That's a good observation, Allison. Civility in a workplace is important too. It's good you're taking action on that as well.

: *plants starting to come up in my
: planters

: There's a woman at work who is very
: difficult to work with. She
: ignores requests for information,
: or goes on the attack if you ask
: her questions, and twists
: everything around. Also, if you
: make any kind of error, she throws
: it in your face.

: The other day, I think she overheard
: me saying something about finding
: her difficult to work with. That
: was my fault - I should not have
: spoken about that except in a
: private place. Anyway, since then
: she has been hostile. The other
: day I went up to the kitchen to
: heat my coffee/decaf and she was
: there. I said good morning and she
: grunted at me and stormed out.
: Yesterday I was assigned to be in
: a discussion group with her. I
: pulled my chair over and told her
: I'd been assigned to the group and
: she said, under her breath
: "That's what I was afraid
: of."

: In the past, I would have been very
: upset that someone didn't like me.
: But the fact is, I don't like her,
: so it really shouldn't matter if
: she likes me or not. What does
: matter is the hostility. There are
: a couple of people I don't like or
: trust at work, but I am civil to
: them. Fortunately, she was civil
: to me once we started on our
: assignment, but it was
: uncomfortable. However, I survived
: and I am not feeling hurt. I am
: probably going to have to speak to
: my supervisor, who also supervises
: her, because she is not responding
: to my request for information, and
: I may also tell her that I prefer
: not to be in a focus group with
: her, but if I need to work in a
: group with her, I can be
: professional.

: It's such a relief not to be fretting
: about someone not liking me. It
: used to be so devastating.
: Allison