March 19, 2017

Hi {!firstname_fix}, 

Well yesterday was a historic first. That is the first time in 13.5 years, having published 697 newsletters that I plumb forgot to do one. I feel really badly and want to apologize. It was not a senior moment. I thought I would be brave and simply tell you what actually happened. It got quite hot in Albuquerque all of a sudden. Saturday went up to 86 F and so I called my guy to come and get the coolers set for summer. This is a pretty extensive task which, while not complex, does require some planning and coordination. I am the go get the stuff person - the little metal pieces that go in the tubing to attach it to pump and the splitters, the aspen pads in the right size, and such. I am the person that stands below the cooler when we test it to make sure the pump is pumping water and the fan is blowing it down. I like cooler day because I have done it every year since I have owned this house. I love that something so simple can be so efficient. I love that we can have cool rooms when it is hot. I do get sort of enchanted with the process.

We finished about 6 PM.  I stopped and made dinner. I fed all the dogs. And then I sat down to watch a bit of TV. My daughter had told me about a TV series she is enjoying called *This is Us* so I played with on demand and found it and went all the way back to episode #1 which was fabulous so of course I had to watch episode #2. I did have enough sense to stop. I was really tired, and my bed was calling. I had changed the sheets so everything smelled clean and fresh. It wasn't that I even thought of the newsletter, I didn't. I just went to bed.

This morning, a dear friend emailed me. *Are you ok? No newsletter.* . I was shocked. But there you have it. I calculated my error rate at .1% which was 1 out of 697. I actually had to google that bit of math, LOL. But it made me feel better.  Anyway, that's my story.

Radiant Radiant Ranch is coming. We hold our USA program in May. A number of the old timers have told me they are so excited to come, they are planning to come early and stay late.  We will start off with introductory material for our beginners who come to learn about the early steps. You can learn theory and practice and get incredibly useful skills to do the program anytime, anywhere.   I had planned to then cover the  joy of being sugar sensitive. We will do that, but I am also working on my new book and want to make a point of giving you some of the key concepts.

If you haven't been to Ranch before this is a great time to come. There is an energy bubbling in those of us who are doing the steps, doing the food in these times, knowing how stability supports us and keeps us optimistic.

Check out the Ranch page and see if it might suit you this year. Make a point of googling New Mexico as well. It is pretty spectacular.

A special heads up to those of you who are thinking about Euroranch in the Fall.  This year we are offering the early bird special for registrations before 4.15, 
 
Upcoming Classes
This option is ongoing. You may join at any time.

Coaching for Weight Loss

This is a new offering for people who are serious about losing weight and would like to have ongoing coaching. We do an individual assessment to sort out exactly where you are in the process. You will be guided in making your own individual plan. You can learn about journaling and adjusting your food for weight loss - what to do when. You can look at things to do to start while you are actually working the steps. This is not Boot Camp. You will be given tools and shown how to use them. The coaching is done online in a group using Yahoo and Google. Please note that the preparation for weight loss includes mastery of the steps, so if you decide to do this process and have not yet started with the steps, we will do that first. If you are well versed in them and are ready to proceed, we have a special section to accommodate your skill level.

I do want to clarify that coaching is not the same as the classes. It is more responsive to you and where you are in the program. If you want help and are ready to be be guided, this is the process for you.

The fee is $20 per week and is billed in 2 week intervals. It is an unusual opportunity to work directly with Kathleen to be liberated from your past diet history. The signup is under the *special* tab on the classes page.


This class will begin March 22, 2017

Using the Resources of the Community

This class will teach you all the ins and outs of the resources in the community. You will learn to navigate the community forum, learn how to use the resource center, check out Radiant Ranch, and learn your way around the website. You will be on your way with an invaluable resource in your pocket!  This class is a free class but you do need to sign up for it.


This class will begin March 29, 2017

Magical Introversion

A special class which has grown out of your teachings. You sat with me and talked about what life is like for you. I have taken that material, added the brain component, and put together the implications for sugar sensitives. Everyone LOVES this class and tells me it really helped them.  And I want to do an update. I know that I have been changing. I want to share about that process and see if it a developmental thing or just a personal one. I would love for you to be part of the exploration.
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Exercise is a crucial part of healing your sugar-sensitive body. Make time for it
 

Testimonial of the Week


For example, my 6 1/2 year old's soccer game traditionally ends with different parents bringing snacks and drink. Even though 5 games ago coach said it would probably be best to bring some kind of chips and juice only... there have been candy bars, lollipops and the worst kinds of drinks I have ever seen, like those horrible sports drinks made with splenda and also the colored bug juice in those barrel shaped bottles. 

Every game, I tell Yuval, "It is your choice - I have an extra drink in the car for you and you can have a different snack at home." He gets very emotional and says it is his special day and he wants to eat the sweet snack because he never gets anything at home, ate a lot of protein at lunch, promises to behave, will have a shake after, a million good reasons. Agreed he would give up the drink if the snack has sugar too. Last game was Doritos and I let him drink 1/3 of the bottle of sugary drink because I didn't want him to cry and he said the chips are not sweet. We ignored the lollipops.

There are only 3 more games this season, but this situation is bound to repeat itself. If it wasn't for the experiences of your families, I would be sure this could only get worse.

Sarit

Sarit - Here's what I have done. Just simply stated - we don't drink that and handed my child a fresh water bottle. They don't complain... ever, about the drinking water. If Yuval doesn't like water, add a bit of juice to it. Then little by little cut back on the juice.

Or I sometimes make herbal iced tea, combination of red zinger, yellow zinger and some (not much) apple juice.

In the case of the food - I let the chips go, thank the parent any way for the candy and when it's my turn to bring a snack I bring something really spectacular and watch the kids devour it! I've been known to bring fresh strawberries, fruit kabobs, blue chips, cheese and crackers artfully displayed, for all. And I always bring iced water bottles.

My children get that the foods with chemical sweeteners are really awful for their brains. They have practically given my family members, including their grandparents, aunts and uncles, dissertations on what the chemicals do to their brains!

Show Yuval the pictures of the spider webs in LSA. I bet he will get it.

Of course, we parents always have to choose our battles - those are the ones I've chosen. They seem to be ingrained now. I wouldn't do it any different if I had to do it over again.

Gail

 
Radiant Recovery Store
We have a number of new people just starting out. I always enjoy talking to new people on the phone. They asked me what is the best information to help  know what to do. I always suggest getting the Complete Course CDs. Not only do these recordings include a great discussion of the steps, but they talk about *What Else is Embedded in the Steps.* You can hear Kathleen discuss what is under the food part, the process changes that help you heal your addictive brain. 

Don't forget about our Prime membership service. If you glossed over it, come see what you are missing.

Please send questions and suggestions. I love hearing from you and truly want to help you do your program better. 

David DesMaisons, Store Manager
 
Radiant Kitchen

STUFFED CHICKEN BREASTS


  • 1/2 lb. fresh mushrooms
  • 1/2 lb. fresh spinach
  • T. olive oil
  • 1/2 c. chopped onion
  • 2 cloves garlic, crushed
  • 1/2 tsp. crushed oregano leaves
  • pinch of black pepper
  • 1 tsp. salt (optional)
  • 4 boneless, skinless chicken breasts
  • 1/4 cup chicken broth
Rinse, pat dry and chop mushrooms. Set aside. Wash spinach. Place in a saucepan. Cook covered, only with the water clinging to the leaves until barely wilted. Drain well, squeezing out excess water. Chop (should make about 1/2 cup). Set aside. In a large skillet, heat 2 T. of the oil until hot. Add onions and mushrooms. Saute until tender, about 4 minutes. Add garlic, oregano, pepper, salt and spinach. Cook and stir well for 1 minute. Set aside to cool.

Meanwhile, flatten each chicken breast by placing them between 2 sheets of wax paper or plastic wrap and pounding them with a mallet until about 1/4 inch thick. Spoon 1/4 of the mushroom/spinach mixture onto the center of each chicken breast. Roll lengthwise. Secure with toothpicks.

Place rolled chicken breasts into a 9 inch square pan. Combine chicken broth with remaining 2 T. of olive oil. Spoon over chicken. Bake uncovered, basting frequently, until chicken is tender, about 15 - 20 minutes. Sprinkle with chopped parsley before serving (optional).

Note: You can make the mushroom/spinach mixture the night before and refrigerate it. Let it come to room temperature before using. Then just start with pounding the chicken and filling, rolling and baking.
 
Radiant YLD

I have had a number of emails this week asking me about losing weight. Must be Spring! What book to read? Go off of sugar? How to start?

The very best thing is to join YLD and come to chats. We will give you context and guidance about how the steps prepare you for weight loss, what things to do to get your body ready, and then what actions to take. It is all pretty straight forward.

Ignore that old idea of weight as a function of calories, exercise and willpower. That won’t work for you. You have already tried it and you know you need something more. You are a diet expert. It is time to convert those skills into a plan that heals.

This membership gives you everything you need to succeed at weight loss. There is NO failure in this program. There is no pressure, no stress, no yelling in your face. We think of this as a program for The Biggest Winner!

Your program will include:

  • People who understand and mentor you
  • A dedicated email list that includes Kathleen’s direct participation
  • Access to a private weight loss chat held at two different times each week
  • Access to classes specific to weight loss

If you would like to join us in YLD, come find us here .  We are also making a big change in our fee structure for the program. When we originally started it, we had a LIFETIME membership. A couple of years ago we shifted to an annual membership and I just was never happy with it. So we are going back to lifetime.  Any of you who go the annual, will be upgraded to lifetime. I will be sending you an email shortly.  Thank the Radiant LIfers for this insight!

 
Radiant Living
This week in chat we were talking about what it is that makes us come back to Living Chat?  We decided it was the joy factor.  We decided that was the essence. This little picture of Oliver is my joy these days.  If you have a photo you would like to share, send it on over.

We talked about what the joy factor meant. Karen said: * I want to share one of my most precious chat moments. We did a Christmas Day chat one year because a few of us asked. On that day lots of us were alone. It was like a real family get together. I have never had that with whatsapp. And it sums up why I love chat.* . I think she captured it.   This sharing, the talking about how joy is growing in our lives. 

Helen said;* Yes, and I've had a horrible weekend, and here I am with people who get me, being given the opportunity to think creatively and joyfully* . She said we have the most amazing joyful chats and maybe we can publish excerpts in the newsletter.  I liked the idea a lot.

Out of that discussion came the discussion of going back to LIFETIME memberships.  It was a pretty sincere and deep discussion. I think we all agreed that somehow the idea of it is most congruent for the program. So we had a group consensus to change things back. I will email everyone about their upgrade.  It may take us a few days to catch up administratively with our collective enthusiasm but David and our tech folks will do it.
See what happens when you come to chat!  You literally shape the future of joy.
 
If you would like to join us in Radiant Living, come find us here.
 
The Tools of Your Journey

Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.


Let's spend a little time talking about the valuable tools of your journey - your journal and the lists of your process.

Use that Journal

The value of your journal comes in using it. When you really understand that your journal is the way your body talks with you, everything changes.

If you only see your journal as a 'log' to record how well (or how poorly) you are doing, it will get really old fast. If you work with your journal as a living dialogue with your body, it will truly be a joy. You will want to write in it.

Even more important, you will want to read it and use it to understand what your body needs. You may feel that the steps I have outlined are too simple. You may drift towards counting calories, towards recording grams. You may focus on tracking every little detail, but forget the relationship part.

Remember Relationship

Your body wants to be in relationship with you. It will show you the way by how you feel. If you are feeling better, things are working. If you aren’t, then you simply need to adjust your process and your food.

But you can't know the adjustments without your journal. If you came to my office for a private session, I would ask you to bring your journal. Here are the things we would look at together:

  • How are you feeling when you wake up? Are you energized? Excited about the day?
  • Do you have a hard time shifting gears into being awake?
  • Do you want to eat breakfast? Are you hungry?
A healthy, rested body wants to get up after sleeping. Even a 'night person' will want to get up - albeit more slowly and in increments. When your body is balanced, it lives in a quality of being pleased to have another day. If getting up is really hard for you, simply make a note of this. It will change as the food changes.

  • Are you having breakfast with protein every morning? Is this enjoyable?
  • Have you developed a routine that you like? Is it easy and pleasant?
  • Has breakfast become automatic and simply a part of your morning without a big hassle?
I sit on my porch in the morning and eat breakfast with the birds. Together we watch the light break over the top of the mountain. It is a quiet time that anchors my day. My journal taught me how important this time is. If I skip it and 'get to work' my day is not the same. I am far more scattered and rushed all day. It’s these tiny little details that create change.

  • Are you having three meals with protein and your very complex carbs?
  • Are you eating enough? Are you eating too much?
  • Are you enjoying what you are eating?
Your Journal Will Lead you

I was recently working with someone who is a little person. She weighs 118 and wants to weigh 110 (Stay with me. I know at first glance you may think you should have such problems — but the story is the same for all of us!). She is sugar sensitive and is doing YLD.

She started having 3 cups of veggies at each meal. She felt she didn’t lose weight quickly enough (a clue — she is still in the numbers game ;-) ), so she added another cup of veggies.

Her body is very smart. It said, 'I don’t think so!' She stopped losing weight and started feeling de-energized and off kilter. I blessed her body. It is so smart. It was talking to her! Her body wanted her to listen.

She needed to do her food in a way that suited her body. We sorted it out. Less was better. And the plan started working again.

  • Are you getting the vitamins every day?
  • Are you having that evening carb? Yep, Mr. Spud is important.
  • .What are you doing with caffeine? What about aspartame?
Sometimes, people forget the vitamin part. But the vitamins are directly tied in to the processes that convert tryptophan into serotonin. Skip the vitamins and you are working with only part of the equation.

Yes, Yes, the potato is important

And, I know you know that the potato is important. Or you may not. I am still getting mail from people who ask me, 'Are you sure you really want me to eat this?' 'It’s high glycemic!' 'Sugar Busters says that potatoes are BAD!' 'But, you aren’t supposed to eat before sleeping!' 'It’s more calories. I am going to gain weight!'

Remember, we are changing your basic thinking about losing weight. We are up against years and years of conditioning here. Read the newsletter. Check on the forum. Talk about it with others doing the program. It’s important. Have your potato.

Redefining the Focus

I am sure you are connecting with my reasoning. You notice, at no time have I said, 'So how much do you weigh today?' If you are still focused on the scale, you aren’t focused on the relationship to your body. You will lose weight, I promise. But what I want most is for you to know, and most of all to love, your body.

I want you to come to love that body — even while it is still fat, even when it is wrinkly and saggy (my apologies to you who are younger ;-) ), even when it is still learning about exercise. This body has served you diligently.

Through all those years of abuse, being forgotten, living in shame, being hidden, your body has waited and wanted to talk with you. And I guarantee, if you come home to it, it will respond with a degree of cooperation which will shock you.

Your body loves you. Even if you haven’t loved it — it adores you and wants to serve you. Spend time, listen to it. The journal is your body’s voice. Literally, think of that when you write in your journal. Think of that when you read your journal. Your body’s voice. Relationship! Finally.

If You Listen, Your Body Will Speak. 


 
 
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