March 26, 2017

Hi {!firstname_fix}, 

Today is my mother's birthday. She would have been 105. She died the year I got my PhD.  She bought the gown I wore for the graduation and it hangs in my closet and every time I look at it I think of her. I thought she would have loved how my life has unfolded.

Today was one of those exquisite Spring days. The sky was deep blue, there were little puff clouds scattered about and the lilacs are all in bloom so the air smelled of lilac.

I went to breakfast with a friend. We met at Java Joe's which is the cafe blown up in Breaking Bad. The have music and fun art on the walls and great food. Great food and lovely company is a nice way to start Sunday morning.  Then I got the paper and sat and read it.  Then I went home and my worker guy came over to work on my truck - the infamous 53 Chevy. He cleaned it and tuned it and buffed and rubbed it. I did the same for my "97 4 Runner. Both ended up looking great. I am getting ready to sell the Chevy and it was purring so I took a video of it so I can post the sound of the engine in my ad. I was quite proud of myself that I thought to do this.

Later in the afternoon, they guy who has been crafting the completion of my well, pump and water came over for what we expected to be the final installment of its preparation. He fitted pipes and soldered them. Copper is quite amazing to work with, not like gluing PVC, this is REAL, serious pipe work. We had done the *in* pipe for priming last Fall. Today was about getting the *out* pipe set to deliver the well water for the garden. Joint by joint and fitting by fitting. I watched, he worked. Then the test. Everything held but the fitting to the intake pipe. That had a huge leak - it was PVC and had not done well in the winter. He got a face full of water. We laughed. He will come back tomorrow with a brass fitting. Hopefully, next week, I will report on water flowing for the lilacs.

The day ended with a shared dinner. I have a young friend who loves to cook. We have decided to share Sunday dinners and trade off. It is a nice treat for both of us. A good way for surrogate mothers and daughters to spend time together. 

Radiant Radiant Ranch is coming. We hold our USA program in May. A number of the old timers have told me they are so excited to come, they are planning to come early and stay late.  We will start off with introductory material for our beginners who come to learn about the early steps. You can learn theory and practice and get incredibly useful skills to do the program anytime, anywhere.   I had planned to then cover the joy of being sugar sensitive. We will do that, but I am also working on my new book and want to make a point of giving you some of the key concepts.

If you haven't been to Ranch before this is a great time to come. There is an energy bubbling in those of us who are doing the steps, doing the food in these times, knowing how stability supports us and keeps us optimistic.  We have a number of new people coming as well. It will be a nice sharing.

Check out the Ranch page and see if it might suit you this year. Make a point of googling New Mexico as well. It is pretty spectacular.

A special heads up to those of you who are thinking about Euroranch in the Fall.  This year we are offering the early bird special for registrations before April 15th.  
Upcoming Classes
This option is ongoing. You may join at any time.

Coaching for Weight Loss

This is a new offering for people who are serious about losing weight and would like to have ongoing coaching. We do an individual assessment to sort out exactly where you are in the process. You will be guided in making your own individual plan. You can learn about journaling and adjusting your food for weight loss - what to do when. You can look at things to do to start while you are actually working the steps. This is not Boot Camp. You will be given tools and shown how to use them. The coaching is done online in a group using Yahoo and Google. Please note that the preparation for weight loss includes mastery of the steps, so if you decide to do this process and have not yet started with the steps, we will do that first. If you are well versed in them and are ready to proceed, we have a special section to accommodate your skill level.

I do want to clarify that coaching is not the same as the classes. It is more responsive to you and where you are in the program. If you want help and are ready to be be guided, this is the process for you.

The fee is $20 per week and is billed in 2 week intervals. It is an unusual opportunity to work directly with Kathleen to be liberated from your past diet history. The signup is under the *special* tab on the classes page.

This class will begin March 29, 2017

Magical Introversion

A special class which has grown out of your teachings. You sat with me and talked about what life is like for you. I have taken that material, added the brain component, and put together the implications for sugar sensitives. Everyone LOVES this class and tells me it really helped them.  And I want to do an update. I know that I have been changing. I want to share about that process and see if it a developmental thing or just a personal one. I would love for you to be part of the exploration.

This class will begin April 5, 2017


Learn all about the *just say no* chemical. Learn how depression may be affected by your diet. Learn how to manipulate serotonin levels safely and with tenderness. A real hands=on lesson in feeling better.

The wonderful thing is that you do not have to work on all those behavior things individually. You do not have to master your blood sugar and your serotonin and your beta-endorphin, you just "do the food." When you do the food, your body and your process take care of the rest.

Testimonial of the Week

For years every time I started a new diet I announced it to everyone. Maybe I thought that would help me to stay on the straight and narrow. What I did was kind of give everyone permission to remark on what I was eating.


Fast forward to when I began to follow the steps. First I read PNP and it made a lot of sense. Right away I started a journal which I kept hidden from everyone. Although the order of the steps changed, it may have been best for me to do the journal first. All those yellow marks for all the sugar I ate made a huge impression.


I followed the steps and made slow and steady progress. I never said a word to my DP or anyone that I was working the steps. When I wobbled I got right back up and started again. I didn't punish myself when I wasn't perfect. That was huge because I was always doing that if I wasn't perfect on my new diet. I stuck to what Kathleen wrote about one food choice at a time. If I made a poor choice, I just tried a little harder the next time. If I ate the wrong things on Sat. I didn't trash the plan. At the next meal I did my best to eat enough protein, browns and vegetables. I didn't fall for that old trap of "I might as well start over on Monday."


After a couple of months I started to watch my anniversaries. Funny, but now that I wrote that, my five year anniversary is the week of St. Patrick's Day. My family gets together to watch the parade on St. Patrick's Day. I cook corned beef, cabbage and potatoes. I was seven months into the program and still playing with a little sugar after my meals. When I say a little, that is one tablespoon or less of ice cream after my meal. It didn't even taste good any longer.


After dinner at my son's I ate some home made carrot cake. After all I was allowed because I hadn't done a sugar detox LOL! It gave me a terrible migraine headache for about three or four days. Since I had no sugar for those four days I figured the Universe was helping me to do the sugar detox.


One of the main reasons that I was able to stick with the steps was because I could go at my own pace. Once I started having breakfast consistently I began to feel so full of energy, happy and focused. Only than did I have the courage to go on to the next step. It was very important and helpful for me to experience the healing of my biochemistry. It sure beats going cold turkey!


Radiant Recovery Store
Don't forget that you can have an automatic order set up for you. I am being really creative with some of our members. I put together a shipment of shake, pycnogenol, cod liver oil, and wild rice and send it out each month. On the third month, I send a journal and 2 of those little add on journals to write all about your feelings about spring. Just email me at or call me at 505-345-3737 and let me know your heart's desire. 

Please send questions and suggestions. I love hearing from you and truly want to help you do your program better. 

David DesMaisons, Store Manager

Radiant Kitchen

Banana Coconut Pudding

  • 3 cups oat milk (or regular milk or other milk substitute)
  • 3/4 cup millet
  • 1 tsp. salt
  • 1 cup shredded unsweetened coconut
  • 1 ripe banana, pureed in food processor or blender
  • 1 tsp. alcohol-free vanilla extract
Bring oat milk to a boil, add millet and salt and cover. Simmer on low for 40 minutes. Turn off heat and leave sitting for 30 minutes. Add the coconut, banana and vanilla, stirring well. Pour into 6 custard cups and serve hot or warm.

By Naomi Muller, Step 7, author of Nutritious and Delicious Cookbook.
Radiant YLD

I am repeating last week's content because I like it so much.

I have had a number of emails this week asking me about losing weight. Must be Spring! What book to read? Go off of sugar? How to start?

The very best thing is to join YLD and come to chats. We will give you context and guidance about how the steps prepare you for weight loss, what things to do to get your body ready, and then what actions to take. It is all pretty straight forward.

Ignore that old idea of weight as a function of calories, exercise and willpower. That won’t work for you. You have already tried it and you know you need something more. You are a diet expert. It is time to convert those skills into a plan that heals.

This membership gives you everything you need to succeed at weight loss. There is NO failure in this program. There is no pressure, no stress, no yelling in your face. We think of this as a program for The Biggest Winner!

Your program will include:

  • People who understand and mentor you
  • A dedicated email list that includes Kathleen’s direct participation
  • Access to a private weight loss chat held at two different times each week
  • Access to classes specific to weight loss

If you would like to join us in YLD, come find us here .  We are also making a big change in our fee structure for the program. When we originally started it, we had a LIFETIME membership. A couple of years ago we shifted to an annual membership and I just was never happy with it. So we are going back to lifetime.  Any of you who go the annual, will be upgraded to lifetime. I will be sending you an email shortly.  Thank the Radiant LIfers for this insight!

Radiant Living
I am repeating last week's content because I like it so much. This week in chat we were talking about what it is that makes us come back to Living Chat?  We decided it was the joy factor.  We decided that was the essence. This little picture of Oliver is my joy these days.  If you have a photo you would like to share, send it on over.

We talked about what the joy factor meant. Karen said: * I want to share one of my most precious chat moments. We did a Christmas Day chat one year because a few of us asked. On that day lots of us were alone. It was like a real family get together. I have never had that with whatsapp. And it sums up why I love chat.* . I think she captured it.   This sharing, the talking about how joy is growing in our lives. 

Helen said;* Yes, and I've had a horrible weekend, and here I am with people who get me, being given the opportunity to think creatively and joyfully* . She said we have the most amazing joyful chats and maybe we can publish excerpts in the newsletter.  I liked the idea a lot.

Out of that discussion came the discussion of going back to LIFETIME memberships.  It was a pretty sincere and deep discussion. I think we all agreed that somehow the idea of it is most congruent for the program. So we had a group consensus to change things back. I will email everyone about their upgrade.  It may take us a few days to catch up administratively with our collective enthusiasm but David and our tech folks will do it.
See what happens when you come to chat!  You literally shape the future of joy.
If you would like to join us in Radiant Living, come find us here.
More onThe Tools of Your Journey

Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.

Last week I wrote about journaling.  I have been thinking about journaling again all week. I wrote this post to someone on the Your Last Diet list. I liked what I wrote and thought I would share it with you here.

I think people tend to not connect to the fact that step 2 is actually the most complex and the simplest step…. First you learn the skill of doing in.
This takes a while. You have to learn how to judge amounts correctly. You have to pay attention to time. You have to decide if you are willing to carry a journal around, or if you are willing to find a way to record and transfer. You have to be willing to actually see what you are eating and drinking during the day.

All this is before you ever add in the feelings part.  And then the feelings…you have to notice. You have to develop a language for what you feel. You learn subtlety and nuance. You notice times differently, not just when you eat.  So learning to collect the data is a way bigger process then you might think.

Now you start with *connections*….this is very, very multileveled - just like playing an instrument.  You notice that if lunch isn’t until 1:30 you get cranky.  You notice that if you have breakfast you feel better.
As you get skilled you might be able to discern the difference between 1/2 a cup of oatmeal and 1/3 cup of oatmeal.  Somebody might comment about a *day four*, and you have a crisis one day and you think to mark your journal 4 days out and you NOTICE you feel like you have the flu on that day and you make a connection.

You learn to notice the difference between how you feel with chicken as your protein vs. cheese as your protein. You start to put in veggies and you feel different.  No connection yet, but then one day BOOM, you get that on the days you have veggies, you feel different. You notice the different with different kinds of breads or grains. You might try no grain, or even no brown because it is all the rage and you feel soooooo good, like you can take on the world.  And then you might not feel so good. And you start thinking about *best browns*

Now, does all that happen on the step 2 list?  Hardly, LOL. Mostly it is people who are just learning to record.

And then what happens is that people think they are good, they know how to journal…or maybe really, that journaling is not all that important so they kinda let it slide.

Now, they place where the most action takes place is in the coaching groups, because we are USING the journals and everyone gets to see and hear and read and learn the subtlety of it all. Can you learn that on your own> Yes and no. It is kinda like learning to play the piano on your own. Depends on whether you are a musical person, whether you have been around music forever. Best is having a skilled teacher.  Funny, but personally I think that coaching group is the most exciting thing we have every done. It costs less than a small latte a day, LOL…it is not sexy, it doesn’t move fast, but it is like one of those cold press Japanese coffee makers, drip, drip, drip…until something happens and there is the indescribably tasting coffee.  No, I don’t have one. But I did stand and watch it for 20 min. Drip by Drip.

So here is another thought.  We have this *ask Kathleen* option where you pay $25 and get  specific feedback on a question. Or you pay $20 and you get a whole week of coaching. You can ask as many questions as you want. You put your journal up and I show you how to see it, to make connections, and.. you even get to listen as I do that with everyone.   I hadn’t ever really thought about it that way.  Would love to have you, LOL. I know you are way more skilled than you know.


If You Listen, Your Body Will Speak. 

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