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March 17, 2019,
Hi {!firstname_fix},
That is not a stock photo. I actually took it on a visit to Ireland. And today a friend sent me a photo from Northern California where the grass is very green today. Looks like Ireland. I went to find a photo to send you today and had a lovely time reminiscing as I went through the photos. It for with todays article.One of the pictures was a photo of my grandmother's college diploma from 1900 that certified her to teach school. That made me smile. They had special scholarships in Ireland for women to go to college.
Did you check out the newsletter page at the website? I like that page. And for those of you who love the chats, we have pretty much worked out our new system for getting them posted as PFD's to the Living and Your Last Diet! lists.
. If you want to be involved in Our little group for men you can email me and I will get you set up.
I got an email asking me about Radiant Ranch. She said she had *fallen off the wagon* and thought that Ranch was not open for *failures* so she was said she couldn't come. It did startle me since failure is not possible in the program. Turning away, yes. Opting out, yah, but *failure*? Nope. That said, I have two things to share. One, I would LOVE to do a Ranch geared to returning, regrouping or starting up. It would be really, really fun. You just email me and if there is an interest, I will make it happen.
The second thing is that regular Ranch is in fact designed for people who are steady on the program. And this year's Ranch is going to be about building joy and taking your program deeper. I have going through my files as part of building the bibliography for the updated version of Potatoes Not Prozac and I came across a lot of the material about the power of guided imagery in rewiring a compromised brain. WOW! did that awaken my passion. So, of course, we are going to be working on that in May. If you have been playing with the idea of coming, this is going to be one special Ranch. We have three slots left and I would love to have you!
Stop by the Community Forum. We have been having a very funny discussion of chocolate experiments and Fritos. If you want to ask questions that are a little outside the bounds of the steps, the Forum is the place to do it.I hope you will come share your thoughts there. I am very interested in your ideas.
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WORKING WITH KATHLEEN
I feel very strongly about offering you a a number of ways to work with me directly. I have set up a whole range of options for you to do that - going from private coaching to being involved in small groups. This link will show you all the choices.
Chats are offered 4 times weekly through the Your Last Diet Program and the Radiant Living Program. We have talked about Adult Children of Alcoholic issues, Gaslighting, Problem Solving, among other things in the last month. I have been told this is one our most helpful offerings. Those who come to chat flourish.
Signature Coaching is personalized and individual coaching geared to your specific situation. You may want to step out of the craziness of sugar addiction, return to steadiness and clarity after slipping away, slow down and focus on your recovery, or deepen a steady rhythm of recovery.
This is a way to step out of feeling overwhelmed with where to start and what to do. Because it is so individualized, we can work on what is right for you at this point in your journey. People tell me that coaching helps them feel safe and focused. We work with your style, your rhythm. We address your fear and let go of shame.
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“It’s a miracle!! You cannot believe the freedom that comes when you’re following the program. After years of living in the hell you describe (that most of us have experienced), it seems impossible that there is something that takes that hell away. I am having a very hard time understanding why, after years of suffering, I’m waking up feeling good, motivated, silly, happy. I’m beginning to be the person I really am. It’s crazy but true! I feel like taking the message to the mountaintops! But life is strange; one only stumbles upon such a miracle when one is ready to hear. So many people need to hear this.”

—Anon

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Ok, this is a BIG deal. A second author has been added to the family. My little bro, Ted has just published his first book. We are all incredibly excited. I haven't read it yet, but Mom says it is a 10+ and is an incredible addition to a joyful recovery. His official pub date is the 21st so I am hoping our people can order on that one day and see if we can bump him up to #1 status at Amazon. Here is the link to order it from them. Eventually we will carry in our store of course, but on this day, we are trying a great experiment. But don't buy it just for the author name, it is a wonderful book! He is a great guy too.
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Buckwheat and Brown Rice pancakes

All right, all right, I heard your voices. We are keeping recipes. You guys are funny, You never say anything and then when you think something might go away, you start talking. This is mac and cheese. Kathleen has been making a lot of it because her #2 grandson loves it.

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Chats, chats, chats. They keep getting better. The topics are getting deeper. Now we are moving into the process of getting ready for weight loss. If you are a member, make sure to come and join us.

I don’t think I understood that this program is much more than weight loss until I got “stable”. Weight loss was the motivating factor for me in the beginning, so I understand why everyone is talking about it. It is so nice to be even-tempered and “radiant” that I would continue the program if I hadn’t lost weight, but it’s nice to know it can do both! One friend commented that I have such willpower….nope…I wasn’t the slightest bit interested in it. Enjoying the people at a party instead of obsessing over the food, do I look fat, how much can I eat without people noticing…can you imagine? I find that miraculous!

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How Joy Dots Affect
Doing the Food
Kathleen DesMaisons, PhD

Ok, as promised above, that is another Ireland picture. I took it in Ballinrobe, County Mayo, my grandfather's birthplace. For those of you who don't know, those are beer kegs.

"Drinking in Ireland is not simply a convivial pastime, it is a ritualistic alternative to real life, a spiritual placebo, a fumble for eternity, a longing for heaven, a thirst for return to the embrace of the Almighty." Irish drinking patterns are, he writes, "evidence of a deep hole in the Irish psyche which only alcohol can fill." John Waters

"A 2009 Irish Health Board Report showed that 54 percent of respondents (about 2.14 million adults out of a population of 4.2 million) engage in harmful or risky drinking each year, compared to a European average of 28 percent. "

People drink on St. Patrick's Day to "celebrate". John Waters thinks it is “evidence of a deep hole in the Irish psyche which only alcohol can fill.” I think it is something more. My intuition is that the hole in the Irish psyche is about sugar sensitivity. Those who are creative, who feel deeply, who are courageous and compassionate suffer more. We are less armored, less shielded, wrapped in less Beta Endorphin. I think the Irish found whiskey because they had potatoes, and time while waiting for the crops to mature. Other sugar sensitives found sugar and sweets.

As you might guess I don't think that either whiskey or beer is the solution to the *deep hole*. I think that hole rests in a compromised amygdala deep in the brain. The amygdala has 2 parts, one does anger and fear, one does sorrow and joy. If you learn to live from the joy side, the anger and fear side fades. We have a path for this.

Start with creating Steady State, and then learn to live with Steady in Joy. When we start,

Life is hard, a little chaotic,

we are kinda attached to misery

or we don't know how to get out of it.

We start doing the food. It feels hard. We struggle with depression, discouragement.

But we try something outrageous. We try doing *joy dots*.

Every day we notice 3 small things that touch our hearts.

It feels a little weird, maybe a little artificial...

A robin pulling a worm.

Water flowing in the acequia.

A glint of sunlight on the Guadalupe statue.

After a bit, something seems to shift. We start being surrounded by what we think of.

It is as if we have a joy magnet in our hand. Joy dots start creating a joy life.

Now I see sunlight other places, I see leaves budding on the trees, I smell Mac and Cheese bubbling in the oven.

All I did was joy dots.

Here is the Annie Lane column that brought so many of you here.

Dear Annie: I read with interest the letter from "Weird, Stupid or Selfish?" – whose husband eats all the decorative candy she puts out. His inability to resist sugar resonated with me, as I have sugar sensitivity and have engaged in exactly the same behaviors. I simply could not resist sugar.

After years of struggling and dieting and sitting in work meetings obsessing about the doughnuts instead of the topic at hand, I discovered the book "Potatoes Not Prozac," by Kathleen DesMaisons. Her theory is that people who are sugar sensitive have brains that respond differently to sugar, alcohol and refined carbs and that what they eat and when they eat it have a huge effect on them. She shows how to rebalance blood sugar levels, serotonin and beta-endorphins through small lifestyle changes and offers the latest research, free online support and seven steps to change your life. It is not about willpower; it’s about biochemistry, which her program can slowly improve, just one tiny step at a time, with amazing results.

I have been sugar-free for six years now, lost 25 pounds and never gained any of it back. I can go to dinner with family and don’t even think twice when someone orders dessert. I don’t have cravings, and sugar is no longer on my radar. I am more focused and more tolerant, and the daily mood swings are gone. The woman who wrote to you could suggest to her husband that he check out http:// radiantrecovery.com to see whether he does have sugar sensitivity. At the very least, she would be better informed about this condition. – Happy Without Sugar

Dear Happy Without Sugar: I hadn’t considered that health issues might explain

her husband’s behavior. In fact, I hadn’t even heard of sugar sensitivity.

Thanks for opening my eyes to the condition! I’d like to encourage all readers to talk to their doctors if they find themselves compulsively eating sugary snacks.

—Email questions to dearannie@creators.com

ANNIE LANE

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