June 18, 2017

Hi {!firstname_fix}, 

I got a letter this past week telling that she thought the newsletter was boring and repetitive. Yes, I do get emails like this from time to time <smile>...I asked her specifically what she thought was repetitive and she told me that we had had the same testimonial for a number of weeks. Well, that seemed really weird to me because I KNEW I was changing it each week. I went back and checked the last five newsletters and sure enough, they were the same.  I called the vendor that handles our newsletter and they too were perplexed and horrified. It seems there was a glitch in the software. I have been told they are working on it.  I will do some testing before I send this out and I am confident you will see a new testimonial.

The writer of the letter wrote again to apologize and said she had been in a cranky mood because her food was wobbly. She said she actually loves it and looks forward to it each week.

We do have a mixed report on whether you like mice, dogs and peacocks or whether you think they are *off topic* for those who are hungry for help in learning how to do the program. I think that input is fair enough, and I am working on some ideas to keep you all happy.  See what you think. I know you will let me know, LOL.

We have been having some intriguing conversations in the Insulin Resistance class and I will share one of those topics in the YLD (our weight loss program) section this week.

We are planning to get our revised recipe section up this week, so look for that.

And I am not sure that anyone noticed, but our whole system was down for a bit last week.  That was a scary few hours and took some pretty skilled engineering to get things settled. Made me appreciate how smoothly it runs.

Read the coaching section please so you are updated on how it is evolving.

Our Classes
This option is ongoing. You may join at any time.

Radiant Coaching 

This is for people who are serious about their programs and would like to have ongoing coaching. We do an individual assessment to sort out exactly where you are in the process. You will be guided in making your own individual plan. You can learn about journaling and adjusting your food for your life goals - what to do when. You can look at things to do to start while you are actually working the steps. You will be given tools and shown how to use them.

The coaching is done online in a group using Yahoo and Google. We currently have two levels for coaching - one for people who are newer in the program which focuses on the earlier steps, and one for people who are skilled in the program and want to take things deeper.

I do want to clarify that coaching is not the same as the classes. It is more responsive to you and where you are in the program. If you want help and are ready to be be guided, this is the process for you.The benefits you get include learning how to do skilled journaling and to interpret it to really understand how the changes you are making affect your well being.

The fee is $20 per week and is billed in 2 week intervals. It is an unusual opportunity to work directly with me to be liberated from your past diet history. The signup is under the *special* tab on the classes page.  If you want to join, please email me first so we can touch base about whether this is right for you.

Starting  June 21 -

Learn all about the “just say no” chemical. Learn how your depression may be affected by your diet. Learn how to manipulate serotonin levels safely and with tenderness. A real hands-on lesson in feeling better.  This is a great introduction to brain chemistry for those who are just starting to do the program.

Starting June 28

Using the Resources of the Community

This FREE class will teach you all the ins and outs of the resources in the community. You will learn to navigate the community forum, learn how to use the resource center, check out Radiant Ranch, and learn your way around the website. You will be on your way with an invaluable resource in your pocket!

Imagine a life of being healed rather than swirling. Breakfast starts it. The steps will create it.

Testimonial of the Week
Yesterday, I took my girls to the mall. They just HAD to spend their birthday gift cards. So they wanted to eat there too and we went to the food court. There was no questioning about where they could eat or what they could eat. There was no whining about what they can't have. They just calmly discussed their options and settled on the Mexican place. They each had the chicken taco salad with black beans and water bottles. Even little Grace knew what to have and what was good for her to eat, no fighting, no whining, just calm discussion and making positive choices. I just was so amazed! I had to write you all and tell you about it. We sat and had a nice lunch and then continued shopping. It was a great day. I sure hope what I'm teaching my girls now will stick with them when they go out on their own. My oldest daughter is a senior in high school and goes off to college next year, I sure hope she takes this with her.

Radiant Recovery Store
I have the cookbook and it is tattered and dog eared from so much use. There are many great recipes in it that have become part of my standards (Kathleen's lasagna has never been matched, in my opinion), and it is also a very good little reference book. There are also spaces where I have written a few of my own in. The recipe for Kathleen's baking mix is in the book, and I use that too, it is quick and easy. - Verla

I love getting these emails...yah the Cookbook is awesome. Even Madison is using it now. And Kathleen's baking mix is way better than Bisquick!! Get a cookbook if you don't have one yet. You won't be sorry.

Please send questions and suggestions. I love hearing from you and truly want to help you do your program better. 
Radiant Kitchen

Cabbage, Apple & Cheddar Slaw 

Dressing Ingredients:
  • 1/4 cup balsamic vinegar 
  • 2 tablespoons light sesame oil 
  • 2 teaspoons Dijon mustard 
  • 1 teaspoon soy sauce 
  • 1/2 teaspoon cinnamon 
  • 2 tablespoons olive oil 
  • Salt, preferably sea or kosher, to taste 
  • Freshly ground black pepper to taste 
Salad Ingredients:
  • 1 medium cabbage, cored and thinly sliced (about 8 cups) 
  • 3 apples (any variety), cored and cut into matchsticks 
  • 3 medium carrots, peeled and coarsely grated (about 2-1/2 cups) 
  • 2 celery stalks, cut into matchsticks 
  • 1 cup grated Extra Sharp Cheddar 
  • 1/2 cup chopped toasted walnuts 
  1. In a blender, combine vinegar, sesame oil, mustard, soy sauce and cinnamon; blend until smooth. 
  2. While blender is running, slowly add olive oil. 
  3. Season with salt and pepper. Set aside. 
  4. In a large bowl, combine all salad ingredients. 
  5. Add enough dressing to coat salad well and toss together until well combined. 
  6. Cover and refrigerate until serving time. 
  7. Serve and enjoy! 
Recipe yields about 8 to 10 servings
(adapted to be program friendly, original recipe from the Cabot Cheese newsletter)

For great program-friendly recipes, check out our Cookbook in the store

Radiant YLD
Reading through all of the information on the YLD page is what convinced me to join YLD. I read everything and then bought all of the books. I am an avid reader and I just couldn't soak up enough information. I felt like I had finally discovered the answer that I had been searching for. The site is easy to follow and contains a wealth of information. It's a great refresher site when I feel like my steps are getting a little "mushy". It's awesome!


We are doing the Healing Insulin Resistance class right now and I posted about an article about how a high fat diet created an impairment in beta-cell function in the pancreas. Someone asked about it and I went back to the original article. We will be sharing about this in chat on Wed. It is an important thing for you to know about if you are being called to do a Low Carb, High Fat *diet*.  YLD is the place to be if you are trying to sort out all the conflicting messages in the media.

Your YLD program includes:

  • LIFETIME membership
  • Exclusive information on what contributed to your weight and what you can do about it.
  • Special classes on weight loss including The Obesity Myth, Fat Terror, Exercise for Weight loss, Clothing for your size and style. These will be at no extra charge
  • Ongoing, in-depth discussion about successful weight loss with searchable archives.
  • Weekly private weight loss chats held at two different times each week led by Kathleen herself. They are funny, informative and healing.
  • Access to a private facebook group (secret) to share joys, progress, pictures and questions.

If you would like to join us in YLD, come find us here.  

Radiant Living
Radiant Living is really about the joy of recovery. It is really amazing to me that we sometimes are just led into conversations that are so beyond anything we do in our regular lives. This makes it VERY hard to explain the magic, When we started it I had NO idea that what would come could be so supportive.

There is no step requirement to participate, only honesty, willingness, and openness.

Your membership will give you what you need to master this new way of being. Your membership will include:
  • People who understand and mentor you
  • A dedicated list on Yahoo with my own personal involvement
  • Access to a dedicated membership-only chat held at 2 different times each week 
If you would like to join us in Radiant Living, come find us here.


*Take Some Time With your Program*

Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.

The week's article is one of my favorites. I am updating it some for today. I think it is comforting. Think about where you are in your process. Have you been rigorous, detailed and persistent? Have you dallied, played or poked with the steps? Are you being attentive to how you feel? Are you taking extra care? Have you kept up with your journal? As you go through this process, notice how you criticize or judge yourself. Do you ascribe "good" to rigor and "bad" to dabbling? Listen to your inner judge carefully and discover if she or he is an ally or a saboteur.

Work with the inner voices. They are crucial to your long-term success. This process may not work the way you might expect. Sometimes diligence is less useful than dalliance. For many, many years you have demanded that you be self-disciplined. You have pushed yourself and felt guilty when you couldn't do what you demanded of yourself. Perhaps there is a different way of doing this work. Perhaps we can change your relationship to your body and your way of making change.

When I first started doing my own plan, I thought that "getting" the program meant doing it fully, being diligent, following the instructions and not "poking around." I still held the belief that being disciplined and focused were the only ways to go. Now, I am not so sure that these are the criteria for succeeding with the program.

Now, I am convinced that something else is operating, something a little more subtle and unexpected. I believe that showing up and being in relationship to your body will help you more than being tough on yourself. Let me outline how I got to thinking this way.

I used to lead a ten-week guided imagery series called Finding Healing From Within. Each week, we would do a guided meditation. After the meditation, the participants would draw what they experienced and the group would share their feelings. Sometimes a group member would sleep through every single meditation and "make up" a drawing because they had no memory of anything in the meditation. This made me really uncomfortable. Was I failing these people? Were they failing the group? Were they in denial? How could they sleep through my wonderful imagery?

At the end of ten weeks, we reviewed the progress of everyone in the group. How had they changed? How did they feel? Surprisingly, time and time again, the "sleepers" would have as remarkable a change as the "doers." Not once, not twice, but every single time. Ten weeks of sleeping through and they would report a profound sense of inner healing. They didn't "work it." They slept through the meditations on a conscious level. But they were there. They showed up and they drew the pictures and they talked about their process.

This experience taught me something. The act of showing up creates change. It creates powerful change even if on the outside it may not seem so. Making a commitment to healing starts a process - a chain of events that is much deeper than we may think. When you say, "I will get better," when you begin to hold the idea of "Whatever it takes," something starts to shift.

Given this, I looked again at the effect dalliance and diligence might have on the 7 steps of healing sugar sensitivity. I started looking at my own process of doing the steps. What was happening when I was playing around? Could those times be like the sleeping times in my guided imagery class? Could change be happening in spite of what seemed to be inattention? I looked in my journal. I discovered something astounding. When I was there attending to the steps, listening to my body, writing in my journal, even if I wasn't doing it perfectly, change was happening. I was making progress even when I was being kinda sloppy. 

Think of the sleepers. The sleepers were there in the room with the group. Every week. They woke up, colored with the group, and talked about sleeping. So when I showed up and kept the journal and wrote about sleeping through my food plan, I was still engaged with my body and working the steps. I was talking with myself about what was happening. I was not criticizing myself for food sleeping, I was simply watching. And I kept coming back to the journal. I kept coming back to my body and my healing.

The nature of the sugar-sensitive person is to give up when things get difficult. Like the C57 mice, you crouch in the corner and think you can't stick to your plan. Your biochemistry supports learned helplessness. You feel inadequate, overwhelmed and unable to follow through the way you hoped. A thousand failed diets from the past reinforced these feelings. As soon as you "sleep," you say "Yah, see you did it again!" So you run away from the program, run away from yourself.

This time it will be different, because knowing you are sugar sensitive lets you finally, finally understand the nature of who you are. Knowing you are sugar sensitive lets you shift the perspective from worrying about a thousand "failed" diets to being open to a solution. Think of that. You are tenacious. You keep going, you search and continue. You may be impulsive and impatient, but you can be and are committed to finding a solution. This program helps you use your tenacity in a new way. Because you now finally understand why other diets haven't worked, you can start to make choices. You can change the voices that say, "I know this won't really work" into "hmmmm, let's sort this out." "Why am I bored?" "Why don't I like the journal?" "Why do I sabotage my efforts?" These questions become a part of our healing. They are not the old tapes of inadequacy. They may be the same questions, but they are asked from a different perspective.

Say to yourself, "I will do whatever it takes to heal this. I will give it time, money, energy, whatever it takes. Taking care of my food will be at the TOP of my list. Not after my job, or after my family or maybe when I get to it. But every day." You have made these affirmations a thousand times. But generally you make them in your head. You "think" about your affirmations. But mostly you do not actually put the affirmations into practice. What would it mean, really mean to "do whatever it takes?"

If You Listen, Your Body Will Speak.
©2017 Kathleen DesMaisons. All rights reserved. You are free to use or transmit this article to your ezine or website as long as you leave the content unaltered, use this attribution: "By Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D. of Radiant Recovery®", and notify kathleen@radiantrecovery.com of the location. Please visit the Radiant Recovery® website at http://www.radiantrecovery.com for additional resources on sugar sensitivity and healing addiction. 

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