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September 12, 2016

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What a week it has been. Sunday evening I came down with my Fall cold. The wonderful thing is that it has been quick and I am almost well. I took care of myself and slept a lot. It was a reminder about health and how much we take for granted. Then my neighbor's mom had another fall and hit her head. I was lying in my bed while the fire truck and ambulance lights were rotating not too far from my window and thinking about getting older and vulnerability and health and life. I know that many of you know exactly what I mean. I think perhaps because we have been talking about *weight loss* in YLD at the same time we are talking about *success* in the new class, I have been overwhelmed by the power of what we have been doing here.

I think perhaps that when we are in the midst of doing life, we don't always have a chance to step back and see the bigger picture of what shifts have happened and what changes have occurred. I cannot speak for all of you, but I know that the last few months have been hard for me. Really hard, on a profound level. My tipping point came with the interview with the Libertarian Candidate being asked what he thought about *Allepo* and he said, *What is Allepo?* I was sitting in my regular TV chair and the image of a tiny boy being pulled from bombing rubble, covered in cement dust, in shock being put in an ambulance and sitting there kept flashing in my face. This is Allepo...we, as sugar sensitives, feel deeply. Children in war, refugees in the sea, political swirl, climate change, rescue dogs dying, deadlines to meet, creativity calling, coughing in the middle of the night. Holding center takes a lot of energy.

I want to add a qualifier here since the last time I wrote about something with a twinge of politics caused a firestorm with some people flouncing off, that I am NOT talking about politics, I am talking about sugar sensitive, i.e., SENSITIVE, life in these times. I am talking about what it takes to live without using something to make myself numb and to opt out in the face of a tide of complexity. I don't have answers yet, I only have the willingness to have some words to describe how hard this time is.

This time reminds me of being little. I would pick up everything swirling around me. I would feel it and I would *know* without having experience, or words, just feelings...and my mother would say, *You don't know that.* And in my heart of hearts of course I knew the world was swirling, and I was feeling it without a guide to say that things will be all right.

I went to a meeting in a Radiant Recovery® sweatshirt. It says, *This is Grace unfolding, you are not alone.* A guy nodded and said, *That's nice. What is the last line?* And I said, *My name.* I was laughing because I think he didn't want to seem be staring at my bosom trying to read it. But it meant that I claimed something about how I am making sense of it. I am not three now, and I do know that Grace is indeed unfolding in spite of Allepo or politics or climate change or Facebook. We are not alone. I will continue to take dinner across the street so when my neighbor has been with his mom at the hospital and comes home he will have hot food. I will continue to take a throw-away dog to the dog wash and scrub him so he is clean and fluffy.

We will continue to do the food, lose weight, care for one another and do life differently. Grace is unfolding and we are not alone.

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**Quote From Kathleen**

When you feel your worst and can't cope with anything, just go back to eating breakfast with protein every day.

"When you wake up in the morning, Pooh," said Piglet at last, "what's the first thing you say to yourself?"

"What's for breakfast?" said Pooh. "What do you say, Piglet?"

"I say, I wonder what's going to happen exciting today?" said Piglet.

Pooh nodded thoughtfully. "It's the same thing," he said.

From The Tao of Pooh, by Benjamin Hoff, Ernest H. Shepard (Illustrator). Viking Press, 1983.


**Testimonial of the Week**

Hi All,

Just wanted to post a journaling breakthrough. Oftentimes in the past 3 months since I started the program, I've wondered, 'Am I 'really' sugar-sensitive? I don't really eat sugar that much'. Well, yesterday I decided to go through my past 3 months of journaling (however sketchy it was) and write down all the things I keep eating. I was shocked at the result!! My sugar/white thing to non-sugar/white thing ratio is about 50/50. The journal showed it right in my face, in black in white (or in my case, pink, as that is the shade of my pen).

Here is all the stuff I keep eating!

Granola bars/cereal, chocolate chips, soda, jalapeno bread, ice cream, cookies, snack mixes and crackers, cookie/cake/muffin dough, chocolate milk, hot chocolate, donuts/pastries, eggnog, croissants, cake and pie, pizza/pizza pockets, waffles and syrup, chocolate bars and truffles, Doritos and BBQ potato chips, pudding, Asiago cheese bread, sweet coffee drinks, apple and orange juice, red wines, pasta alfredo, jam, hard candy, bagels, stuffing, caramels, biscuits, brownies, Pirate's Booty, spaghetti, french bread, and bean dip (the canned kind in the chip aisle).

It's totally amazing how all of this can totally slip my mind when thinking about what I eat. What I imagine I eat and what I actually eat are two very different things. Thank the gods for food journals to show me otherwise!

I've really been keeping up with my journal, especially since I ordered the 'Your Body Speaks' version. (Good call on suggesting that one, Cindy ;) ) It's interesting that the quote for today in that was 'If you don't have a journal, you have no record of your process.'

I love stickers, so I got a bunch of sparkly ones that I put in the book for when I do exercise. I'm thinking about getting some food- shaped stickers for different goals like complete days of journaling (maybe I'll do it for each step I'm on, eh?). Anyway, I just wanted to share my discovery. :)



**Interesting Bits of Science**

This is an article from the NY Times reporting about the the *post* study for 14 Biggest Loser contestants. It says a study of contestants from “The Biggest Loser” found their metabolisms slowed during and after the competition, making it difficult to maintain weight loss. Here is a quote. *Mr. Cahill was one of the worst off. As he regained more than 100 pounds, his metabolism slowed so much that, just to maintain his current weight of 295 pounds, he now has to eat 800 calories a day less than a typical man his size. Anything more turns to fat.*

I want you to read the article. And then I want you to reflect on the fact that we are doing something here that is so far ahead of its time, it is in some ways disorienting. The *researchers* may be baffled about Mr. Cahill's slowing metabolism. I am not. And it is not about his metabolism, and it is not about calories...it is about healing.

Read the article. Do not be misled by the solution that surgery is the answer when dieting fails. Just know you have access to a solution that is not being written about in this article.


**Notes from The Steps **

I can remember thinking step 3 would be overwhelming. But here is the trick to getting it steady quickly – go the slow route – laughing here because that sounds odd.

What I mean is, rather than think about doing all of step 3, think just about one bit and get that really steady. It might be lunch or it might be dinner. Pick whichever one is easiest. When I started thinking about lunch it was really hard for me so I had 3 lunches and I just ate them. Some days I would eat the same lunch over and over because it was easy. Often I would get up, have breakfast, do the horses, go home, have a cup of tea, go to the shop, buy lunch, go home and start work. It sounds mad now but back then all I could cope with was getting that day's lunch.

Many years later the woman who could only manage to buy that day’s lunch and would often have to go out again for food for that day’s dinner has a month meal plan all set up and rarely thinks about what to eat because it is all just there sorted out. But it took me a while to get to that point.

And I got there by going out every day to buy my lunch until I was really steady. The effort really paid off.

Could you break it down and just do part of the step?



**Radiant Recovery® Store**

Here is some of the back story about Restore. A while ago we had a crisis because the vendor who had made Restore for us backed out. We were too small a fish for them. We had to start over and it was a royal nightmare.

The process was grueling and involved hundreds of emails, many, many phone calls and details beyond my imagination. And all of it had to be exactly correct. Change the type of jar ever so slightly, and you have to redesign the label and make a new die to hold it in place for printing. But I went through every single issue piece by piece or perhaps nano by nano.

The other piece of good news was that we generated the ability to order much sooner and with far more control over delivery date, which means WE WILL NOT RUN OUT. That last year before the vendor leaving had been a nightmare for me in having to go through these back-order blips. I can say that being *down and dirty* with the materials at this level gave me a whole different appreciation for how unique our product is.

The blender says, *And what about the sweetener?* And I say, *We don't put any in,* and they are confused. They say, *You only have 2 ingredients?* And I say, *Yes...the power comes with the synergy of them...the formula creates a unique taste.* And now I can attest to the source of all the ingredients...and I learned that the whey protein isolate actually comes from New Mexico cows. That was a sweet twist for all the hassle of getting it. The milk concentrate comes from Idaho. Everything gets shipped to California to be packaged.

We have not compromised on the quality. Read other labels and see the ratio of the grams of protein to the total grams of product. Most companies are upping the *other* ingredients (rather than whey protein isolate) because they are cheaper. Most companies are putting all sorts of other things in. We are not. We were the first to make a *sugars free* product. We do not add sweetener. I developed a formula that makes an incredible taste. So you are getting a fabulous product from a woman-owned company using US ingredients from the finest suppliers.

When David and I tasted the blend, we both agreed it tastes better than any thing else.

I am deeply thankful for your patience with all this. Your loyalty and kindness is the reason I took on the task of making sure that OUR shake continues.

Please send questions and suggestions. I love hearing from you and truly want to help you do your program better.


**Radiant Kitchen**

I made a wonderful dinner last night and thought I would share it with you.

I put 3 Italian sweet sausages in a pan to brown them. Then I cut them into 1/2" chunks and cooked some more so there was lots of brown stuff on the bottom of the skillet. I added a little pork fat for flavor.

I cut up some fresh basil and some fresh oregano - I think it was about 2 TBS. And put it in a little bowl with a tsp of salt. Added a TBS of Penzey's roasted garlic.

I cut up about 3 cups of fresh tomatoes that were getting a little soft ripe and then mashed them. Then I poured them in with the sausage, dumped the spices and such on top, stirred and cooked it on very low for about an hour.

Then I boiled a quart of water, and added 1/2 pound of Tinkyada brown rice little shell pasta. Cooked it till it was soft, drained it and then added it to the tomato sauce. Stirred everything and let it cook down for another 15 min or so. I adjusted the heat so the liquid cooked up enough to make it the right *look* (smile)...sorry that is how I cook.

This made enough for 2 servings.

But this was sooooooo good...tomorrow I will go back to the farmer's market for more tomatoes, LOL.
For great program-friendly recipes, check out our Cookbook in the store and visit our online Radiant Recipes site.


**Radiant Your Last Diet**

Would you like a joyful way to lose weight? Then come and join us! I don’t think I’ve seen those words in the same sentence anywhere else? Joyful weight loss...no stress, no deprivation, no cravings, no edginess or irritability...nada...just fun.

We are doing a lot of revision with the program right now, so things are in flux. Even that is fun.

If you would like to join us in YLD, come find us here


**Radiant Living**

Radiant Living gives you access to the cutting edge of recovery exploration. This is more than the food and brings you into the world of all the other things that can support a recovery way of life including emotional sobriety, finding passion in your life, disarming things that get in the way, program maturation and of course spirituality.

We explore the role of play in healing, how guided meditation works, when it is a good adjunct to your process and how to choose meditations. We look at topics such as grief, crisis, trauma, emotional healing, revitalizing your program and stepping into your big self.

The dialogue will meet you where you are and offer ideas that you may not have heard before.

Let go of old thinking that growing up has to be hard or painful. This is about joy, discovery, fun and creativity. And, of course, LOTS of laughter.

Your membership will give you what you need to master this new way of being. Your membership will include:
  • People who understand and mentor you
  • A dedicated list on Yahoo with Kathleen’s personal involvement
  • Access to a dedicated membership only chat held at 2 different times each week

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**Losing Weight With Radiance**

Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.

I have spent the weekend reading. After I read that article about the Biggest Losers gaining all the weight back, I wanted to see what people were writing about. So I started my detective work. One of our community members is a forensic scientist that looks at *cold cases.* What does the evidence say? How do we look at what we are seeing?

So I read the article about the Biggest Losers, and tucked in there is the *solution* that the researchers think will fix the obesity program - Bariatric surgery. Now, if you want to push my buttons, just say that...(smile) Bariatric surgery is mutilation to create starvation. Deny nutrients, override those gluttons' inability to control themselves, create a passive restraint system that will control their eating.

Now, I know that a number of you have had surgery and this is not meant as an attack on *you* in any way. It is an attack on the medical system who has totally failed people in providing solutions for weight loss. Nothing seems to work. I mean, even those highly motivated people who were given all that *support* for losing weight and they still gained it all back. What is left but enforced starvation.

When I watched the show, I felt ill. It was abusive, denigrating, hostile and brutal. I watched one episode where the woman was supposed to lose 90 pounds in 90 days and at the end of the time she had only lost 76 pounds. She was in tears. The trainer was yelling at her that she ate that extra avocado so it was HER fault that she had not complied with the program, she was a failure. So she crawled back home as a failure.

This is the weight loss culture we all live in. These are the messages we have absorbed and which flow around us all the time. And then you get here, and we won't even talk about weight right off the bat. We say eat breakfast, heal yourself. Let yourself calm down, get some skill, let your brain heal. We help you get steady, we help you learn again not to be afraid of food, to allow it to become your healer. We calm your fat terror, we call you to patience, we are the food whisperers being ever so steady, ever so kind while perhaps you learn to trust, that maybe, just maybe, the pain can quiet down enough so you can learn a new way.

Some of you come over to Your Last Diet where we do talk about weight loss. We talk about the myths you have been told about what being fat will do to you. We help you face the pain and shame you have held about how you look. We help you with making sense of all the conflicting suggestions about what and when and how to LOSE WEIGHT. Mostly we help you get steady enough to learn things.

You learn about insulin resistance, and exercise for weight loss (which is NOT what they did on the TV shows), you learn about exercise to train your liver not to dump sugar into your blood. You learn about veggies and browns for weight loss and fats for weight loss. We teach you how to factor in the hormone things...what menopause is doing, how your body is changing, what it means to be sugar sensitive and how this relates to your metabolism (actually that one is coming this Fall, LOL).

Then when you are steady on step 7, and you feel skilled and relaxed, we teach you how to make shifts, and what kind of incremental change to make so you don't scare yourself or deplete your serotonin and get weird. And you get to design a plan for yourself that is skilled, fun, informed, personal and effective.

And I know that some of you may wonder why is it that if Kathleen knows all this stuff, why isn't she a size, um, what, an 8 perhaps, LOLOL. Well, first of all, Kathleen has NO aspirations for that at all. Nada, zip, none. But it is fair enough to ask where is your *role model* for the cover of the book, LOL. The truth of it is that Kathleen has been so passionate about finding answers for you, she spends way too much time in front of the computer instead of the gym. Kathleen's passion is not about having a different body to comfort you, it is about making sense of this so if you want to you can know what to do.

It has taken a long time to get here with this. When I wrote YLD, I knew maybe one-tenth of what I know now. I knew the core of it. And now I have the lived experience of it, and the relentless, probing detective sleuthing added into the listening to your experience. And all the other stuff has been washing through...Atkins, low fat, low carb, no carb, Paleo, and you all have been trying them as we go. Some of you have found your way and feel great. You have lost weight, you are steady relaxed and rocking. And some of you have lost weight and look terrible and are cranky and trying to act like everything is wonderful. And some of you feel fabulous beyond your wildest imagination and haven't lost weight yet.

Here is what I want for all of us: fabulous beyond wildest dreams + weight that suits your radiant, healthy self. No deprivation, no cravings, no restriction, wonderful dreams, steady thinking, and creativity streaming, muscle tone, strength, energy and joy. Now, fact is, I KNOW I can deliver on that promise. LOL, we are working out the logistics of just how to do that over in YLD.

Hope this all makes sense.


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