. I love hearing from you and truly want to help you do your program better.


**Radiant Kitchen**

This is from the Radiant Recipes Cookbook.


  • 1 medium head red cabbage, shredded
  • 1/2 c. diced onion
  • 2 firm pears, peeled, cored and chopped into 1/2 inch dice
  • 2 sweet apples (Delicious, Fuji, Gala), peeled, cored and chopped into 1/2 inch dice
  • 2 T. olive oil
  • 2 T. raspberry vinegar*
  • 1/2 c. unsweetened apple juice
  • 1/4 tsp. black pepper
  • salt to taste
  • 1/2 tsp. marjoram
  • 1/2 tsp. thyme
  • 1/2 tsp. caraway seed (optional)
In a large dutch oven, heat olive oil over medium high heat. Add onion and saute briefly, until onion becomes translucent. Add apple and pear dice and saute until fruit loses its raw appearance, 3 - 5 minutes. Add cabbage (in batches, if necessary), pepper, marjoram, thyme and optional caraway. Toss to coat cabbage with other ingredients. Quick saute until cabbage loses its raw state but is not soft. Add vinegar and juice and cover. Let steep over medium heat until all the flavors are blended, 5 - 10 minutes. Uncover; taste and adjust seasonings, if you wish less liquid in dish, reduce juices over high heat until mixture reaches desired consistency. Makes 6 - 8 servings.

Note: If raspberry vinegar is unavailable, substitute with another "fruity" vinegar, such as apple cider, golden, balsamic, sherry, or red wine vinegar. Do not use distilled white vinegar, as the taste will be too acidic. [Naomi's note: never use white vinegar in cooking - but it is great for cleaning your kitchen :-)]
For great program-friendly recipes, check out our Cookbook in the store and visit our online Radiant Recipes site.


**Radiant Your Last Diet**

A couple of years ago, there was a review of YLD in the Toronto Star. The columnist clearly did not read the book and could not find the menus to tell her what to do. I wrote to her, and in doing that, realized how much I love YLD. It is so, um, sane. It is such an antidote to one more quick fix, one more here, eat this and be thin. We all know that there is an article about that every week, every month and we all read all of them. YLD frees us from all that. And I can see that a columnist who reviews a new diet book each week would not want to hear the idea that this might be your LAST diet, LOL. But for me, and for you...count on it. If you are tired of all that, we have an alternative.

If you would like to join us in YLD, come find us here


**Radiant Living**

The special membership program is all about support for learning how to *live* as you move towards radiance. We talk about emotional sobriety, finding passion in your life, disarming things that get in the way, program maturation and, of course, spirituality. When we are caught in addiction, we stop growing, we get stuck and stay stuck. Radiant Living will allow you to share with others — people who are asking the same questions and exploring answers boldly and with the humility that comes with doing the food.

If you would like to join us in Radiant Living, come find us here


**What is Embedded in Step One**

Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.

We always talk about doing the steps in order and slowly. No matter what list you are on or whether you are posting on the forum or attending a chat, you will hear that voice...in order and slowly.

Many people think this instruction comes from my wanting to have things done in order and to have you follow direction. And in fact both are true. Sugar-sensitive people are funny. We either hate to follow directions or we want to only follow directions and not think. So early on we see people who rebel and say, *OK, I got it, I am set* and proceed without listening to any input, or we see people who cannot move forward without an explicit instruction.

I want you to really understand what else is in each step because the steps are not just about the food, even though for years and years and years I've been talking about do the food, do the food, do the food. I think the real message is do the PROGRAM, because underneath the steps or inside the steps or embedded in the steps is a whole series of behavioral instructions about healing addiction.

Healing addiction is key. This is what I know best. The food does your biochemistry and the process does your behavior.

So the first step is to have breakfast. Eat breakfast. And that one sounds very simple and very straightforward. You say, *OK, oh sure, I'll eat breakfast every morning.*

In our program, there are four parts to eating breakfast.

Every day,
within an hour of getting up,
with enough protein for your body,
and with a complex carbohydrate.

So we have those four things that sit underneath breakfast.

When we first started we said, *eat breakfast with protein* and that was it. But we got smarter, and we added the definition of those four parts. And those four parts are very complex.

Right off the bat with step one, you're learning to do something every day.

In reality, doing something every day is really hard for sugar-sensitive people. Every day trains habitual behavior. Every day – not five days a week or not on the weekends, but every single day you're going to do this so that it becomes an automatic part of who you are. That is training for you.

The second part of breakfast says to get enough protein for your body. At first blush, it sounds interesting and not really complex. But let's look deeper. It means, number one, you have to start connecting with your body. How much do you weigh? You have to know how much you weigh in order to figure out how much protein to have. Many sugar-sensitive people do not really want to know how much they weigh. They hate how much they weigh. It's either too much or too little or it might change tomorrow. Right? So having to acknowledge I weigh this much and I need this much food, that can have a huge emotional charge. Yes?

Now come some harder things. I say have enough protein for your body weight. I give you a simple formula. And then come the questions and the struggle. *What do you mean I need 35 g of protein? How can I possibly eat 35 g of protein? What do you mean that I need 27 g of protein? Oh, all right, I'm going to have 16.765 g of protein and I'm going to count the amount of protein that's in my oatmeal and the amount of protein that's in this and this and this.*

Embedded in the process of figuring out how much protein for your body is looking at your body or experiencing your body, figuring out how much you weigh, figuring out a mathematical conversion and then learning about food and how to figure out how much protein is in the foods you eat. And then learning about dense protein vs. lightweight protein.

Some people find that very difficult to do. They hate it. They think they have math phobia, and they can't possibly convert pounds into kilos into grams. Or you have to figure out how many grams are in protein powder, so then you have to read labels. And many of you who have been doing this for a long time forget how difficult that is, and most of you that are just starting, you know how overwhelming it is. How do I get 27 g of protein for breakfast? How do I know what to do when I go out to breakfast and there are things that I haven't had before? How many grams of protein are in this size sausage thing? I can't possibly eat that many eggs.

Can you start to see the layer after layer after layer after layer of what's involved in doing something that sounds as simple as having breakfast? Next week I will give you some more layers. This will get you started.


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