I expect a lot of us are nodding our heads right now Cheryl and smiling kindly. I am particularly fond of -

: I've been
: fighting that knowledge with
: gusto

can report that taking all that energy and putting it on the steps instead is a pwerful thing - though it did take me some time to realise it

you are not alone now, so glad you found us - you are very insightful - come and tell us your breakfast plans, would love to hear........ and did you know there is a step one list as well?