oh JoEllen what a touching story. I welled up a bit there but also in a happy way as you have found special things to honour your sister

( your foods also are spot on for my taste and I would be making a bee-line for those )

I saw something I really liked the other day. It said -

Be the things
you loved most about
the people
who are gone

I thought what a comforting thought for this time of year... made me think of those I carry with me all the time , and smile.