Re: In the wilderness
In Response To: Re: In the wilderness ()

Dear Kathleen

Thank you very much for your detailed reply.
It is so true that very often success = weight loss. I KNOW this programme is right for me, and I’m struggling and embarrassed that I’ve put on weight. But, I know that I’m changing my habits, and looking after myself better, and being more assertive, and that the programme is working in many deep ways that I hadn’t anticipated. Slowly, slowly. I’m rereading your books and participating and loving being part of this community. I’m very glad that I’ve come back :h6) :h4)
Non sugar sensitive friends don’t get it, and I’m starting to be totally ok with that and also finding ways to get my needs met when with them, dry new behaviour for me.
Thank you for recognising that not having been able to have children is a big deal. I’m getting some support with grieving and coming to terms with this. I’ve used food as a big coping mechanism.
Thank you for this wonderful community and your amazing work.
Love
Fiona R

: Fiona,

: I am very glad you wrote. I think
: this process is a very normal part
: of our recovery.
: Here is my hunch about what happened.
: We start to do the food, diligently
: and with an open heart. And for
: many, many years
: we have been conditioned that
: *success* means weight loss. And
: in this program, weight
: loss comes down the line, after we
: are steady.
: But the drum being of we are fat, we
: are bad lingers underneath
: everything. soooo, we start a
: slimming thing,
: doesn't matter whether it is aerobics
: or running or swimming, and the
: brain from the past kicks in
: and we start eating less because of
: course, that will help lose
: weight.

: So then we really aren't doing the
: program anymore but we think we
: are and the program isn't working:
: s1(
: Then we go back to feeling sorrow,
: pain, inadequacy. And those
: non-sugar sensitive people tell us
: we are self-absorbed and
: to just buck up and get it together.
: :h5)

: And then, of course, the logical
: thing is to poison ourselves with
: every possible *treat* we can
: think of. :s4(

: Here is the joyful part. You came
: back. You shared authentically.
: The part of you that wants
: recovery is alive and remembering.
: She sent you back. We totally
: understand. We have all been there
: and are thrilled you made it
: back!!! :h2) :h2) :h2) :h2)

: And the sorrow about the children os
: real grief. Be tender with it, it
: is a big deal.

: Breakfast, work on breakfast. Have
: fun. Move a bit, have fun. Keep
: writing. :h11)

: Love,

: Kathleen