. Why didn't anyone admire
: the fruit kabobs and cucumber
: slices at the lovely buffet

me! Im there admiring them

.I
: sometimes feel a bit of an oddball
: when making my food choices.
: I fret that it must seem reproachful
: to others who are indulging and
: admiring the triple iced cakes.

yes I really feel this too - being sensitive to others feelings is a mixed gift at times
even when you feel totally at ease with what you're doing

the trick I use for myself to feel better is to give some verbal praise to the host if I am being pressed about cake, or everyone is admiring, I say something like,

I don't eat cake because it doesn't suit me and I want to stay well ! But I do love the artistry. I can really appreciate that, a talent ! And the amount of work !! Amazing !!! And you've provided all the treats I especially love instead so all is perfect for me I so appreciate that, can I have some more of those chilli olives ???

well that's the template and everyone is happy

You'll laugh - I just won the Easter Basket Raffle. Not going into details, but it is massive

they were delighted to treat me with it ! I laughed and said, thanks so much - I am going to be popular ! No explanations, no untruths. Genuinely was pleased with the wrappings and bows it felt like a precursor to luck coming my way.