Aug 13, 2017

Hi, {!firstname_fix},


We have added a number of new Mentors so many of the lists have been waking up. It is wonderful to feel it. And not surprising there have been a whole group of people returning to the program after a detour of *researching*.  It is lovely to hear them settling in, remembering and getting those breakfasts settled.

I think it is a time of deepening and consolidating. I was happy to see that this week's The Sugar Film posted a great quote from someone you know. I put it up on the Radiant Recovery® feed at Facebook.


I had dinner at a friend's tonight. She was born and raised in New Mexico. She made beans and chili (it is the new harvest for NM green chili), calabacitas and cornbread. The whole meal was awesome. I asked her how to make the beans. I will try making them and I promise to post them when I do.  Gosh, I could even take pictures and put them up in our recipe section!
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Radiant Coaching

Coaching is individualized support. We are just started a new sequence for beginners so if you are beginning the program and would like to have individualized support from Kathleen in apprentice coaching, please come join us. The commitment is $20 @week for 2 week intervals. 

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This class will start on Aug 15 2017:

Radiant Step 2 Class

This class will teach you to learn how to choose the right journal, how to get motivated, what to include, how to know how you feel. You will confront shame and embarrassment, clear out old history and have fun in the process. This class is designed for those who are just getting started so you are not overwhelmed and can create a really fun tool for your recovery. This class is FREE and is taught right in the Step Two group.


This class will start on Aug 22 2017

The Obesity Myth

I LOVED this book and I think it should be required reading for anyone who is concerned about weight. Come join us in an in-depth look at the *myth* issues and the emotional residue we all have from them. Please get a copy of the book and have looked at it before the class starts. This book will change your life and the class will help you make sense of it. This class is for YLD members only and will be offered FREE right on the YLD list.

You don't have to do years of therapy to get results. You can start changing what you eat and see the effects very quickly.​​​

I love running in the rain, Pat. You're right -- it is refreshing.

As for BE raisers, some of my favorites are:

  • Reading a magazine
  • Interacting with my cat, Oscar (that is, when he's not in a mood to attack me -- that can be a BE spiker instead!)
  • Working crossword puzzles and cryptograms
  • Meeting up with friends to chat
  • Talking to or being with my mother
  • Planning anything (I love to plan, organize, make lists -- it's the action part I have trouble with sometimes)
  • Listening to music
  • Getting a massage
  • Playing my piano (something I don't do nearly enough)
  • Browsing in a store like Pier 1 or some other similar store
  • Browsing in a bookstore (just entering a bookstore is a BE raiser for me)​​​​​​​
  • Hearing about what my three nephews are doing 
  • Watching a TV show that really makes me laugh
  • Going to see a movie in the theater
  • Rainy days (I know, that's weird, but I've always loved rainy days more than sunny ones -- I definitely do not have SAD)
  • Seeing a rainbow (I saw one just the other day)
  • Stretching or yoga
  • Relaxing in my home when it's clean
  • Burning candles

Well, that's quite a few! Thanks for making me think about this. I just realized that I don't do many of these nearly enough, and most of them don't cost anything or cost very little.


Radiant Recovery Store​​​​​​​
Omega 3 fatty acids are really important for your health. They do many wonderful things. Here are just a few:
  • They make your brain work really well. This is especially important for children, people who are in recovery from substance abuse, sugar addiction and depression.
  • They reduce inflammation so improve:

  • Allergies like hay fever 
  • Food allergies 
  • Skin problems 
  • Irritable bowel disorder 
  • Coronary Heart Disease 
  • Asthma 
  • Rheumatoid arthritis 
  • Lupus
  • They protect against cancer and especially against cancer metastasis
  • They are critical for baby formation in pregnancy and nursing.

Omega 3 fatty acids come from cold water fish and flax oil. Learning how much to take is sort of an art. Finding your dose requires looking at a number of variables. These include:

  1. Your age. If you are a child under the age of 5, you need a lot of a particular kind of omega 3 called DHA to make your brain. If you are over 50, you need more omega 3 to keep your brain at its best.
  2. If you are pregnant or nursing you are making baby brain and need more.
  3. If you have a history of substance abuse, particularly alcoholism, you have been using a solvent that melts brain cells. You need omega 3 to help restore your brain.
  4. If you have any of the inflammatory diseases listed above, you will need a therapeutic dose for a few months. Those diseases are a clue that you are low in omega 3 fatty acids.
  5. If you have a family history of cancer or are recovering from cancer, you need more.
  6. Your weight affects the dose. In order to bathe your cells in fatty acids, the amount needs to be proportionate.
  7. The amount of other fats you eat. Omega 6 fatty acids (the ones that cause problems and inflammation) are found in saturated fats like meat, eggs, cheese and hydrogenated fats in margarine and processed foods like bread, crackers, and snack foods. The more white things you eat, the more you will need omega 3s to balance the other fats.
Radiant Kitchen​​​​​​​



  • 1 recipe rice pudding with apples, chilled
  • 1 lb. frozen blueberries
  • 1/4 cup unsweetened apple juice
  • 1 TBS. cornstarch or arrowroot dissolved in 2 TBS. apple juice or water
  • 8 oz. cream cheese (reduced fat or no fat ok)
  • 1-2 tsp. cinnamon, according to taste


  1. Combine blueberries, apple juice and 1 tsp. of cinnamon in a 2-quart saucepan. Bring to a boil over high heat.
  2. When mixture is cooled, scrape into a blender. Add cream cheese and blend until mixture is uniform and creamy. Taste and add additional cinnamon if desired.
  3. Assemble parfaits in parfait glasses or some other pretty, clear serving pieces of your choice. Make several layers by alternating the blueberry mixture and the rice pudding. Dust top with additional cinnamon and/or nutmeg if desired. Chilled at least 2 hours before serving.

 For great program-friendly recipes, check out our Cookbook in the store and visit our online Radiant Recipes site.
Radiant YLD

We are making some changes in YLD. We will be offering the weight loss classes: The Obesity Myth, Fat Terror and the Clothing Class right on the YLD list at no additional cost. I think you will enjoy the sequence.

For current members, don't forget we have added a *secret* (that means private) list on FB as well.

YLD is a lifetime membership. You can ALWAYS come back.If you would like to join us in YLD, come find us here.  
Radiant Living
Radiant Living is deepening. If you want a place to talk about Step 7 and what it really is, this is the place for it.​​​​​​​

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Following the Rules

Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.

I sent out a letter asking for  input a while ago.  I got some inquiries from folks who said they have been doing everything *perfectly* and were disenchanted with the program because they hadn't lost weight. 

Sometimes I get a sense of people who say they are following the rules and doing it perfectly. Everything. But it doesn't include the listening to your body, the mucking around that makes the program become your own. You see there isn't a *perfectly* in this program. There is simply a committed, not a perfect way. 

Committed means you show up when you are discouraged. You show up when you are still fat and you think you have tried everything. Your show up with a beginner's mind and you say, what does my body say here? What needs to change? What have I tried? Why did it work for a while? What changed? 

Committed means you ask the people you trust to help you see things you can't because you are in the middle of it. This is a big one. SS people are not team players. We think we know better. We know how to beat the diets. We ask for *advice*. But not for counsel. And then we ignore it. 

Or we fail to ask the ultimate authority - our own body. We say, *Still fat!!! You slug....* and go off and do Atkins. I can't tell you how many letters I have gotten about knowing that Atkins will work and then I will be back. 

So what *is* this program anyway? It is accepting on faith something that is so radical, so different from anything we have ever done. Trusting the voices of those who have done it longer. Not done it perfectly, not finished, not all fixed, but those who have hung in there, who are open and willing and are connected. Those who give back. Those who have learned that the heart of the program comes in service. Sitting with one more frightened tired newbie in despair. Or sitting with an old timer who crashed and burned and wants to bail with every molecule of who she is. Or being patient with the one in the middle who is bored and disenchanted. 

Rules don't work for that. Heart does. Honesty and tenacity does. 

Now here is the bottom line. For some folks the losing weight part is easy. It comes, it works and life is changed. For others, it is a bear. You will go through everything I have written and found you are not losing weight. And then, you decide whether you pitch it because *it* doesn't work or you stay in there as we find out. We don't have all the answers by a long shot. We are living the solutions. And the edge of our story is pushed out by those of you who are stubborn losers way more than by the success stories. 

I don't know if this is making sense. Maybe I am just moved by all those letters you wrote me. But what I CAN tell you - Kathleen is in for the long haul. There are some things I do not know.The intriguing thing is that now in 2017 I actually do know how to outline and do a weight loss program that works.

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