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COMMUNITY FORUM Share with others, ask questions, explore everything and anything about your program without a charge. A great place for newcomers.
GROUPS Learn the steps, get fit safely, learn creative program cooking, learn about depression, learn with parents, share in local areas. There is no charge for groups.
CLASSES
I am continuing with the Heart Healing Class and the Screen Addiction Class and will restart the Using the Resources of the Community Class on Wed, WORKING WITH KATHLEEN
I feel very strongly about offering you a way to work with me
directly. I have set up a whole range of options for you to do that - going from private coaching to being involved in small groups. This link will show you all the choices.
Coaching Apprentice is open to people on steps 1-3 who are starting their program. Signature Coaching is for those who want to work individually with Kathleen in a
90-day process. Signature is the top of the line. All who have done it talk about their lives being changed.
Another option is setting up a one hour assessment and then making a decision based on that conversation. And you can always call 505-345-3737 and ask me about how each one works.
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"You will be thrilled and excited when you master the moods that have haunted you for so long. Do the program and you will have a solid sense of self-esteem that comes from biochemical balance, clarity, and well-being."
I'm a 30-year veteran of the Battle of the Bulge. I remember thinking that if only I could get thin, life would be better. I'd have confidence, I'd have energy, I'd be able to eat moderate amounts of whatever it is like a Normal Person. That's what I wanted: to just be normal.
Lo and behold, one day I actually did reach my goal weight! And guess what? Life was not a dream. It was more
like a nightmare. I belonged to a diet club that conferred special status on those who had attained their goal weights. I had a 7 pound range outside of which I could lose my status. I also had horrible PMS and incredible cravings. I seemed to spend a week going into it, a week going through it, a week coming out of it and a week to live. I didn't have more energy. I didn't have more confidence. I was exhausted from compulsively dieting three weeks out of the month to make up for a week-long
binge that I kept promising myself would not happen. I lived in constant fear of gaining the weight back. At one point I got really tired and just gave up. I lost my status. I lived in shame. I felt like a failure. I quit the club.
Now here I am in Radiant Recovery. I came here when I was going absolutely bonkers over my son's wedding. Being Mother of the Groom all I really needed to do was find something to wear, which was more difficult than ever for this 5'3" pear-shaped extra heavy matron. My sister and I had become "diet buddies" (which didn't work for either of us) and one
day she told me she was craving sugar so bad she could chew sugar cubes. I remembered reading PnP years ago and that there was a Radiant Recovery web site that I thought she should look into. Then something inside me said that I should look at the website.
I was amazed! I saw the classes, the books, the journals, the online support! I found out that my idea of Breakfast wasn't near what it should be I ordered some materials and started Step One.
I was tempted to do a lot of steps at once, but I kept reminding myself to focus on Step One. When I got my journal I loved it. Because I was tracking my body and my emotions it had a different feel from those old "diet journals". In just a month or two, my son's fiancee declared, "You're the calmest one!" And indeed I was. I wore a big smile on the big day and when people told me that I looked great I actually believed them. I hadn't lost any weight, maybe even put on a pound or two, but the
inner glow told me I was on the right track.
When I lost weight from dieting it didn't feel
on the inside the way it looked on the outside. My "success" was not a success; it was more like a failure waiting to happen because my body was not healed from the problems that set me up for craving and bingeing in the first place. Now I am still as heavy as I was when I started (maybe a couple of pounds lighter) but my heart is already light. My healing body isn't craving sweets all the time. Most of the time when I see sweet foods they look like beautiful arts and crafts. My emotions aren't
so dramatic as they used to be. I have more energy in my 50's than I had in my 20's, mostly because I'm not emotionally exhausted all the time.
I'm looking forward to the new YLD classes, but in the meantime I can't believe how patient I have become with the process. I am loving my body right now, just the way she is. I appreciate her so much for everything she has been through with me and for me. She has served me well for a good long time and the least I can do is give her what she needs and be patient with her. As she has learned to trust me that I will feed her enough and on
time, she has been able to release her hold on the extra weight slowly and gently. I am listening to her instead of trying to impose my will on her. It's like having a new relationship with an old acquaintance.
How I love our abundant Radiant lifestyle!
Lora
This is David DesMaisons, your Radiant Recovery® Concierge
Come visit our STORE. Call 505-345-3737 if you have questions. David, the store manager, is always happy to help.
Kathleen asked Rachel if she could quote her in the newsletter. I think Rachel sure got how neat our journals are, LOL . If you want a journal or two, just click I want a journal and I will send one out in a flash.
I'm a newbie, so I can't say much on this step except how THRILLED I was when I found out that journaling was switched from step 1 to step 2! I read PNP and was excited to start, but scared to death of the journal. Now that I've been doing step one for a few weeks and feeling good about
it, it's not so scary and I'm actually looking forward to it.
I do have to plug Kathleen's
journal that you can buy. I have one already, and I love its format. The website really doesn't describe all the extra fun stuff that is in it. - The cover is black and it doesn't say: I'M A PSYCHO WHO HAS TO WRITE DOWN EVERYTHING THAT I EAT AND FEEL on it. :)
- Very nice message from Kathleen in the front. Thank you!
- The seven steps
- Balanced/unbalanced physical and emotional feelings in word lists - Very Handy!
- Charts with signs of imbalance and balance for your blood sugar,
serotonin and beta-endorphin levels
- Protein Values! Woo-hoo!
- Lists of White things, Brown Things,
Green Things, Fruits, Sugars
- Raising Beta-endorphin list which you can add on to
- Blank Things to
Remember pages
- And then it actually starts! The pages are laid out very nicely with sections on things to pay attention to, exercise, gratitude for today, special commitment for tomorrow and a tip for each day
So I'm sorry if I'm boring those of you who already have Kathleen's journal, but I just wanted those of you who don't yet to know how cool it is! :)
I used to keep a journal in high school and college and I've always enjoyed them. I know I will enjoy these too. Oh my goodness, am I ready for step 2? I love breakfast and couldn't live without it. I guess I'll bring this up on the breakfast forum. Elaine - where are you?
Rachel
MAPLE ORANGE GLAZED CARROTS |
- • 12 medium carrots
- 2 T. light tasting olive oil (or butter)
- 2 T. orange juice
- grated zest from one small orange
- 1 tsp. sea salt
- 2 tsp. nutmeg
- 1 T. alcohol-free
maple extract
Peel the carrots and then slice into 1/4 inch pieces. Place carrots in a covered vegetable steamer over boiling water for 10 minutes or until they are tender. Remove from heat and set aside. In a large saucepan, heat the oil. Add orange juice, orange zest, steamed carrots, salt
and nutmeg. Stir to coat and cook until heated through. Remove from heat and add maple extract., mixing well. Serve immediately.
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Radiant Living is geared to looking at Step 7 issues. I am in the process of the revision of Potatoes not Prozac and am adding a fair amount of information on *radiant living* which
is really Step 7. This is where we are looking at a Step 7 life with all its quirks. This means feelings, healing old trauma and remodeling our bodies.
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I just want to lose weight. Is this the right place for me?
It is the best place in the world for you. You won't get this information anywhere else, I guarantee. Make sure to come to chat. I am going to expand what we are
doing in chat and will outline it in the article section below.
I am just starting the steps. Does it make sense to join now? Yes, it does. We have found that the people who come to chats do the best with the steps. The connection in chat is awesome. You get a chance to talk with the old timers, you can ask questions and I am right there to guide you, It really is an incredible opportunity.
Here are the topics for YLD chat in September. I can tell you that last week's chat was incredible. If you are a YLD member, make sure to stop by.
SEPTEMBER: Insulin Resistance
September 5th: Mechanisms and chemistry of insulin resistance September 12th: Liver insulin resistance September 19th: Blood insulin resistance September 26th: Solutions for Insulin Resistance
If you are not a member yet, come and join us. If you are a current member and want to join us in the new chat room, come to the landing page. We will send you the pass words after you join.
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Reflecting on the Heart of It
Kathleen DesMaisons, PhD
I asked Kayla if I might share this quote with you. It so captures the essence of what we are about, that I wanted to use it to walk you through some of the key stuff about the program. I am going to
reflect right with your words.
OK. I felt so good when I was really doing the program, so the
idea that I would give it up does cause me shame. I start going into the whole psychological inquiry: Am I self sabotoging, do I not want to face life? So you are saying that I should not go that route?
I know the idea to not do a lot of psychological exploration is foreign to many of you. Gee, it was huge for me. I had studied the psychology of self development for 15 years, had a masters degree in it when I came to the program. I was sure that addiction was about self destruction and shame. I started my own program to lose weight. I developed the steps to help support the guys
to not drink. I had NO idea what was coming. Then I listened to you guys as you talked and talked. And something profound happened. I learned that it is NOT a psychological issue, it is a biochemical one. Listen to one of the best descriptions I have ever heard:
Well, I will trust you on that, because I know that in other things it has been true. For example, when I am eating well, I really like my job: I see the problems (a lot of bureaucracy and directives), but I also see the many good and exciting things I do and can do more of (really helping people heal and adjust to their life
changes, encouraging other employees, research). When I am eating poorly, I spend my free time looking up early retirement plans and fantasizing about winning the lottery.
Exactly. Same life, different biochemistry. How can I help you connect to the power of this? You do not have to get a new job, win the lottery or throw the bastard out. First you get steady, and then these life choices are seen through a very different filter. You may decide that you need a new job, but it will not be reactive and frantic. You will do it in a planful and reflective way. Or you may say, hmm, I have 3
more years, I can manage. You may think I need not to be in this unhealthy relationship. Lets think about this. Or you may say, hmm, the dude makes $100,000 a year and leaves me alone, maybe I will just do my life here. Rather than thinking about the lottery, you will think about paying your bills on time, starting a savings account, and just doing life.
Mostly though, you will really, really get it that if you do the food, do the program, EVERYTHING changes. Everything.
I am trying to understand what you are saying. I can see from my journal that my road to full blown relapse was when first my journal became sketchy (2), then I let in white things(5), then I stopped journal
altogether (2) then the potato & vitamins missed a few days(4), then I went for sugar (6) and then everything was gone.
Yes, this is relapse in a nutshell. The really, really kewl thing is that we know how to get back. And it is as simple as the other direction. Eat breakfast on time. Journal. Pay attention to meals. Potato and vitamins. Brown things and no sugar. Not complex. But mighty, mighty. |
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