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Feb 3, 2019
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I was thinking about this being the #791st newsletter I have written. That means the first was 16 years ago. That is a lot of growing together. Twenty one years ago, the first edition of Potatoes Not Prozac was published and you were introduced to the idea of sugar sensitivity and sugar as a drug. Very few people had even thought about that idea. We changed a lot of lives. And many of the people who found the book then are still around now.
It is interesting to think that I started writing newsletters 16 years ago. People still read it, people still think about the topics. I went back to the very first issue and I am going to put some of that material right in this newsletter. The connections we make in recovery endure and grow and mature. We are more relaxed, we trust the process and we care about one another. We love having new people come in, we love going to chat, we love going to Ranch and we love newsletters. It is pretty amazing.
I still love what I am doing. I love that Simon & Schuster will be publishing the third edition of Potatoes Not Prozac in the Fall. You will be able to see how the concepts have matured and what step seven means in a whole different way. It will be fun for all of us.
I apologize for the delay in a couple of the last editions. There have been a few glitches with our vendor and a few glitches with me, LOL. I think we are on top of both now.
Remember if you have ideas or input for us on what you would like to have available, share them on the Community Forum. We do listen and are very interested in your ideas.
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"Keep thinking about letting your body talk to you."
Testimonial of the Week

I have to share what a moving and profound experience last night's

chat was for me. The whole ambivalence, commitment, fear thing is

exactly what I have been working through the last few months as I

struggled to figure out why I never got beyond step 2. It happened

just like Kathleen said, I got friendly with my ambivalence and I

found my fear. I am afraid of where radiance might take me. I cannot

imagine me radiant. There are bound to be a lot of changes and

that scared me enough to keep me stuck at step one for 2 1/2 years.

But once I found the fear and could name it I was able to commit to

healing anyway. I'm a month into my 3 month commitment to post on

the forum and Kathleen is right again about it being about my heart

wanting to do whatever it takes rather than self-discipline. I post

whether I 'feel' like it or not. I eat 3 meals a day whether I 'feel

like it or not. And it does not feel like self-discipline, it just

feels like 'doing it' because I want healing rather than to hide in

my fear. Journaling is even getting easier.

So I sat in front of this computer screen with a lump in my throat

and tears in my eyes last night because Kathleen was putting my

life into words and I could 'see' that I will be radiant one day

and I won't be afraid anymore. Until then I will just hang out with

my fear and know that my commitment to RR (heart connection) is

stronger.

Janice

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I am putting the Journal in because the Return to Radiance class is working on journaling and I want them all to be able to grab it quickly.
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I just want to lose weight. Is this the right place for me?
It is the best place in the world for you. You won't get this information anywhere else, I guarantee. Make sure to come to chat. And we will be doing a lot of talking about fat terror.

I am just starting the steps. Does it make sense to join now?

Yes, it does. We have found that the people who come to chats do the best with the steps. The connection in chat is awesome. You get a chance to talk with the old timers, you can ask questions and I am right there to guide you, It really is an incredible opportunity.


If you are not a member yet, come and join us. If you are a current member and want to join us in the new chat room, come to the landing page. We will send you the pass words after you join.

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Learned Helplessness
Kathleen DesMaisons, PhD

This is the very first article I posted in the very first newsletter. It is still just

as significant as it was then. I still love it and I honestly think it is a *must read*

for anyone doing the program.

When we are exposed to shock and pain, the body releases

beta-endorphin to protect us. The beta-endorphin "numbs out" our

physical and emotional feelings, soothes us and keeps us safe.

Beta-endorphin is a powerful brain chemical. Morphine and heroin

evoke a beta-endorphin response, so you can well imagine why we

get attached to the feeling even if it comes in response to "bad"

things happening.

I believe that sugar-sensitive people have lower levels of

beta-endorphin. The brain compensates for this by opening up more

beta-endorphin receptor sites so we get a bigger response to its

effects.

Sugar Sensitive Comfort

Because of this heightened response, we are drawn to things that

evoke beta-endorphin-alcohol, opiate drugs such as morphine, heroin,

percodan, codeine, sugars, fats and white things. The things we

call "comfort foods" are usually the ones that are evoking a

beta-endorphin response in us.

Sugar-sensitive people are more attached to these foods than other

people are. We find more emotional comfort in these foods because

we are getting a bigger beta-endorphin "hit" from them. We not only

feel good at the moment, but our body "remembers" that

beta-endorphin means "safe." The feelings of comfort and emotional

safety become linked.

As many of you have been reading Potatoes Not Prozac, you have

really come to understand how powerful an effect beta-endorphin

has on our behavior and our eating. But the story is bigger than

you may have realized.

More to the Story than Food

The comfort and numbing effects of beta-endorphin can become

cumulative over time. When emotional trauma or "numbing" occurs

repeatedly, the soothing quality of the beta-endorphin that is

evoked shifts into something really problematic. The numbing from

trauma (or from long-term, heavy use of sugars) becomes generalized

into what is called learned helplessness.

Those of you who suffered childhood abuse, molestation or incest,

or who have experienced any kind of adult trauma get a triple

whammy. Bad things happened and your brain literally kept you alive

by cushioning you from the mind-blowing reality of your pain. You

were flooded with the soothing protection of beta-endorphin.

The flood of brain chemicals numbed you in the face of things that

you had no control over.

You learned to be helpless in two ways. One, you literally were

helpless in the face of the bad things that kept happening and two,

the biochemical reaction which was saving your life did also

generalized into the biochemical pattern of learned helplessness.

You survived the bad things that happened over and over, but the

learned helplessness remains encoded in your body. The pattern

will be both unconscious and deeply affected by what you are

eating and what you are doing.

Learned Helplessness in Action

Our many discussions about foods and sugars have taught you the

impact of eating sweet foods. If you have comfort foods, you get

triggered and you want more. If you try to stop, you experience

withdrawal. And if you are using a lot of them, you feel overwhelmed

and hopeless. This is learned helplessness in action. It may be a

feeling that is very familiar to you.

However, you may not realize that there are other things besides

foods that can trigger these feelings and activate a global sense

of learned helplessness.

Recreating Safety

As an adult you may have intuitively found ways to recreate this

feeling of beta-endorphin "safety" not just with substances, but

with activities. The bad news is that the activities you may be

drawn to are harmful. That is, you may unconsciously recreate the

early trauma in order to get the beta-endorphin release that will

make you "safe" from your pain and reinforce your feelings of

helplessness.

You can unconsciously be drawn to abusive situations because the

abuse evokes the comfort of beta-endorphin. You may even create

bad situations like having your utilities turned off or your

credit taken away because inside the "bad" experience is coded

with the biochemical memory of of beta-endorphin comfort.

The more these bad things happen, the more helpless and inadequate

you feel. You simply feel "done to" and have no idea that you are

unconsciously participating in creating these situations as a way

to stay in a familiar and safe pattern. And the more helpless and

inadequate you feel, the more you want to eat ice cream and

chocolate. So the spiral goes down and down.

As you start taking care of the food, you assume that things will

get better. You cannot understand why you keep slipping into old

and perhaps abusive situations at the very time you are committed

to being so intentional about your healing.

The Drive For Beta=Endorphin

Beta-endorphin withdrawal will drive you to get beta-endorphin -even

at the price of abuse. Learned helplessness will wind its sticky

little arms around you. And you will feel terrible shame because

now you think you "should" know better. You may not understand this

at all. You may assume it's a personal problem. You may either feel

victimized or totally inadequate. You may not have a clue about the

biochemistry of it, and may feel that the only way out is years of

therapy. Even then, therapy can take care of the "feelings" but not

the biochemistry.

The joy of the biochemistry is that you can change it fairly quickly.

You can start to see that learned helplessness is one of those sugar

feelings. It may be deeply encoded, it may be sticky, but the reality

is that you are in charge.

That Which Causes The Problem Can Heal It

Learn about beta-endorphin and you can set yourself free with a

sense of purpose and power that you could never have imagined. You

have started to learn that there are many things that raise

beta-endorphins (BE's) other than abuse. Exercise, prayer,

meditation, sexual intimacy, playing with your pets, healthy

food and laughter, enjoying your grandchildren, holding babies,

and music. Lot's of options! But you gotta choose them to take them.

Learned helplessness usually means that your first line of action

is to retreat and isolate_the worst things you can do. Healing

requires one choice at a time, BE's the good ways. BE intentional

(be beta-endorphin-intentional) when you feel overwhelmed. Hold

the ice cream and CHOOSE from the list above of healthy

beta-endorphin-evoking activities.

For Further Reading:

Maier, SF et al, The opioid/nonopioid nature of stress-induced

analgesia and learned helplessness .J Exp Psychol Anim Behav

Process , 1983 Jan:9(1):80-90.

Miczek KA et al, Opioid-like analgesia in defeated mice .Science,

1982 Mar 19; 215(4539:1520-2.

Segato FN, Sucrose ingestion causes opioid analgesia .Braz J Med

Bio Res , 1997 Aug:30(8);981-4.

Tejedor-Real P, et al, Implication of endogenous opioid system

in the learned helpless model of depression .Pharmacol Biochem

Behav , 1995 Sep;52(1);145-5

Here is the Annie Lane column that brought so many of you here.


Dear Annie: I read with interest the letter from "Weird, Stupid or Selfish?" – whose husband eats all the decorative candy she puts out. His inability to resist sugar resonated with me, as I have sugar sensitivity and have engaged in exactly the same behaviors. I simply could not resist sugar.


After years of struggling and dieting and sitting in work meetings obsessing about the doughnuts instead of the topic at hand, I discovered the book "Potatoes Not Prozac," by Kathleen DesMaisons. Her theory is that people who are sugar sensitive have brains that respond differently to sugar, alcohol and refined carbs and that what they eat and when they eat it have a huge effect on them. She shows how to rebalance blood sugar levels, serotonin and beta-endorphins through small lifestyle changes and offers the latest research, free online support and seven steps to change your life. It is not about willpower; it’s about biochemistry, which her program can slowly improve, just one tiny step at a time, with amazing results.


I have been sugar-free for six years now, lost 25 pounds and never gained any of it back. I can go to dinner with family and don’t even think twice when someone orders dessert. I don’t have cravings, and sugar is no longer on my radar. I am more focused and more tolerant, and the daily mood swings are gone. The woman who wrote to you could suggest to her husband that he check out http:// radiantrecovery.com to see whether he does have sugar sensitivity. At the very least, she would be better informed about this condition. – Happy Without Sugar


Dear Happy Without Sugar: I hadn’t considered that health issues might explain

her husband’s behavior. In fact, I hadn’t even heard of sugar sensitivity.

Thanks for opening my eyes to the condition! I’d like to encourage all readers to talk to their doctors if they find themselves compulsively eating sugary snacks.

—Email questions to dearannie@creators.com


ANNIE LANE

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