Sept 3, 2017

Hi, {!firstname_fix},

I love this time of year. I always think of the first of September as the start of a *new year*. Maybe it is because it is when school started. Maybe it is just shifting back into *learning mode.*  But I have always loved it.


This weekend I have had 4 dogs. Two regulars, Brody and the little girl with the broken leg and one visitor spending the weekend and one new dog from Texas who came terrified of thunder. I seem to have acquired a reputation for taking the hard cases. They figured out the sleeping positions. Brody on the floor next to the wall, the little girl in her crate and the two new boys on the bed with me. Regular life at my house. Two throw aways learning to be safe.


We have worked on the recipe pages and are close to a reveal in a few days. Man, that has been a project. Many people, much time has been spent crafting it. I hope you  like it.  Our next project is to revise and update plans for our class system. We are looking at all the classes done over the last few years to see what you might like. I think we will put up a poll for you to vote on what you might like.


We will just keep working on things to support your recovery.

 Support for Your Program
Ongoing Groups

Discover ongoing discussion geared to the step you are on, or special considerations like depression, parenting or fitness.

Radiant Coaching

Coaching is individualized support directly from Kathleen. We have a foundation coaching group to work on Steps 1-3. Everyone gets individualized attention suited to where she or he is in the process. The commitment is for 2 week intervals.

Skilled coaching is for those who are steady on step three and really want to take their program deeper. We work with Journaling and life changes. This is a process for those who are highly motivated about their programs.The people who are in the skilled coaching LOVE what we are doing together.


This class will begin Wednesday, Sept 6, 2017.It is a free class for anyone interested.

Using the Resources of the Community

This free class will teach you all the ins and outs of the resources in the community. You will learn to navigate the community forum, learn how to use the resource center, check out Radiant Ranch, and learn your way around the website. You will be on your way with an invaluable resource in your pocket!

When all is said and done, just 'do the food. ' ”

Testimonial of the Week
I had a little revelation today that I wanted to share. I've been very happy and comfortable with RR this time around and have, in fact, lost weight which has just "melted" off. I mean to say, I eat breakfast, do the food, move, vitamins, drink the right stuff, etc. OK. For the past four weeks, my weight has stayed the same even though I have been steady. The Big News is that I NOW have the belief and confidence to KNOW that if I keep plugging along, I'll be all right and the weight will move again. My OLD thinking would have been: "I haven't lost weight for a month, despite doing all I've "done" and "given up", so @#$$^ it, I'm just going to eat a bunch of Twix bars, brownie batter, and finish that off with a large Diet Coke!!!" LOL .... I think there are two main differences between the Before RR me and the After RR me: 1) I know if I follow Kathleen's plan, it works; and 2) My living RR is just that - living - no diet mode or diet head.  

Patricia in VT 
Radiant Recovery Store​​​​​​​
I am really, really enjoying my "Your Body Speaks" journal. My tendency was always to put pressure on myself to write waaaaay too much, but having the structured pages has really helped. I'm actually noticing more now that there is "less" information-- it helps the important stuff to jump right out. I'm looking forward to working up to a journal review.


I thought it would be fun to hear Kate on journals. I have the black ones in stock and many blue ones...get ready for Fall!!! 
Radiant Kitchen​​​​​​​
Spaghetti Pie
  • 16 oz spaghetti (brown rice, spelt, or whole wheat), cooked
  • 1 cup milk
  • 2 eggs
  • cottage cheese (8 oz container)
  • ground beef, cooked, 1 lb.
  • unsweetened marinara or spaghetti sauce
  • mozzarella cheese, 1 cup
Cook the spaghetti according to package directions and drain. At the same time, brown the ground beef, drain, and set aside.

Preheat oven to 350F.

Place the cooked spaghetti in a 13" x 9" greased pan or a 1 qt casserole dish.  Beat the milk and eggs and pour over the spaghetti. Layer the cottage cheese over the spaghetti and then layer the ground beef over the cottage cheese. Spread the marinara or spaghetti sauce over the ground beef and top with mozzarella cheese.

Bake in the oven until hot, about 30 minutes.

For great program-friendly recipes, check out our Cookbook in the store and visit our online Radiant Recipes site.
Radiant YLD
I have been spending the last few weeks thinking about the revisions we would like to put into YLD over the next few months. The program works beyond anything I ever imagined. And it is hard to do because it is sooooo different from all the diets you have done. We do maintenance first. And the hardest thing is to settle in to learn skills before glamor of 30 pounds in 30 days. We literally reprogram all those messages.

YLD chats are actually the place that nurtures much of our latest thinking on successful weight loss. It is ironic that the place that starts with so much angst has become the place for so much innovation.

Come to chat, join the private list for members.

If you would like to join us in YLD, come find us here.  
Radiant Living
Some of the old timers wanted  to have a place to share about *refinements* and *life enhancements.* We have support for depression and cooking and fitness, but nowhere to look at *life* stuff. The logical option is Radiant Living. It is kinda the *after the food* place. If you are steady with your food, think about becoming a Living member to share in our weekly chats on life topics.

If you would like to join us in Radiant Living, come find us here.

It Doesn't Have to be Hard

Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.

As many of you know, I usually present a new concept at ranch. This allows us to have a dialogue in person on these emerging topics. One year, I presented on the idea of Addiction to Misery. This topic started in chat and I had been thinking about it a bit. The talk was fun and challenging. It certainly moved me. Janice posted a reflection on the forum that knocked my socks off. She got it. Come share this process with us.

What if none of it has to be hard? This is the radical thought that has followed me home from Ranch. Kathleen had been talking about addiction to misery and how it seems to be one of the easier pieces of our sug sen puzzle to fix - it doesn't have t be hard. And then she blurts out what if none of it has to be hard? I think most everyone's instant reaction was "huh? I don't think so," me included. But the hair on the back of my neck stood up when she said that. And I have not been able to get this idea out of my mind.

I was listening to a (country) CD in the car and it seemed every song was about some kind of "hard." And a voice in my head is saying, "What if it doesn't have to be hard?" I looked at my shoes that have been by my bed for weeks now patiently waiting for me to wake, shake, walk. And the voice again, "What if it doesn't have to be hard?" I came home to what could have felt like an overwhelm of laundry, no groceries, starting the potato and the need to gain weight. But what if it doesn't have to be hard? And the laundry and groceries got done. The potatoes are ready in the fridge. I'm remembering to eat a little more than usual. These are, I realize, simple things, easy to not be hard. But what if none of it has to be hard?

I've been thinking about why I am so invested in things being "hard". I was brought up in a culture that taught 'pull yourself up by your bootstraps,' 'nothing worth having is easy,' 'what doesn't kill you makes you stronger,' 'true beauty lies in struggle and pain' and so on. And I am very attached to the idea of having been "brave" in my recovery journey. I think the dopamine-boosting reward factor is in play, too, when I feel I've done something "hard."

So what happens if I let go of the idea of doing what's hard = worthy accomplishment. If it's easy will there be that sense of accomplishment? Will the act of letting go of "hard" be the accomplishment? Maybe it is all in the re-framing. What if instead of "hard" and "how can I possibly do what seems impossible and just too difficult and where in the world do I start?" the "hard" thing becomes a challenge and the doing of it an adventure?

The feeling/idea of my life being an adventure instead of a struggle is something I have been becoming aware of as I've done my post detour work. If I stop and look at the past 7 months what started out as hard became easy. Not easy as in in being a piece of cake (sorry) but easy as in being a joy to do. I have come to think of my regular life as a grand adventure, too. It still has it's moments of scary-as-all-get-out but it doesn't spook me any more. And I think maybe that is another key - seeing "easy" as joyous instead of just easy and not really valuable. So if "hard" becomes an adventure and "easy" becomes a joyous thing to do, then "what if none of it has to be hard" becomes pursuing the business of life as a joyous adventure. This idea feels incredibly real and true to me. 

Would I have been ready for it at the beginning of recovery? I honestly don't know. I think I might have said, "This is nuts, I'm outta here." It's hard (no make that it's a joyous adventure ;-) ) to turn our long held, deeply embedded, highly invested way of being in the world upside down with such a radical thought. I am ready to give it a go. By the way, I got up and put my shoes on and walked for 20 min. this morning :-D Turns out it didn't have to be hard.

I'd love to hear other's thoughts on this idea of it doesn't have to be hard. Thanks as always for listening to my long ramble.

Janice in Maryland 
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