: *plants starting to come up in my
: planters

: There's a woman at work who is very
: difficult to work with. She
: ignores requests for information,
: or goes on the attack if you ask
: her questions, and twists
: everything around. Also, if you
: make any kind of error, she throws
: it in your face.

: The other day, I think she overheard
: me saying something about finding
: her difficult to work with. That
: was my fault - I should not have
: spoken about that except in a
: private place. Anyway, since then
: she has been hostile. The other
: day I went up to the kitchen to
: heat my coffee/decaf and she was
: there. I said good morning and she
: grunted at me and stormed out.
: Yesterday I was assigned to be in
: a discussion group with her. I
: pulled my chair over and told her
: I'd been assigned to the group and
: she said, under her breath
: "That's what I was afraid
: of."

: In the past, I would have been very
: upset that someone didn't like me.
: But the fact is, I don't like her,
: so it really shouldn't matter if
: she likes me or not. What does
: matter is the hostility. There are
: a couple of people I don't like or
: trust at work, but I am civil to
: them. Fortunately, she was civil
: to me once we started on our
: assignment, but it was
: uncomfortable. However, I survived
: and I am not feeling hurt. I am
: probably going to have to speak to
: my supervisor, who also supervises
: her, because she is not responding
: to my request for information, and
: I may also tell her that I prefer
: not to be in a focus group with
: her, but if I need to work in a
: group with her, I can be
: professional.

: It's such a relief not to be fretting: about someone not liking me. It
used to be so devastating.
: Allison

Sounds like you are being proactive, mature and professional.
There will always be people like this. You do not have to take on
her dysfunction. Good lesson for me. Thank you

Kathleen