November 27, 2017

Hi, {!firstname_fix},
It was very early this morning.  I had been reading a book of poetry that my grandson gave me as a birthday present. Turned off the light and I heard the little slam of the dog door, then clicking of delicate feet and a light hop onto the end of my bed. The little fierce one curled right next to my feet and went to sleep. I don't know why it touched me so much, but I just felt surrounded by loving warmth.

My middle son has been visiting for Thanksgiving and my birthday. Two sons and a grandson hanging out. We have watched more football than I usually see and have been enjoying meals together and talk of life and joys. It has been nice. We spent an afternoon over at the field where those cranes catch grain and thought about the cranes staying with cranes and the Geese staying with geese and why some cranes go over to be with the geese.

Ted is interested in how Radiant Recovery is. He is growing his own coaching business. He asks me questions about our community, my dreams for the future, what is working, what is not working.  It is nice for me to think about this in a thoughtful way. Makes me smile and gives me joy. Makes me see how much we have grown and evolved. So I like checking in with all of you.
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Radiant Coaching Apprentice

This is a special offering for people who are serious about enhancing their programs and would like to have ongoing coaching. We will do individual assessments to sort out exactly where you are in the process. You will be guided in making your own individual plan. You can learn about journaling and adjusting your food for your own life needs – what to do when. You will be given tools and shown how to use them. This coaching is geared for people who are on steps one – three.

Radiant Coaching will be offered to small groups who stay together as they learn skills.

We are just starting a new class with people who are very motivated to enhance their programs. There are two slots left for this group, so if you are interested, sign up now.

If you are already skilled in the steps and are wishing to upgrade and enhance your program, you may join the apprentice group and as you show a demonstrated skill level, we can move you to a Skilled group.
The fee is $20 per week billed in 2-week intervals. It is an unusual opportunity to work directly with me to maximize your skill in doing the steps.

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I had planned to start this class last week, but just a few signed up, so I thought I would give it another week in case you missed signing up because of the holiday.

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This is a special class for all you newcomers who want to move on ahead quickly or for those of you who came to the program *already doing everything.* Find out what else is in the steps besides the food. You do not have to second guess anymore!! This particular class is one of our more special classes. Come and find the real treasure of the steps.

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I've learned that relapse starts before I have some sugar. Even tho I wasn't eating sweets, my timing was off, my journal had closed and while sick I barely ate. When I got better, I still didn't want to eat my meals. I said,'Whups, my program is off. It's just a matter of time until sugar starts creeping back in' (which I once perceived as the beginning of a relapse). So I've gotten to be pretty smart about this, yeah? One would think..LOL. I wanted to blame it on being sick tho. Then Kathleen said, 'no, look deeper..look even further back.' And I saw that I had some things starting to slip months ago, slowly and silently (sneaky addict style). Relapse is progressive. Taking action, asking for guidance and doing the work has kept me out of bigger trouble for now and my program is getting stronger again, but yeah - relapse none the less.

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I just made my first order last night from the RR store. I made a comment about the shipping price. I am a spoiled amazon prime girl and I was sad the products weren't available through amazon. This morning I got a personal call from Kathleen's son explaining everything. I was in shock! How extremely kind and considerate. I have been blown away by the business you two are running. I am so grateful for Kathleen's personal attention with my questions on the forum (something I NEVER expected), and now from her son on my purchase. As my husband said when I told him, "Mind blown."

You guys could not be more awesome!!! 

Thank you thank you thank you from the bottom of my heart. *virtual hug!*

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You can Have Waffles

Well, I am going to have a houseful of people this weekend.  Folks from the Bay Area make the drive to the "country". Our nieces are also coming for their now-annual stay, so my mind has been turning this morning to what I will feed the masses.
Everything I make I can eat...none of them have stopped coming, lol. Most of them were here for my graduation party last month, and I even had some requests for food they ate to be present this weekend. 

This morning, I have been looking through recipes for ideas. This is what I do, because I really believe that most recipes can be adapted to fit the program and it also just gets the creative juices flowing. I have a few new "sides" that I am going to experiment on folks (they'll never know they were guinea pigs, lol), but I will probably stick with "stand-bys" for the main course.  

I am also searching for the recipe for dessert...why I think I hate cooking from recipes, because once I find something I like (and this one was a hit), I lose the recipe and then can't replicate it...maybe I should address my organizational skills. (smile)
So, do any of you have plans, big or small, for this weekend? Any family favorites you'd like to share for when you have picnics or parties or gatherings?  

Actually...I love doing this kind of stuff, because it lets me expand my cooking base and to have fun! My family is pretty forgiving and will eat pretty much anything I put in front of them. I like meeting the challenge of bringing my cooking game to a new level among folks who don't normally "do the food".


For more great program-friendly recipes, check our recipe pages

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 We have a number of people who have been on step 7 and have stumbled a bit. They are wanting to come back, regroup, restart and remember their steps. It has made the list very tender and very considerate about how to do that. If you would like to join in this conversation, we would love to have you.

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Radiant YLD

I am leaving in what I wrote for last week because we still have time for you to sign up for our winter sharing project. A lot of people are excited about it and you might want to take a look.For many years we have done a Christmas stocking exchange. We put up a list for those who wanted to participate and people would sign up to make a stocking for someone. It was always a wonderful and cherished experience.

This year I have been thinking about ways we can make this a more inclusive experience since many peopled do not celebrate Christmas. It seems as if the pervasive themes for all winter celebrations is the coming of the light into the darkness. And since this is very much in line with our way of thinking about the spiritual meaning of *doing the food* - i.e. bringing healing into chaos, it seems reasonable to bring this idea to our exchange of  little gifts. Last week at chat, we brainstormed ideas.  We came up with the idea of exchanging boxes of light.  We have posted that chat, so you can read more about the idea there.  And you can sign up in the data base that is up on the YLD Yahoo group site. 

Love to have you joy-n us!

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What If It Doesn't Have to be Hard

As many of you know, we often talk about addiction to misery and always believing that things have to be *hard*. Here is the original reflection that started this dialogue in our community..

What if none of it has to be hard? This is the radical thought that has followed me home from Ranch. Kathleen had been talking about addiction to misery and how it seems to be one of the easier pieces of our sug sen puzzle to fix - it doesn't have t be hard. And then she blurts out what if none of it has to be hard? I think most everyone's instant reaction was "huh? I don't think so," me included. But the hair on the back of my neck stood up when she said that. And I have not been able to get this idea out of my mind.

I was listening to a (country) CD in the car and it seemed every song was about some kind of "hard". And a voice in my head is saying "What if it doesn't have to be hard?" I looked at my shoes that have been by my bed for weeks now patiently waiting for me to wake, shake, walk. And the voice again "What if it doesn't have to be hard?" I came home to what could have felt like and overwhelm of laundry, no groceries, starting the potato and the need to gain weight. But what if it doesn't have to be hard? And the laundry and groceries got done. The potatoes are ready in the fridge. I'm remembering to eat a little more than usual. These are, I realize, simple things, easy to not be hard. But what if none of it has to be hard?

I've been thinking about why I am so invested in things being "hard". I was brought up in a culture that taught 'pull yourself up by your bootstraps', 'nothing worth having is easy', 'what doesn't kill you makes you stronger', 'true beauty lies in struggle and pain' and so on. And I am very attached to the idea of having been "brave" in my recovery journey. I think the dopamine boosting reward factor is in play, too when I feel I've done something "hard".

So what happens if I let go of the idea of doing what's hard = worthy accomplishment. If it's easy will there be that sense of accomplishment? Will the act of letting go of "hard" be the accomplishment? Maybe it is all in the re-framing. What if instead of "hard" and "how can I possibly do what seems impossible and just too difficult and where in the world do I start?" the "hard" thing becomes a challenge and the doing of it an adventure?

The feeling/idea of my life being an adventure instead of a struggle is something I have been becoming aware of as I've done my post detour work. If I stop and look at the past 7 months what started out as hard became easy. Not easy as in in being a piece of cake (sorry) but easy as in being a joy to do. I have come to think of my regular life as a grand adventure, too. It still has it's moments of scary-as-all-get-out but it doesn't spook me any more. And I think maybe that is another key - seeing "easy" as joyous instead of just easy and not really valuable. So if "hard" becomes an adventure and "easy" becomes a joyous thing to do, then "what if none of it has to be hard" becomes pursuing the business of life as a joyous adventure. This idea feels incredibly real and true to me. 

Would I have been ready for it at the beginning of recovery? I honestly don't know. I think I might have said "this is nuts, I'm outta here". It's hard (no make that it's a joyous adventure ;-) ) to turn our long held, deeply embedded, highly invested way of being in the world upside down with such a radical thought. I am ready to give it a go. By the way, I got up and put my shoes on and walked for 20 min. this morning :-D Turns out it didn't have to be hard.

I'd love to hear other's thoughts on this idea of it doesn't have to be hard. Thanks as always for listening to my long ramble.

Janice in Maryland 
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