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April 7, 2019,
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The birds are all gone now. Every single one. There is not a single crane, a single Canadian goose, a blackbird or a robin. So I go and sit. The trees are spring green now. The ornamental cherries have turned from pink to green. And I watch the clouds. I spent a week talking with the youngest grandson learning about clouds so now I see them and notice. But no birds. I don't know how that many birds could have snuck out without my noticing any migration.
Last week I talked about shielding ourselves from not going numb. This week I have been thinking about shielding ourselves from addiction in our households. I have done a lot of 12-step work on this.I had thought I was *good* - able to detach and such. Then a different type of behavior caught me off guard.Playing online games. Seems benign enough. I can screen out Farmville, but the war-games not so much. Back to the drawing board for me. How does one do boundaries? Which boundaries are reasonable, which are unnecessary rigidity/ How does the quality of my doing the food affect my screening skill, LOL.
Goodness, recovery is a process, isn't it? I don't know how many of you have seen the dog video on Facebook. A number of different types of dogs are given the challenge of a distraction course. The German shepherd whips through on command, release and run to your handler. The Golden Retriever sniff hot dog #1, picks up a toy, grabs hot dog #2, grabs then tennis ball...um, yep. The best option is to keep a sense of humor and do the food. Some days are better than others.
Look for the description of the special segment to Ranch geared to returning, regrouping or starting up on the ranch page tomorrow in the afternoon.. Just email me if you are interested.
Regular Ranch is in fact designed for people who are steady on the program. And this year's Ranch is going to be about building joy and taking your program deeper. I have going through my files as part of building the bibliography for the updated version of Potatoes Not Prozac and I came across a lot of the material about the power of guided imagery in rewiring a compromised brain.. So, of course, we are going to be working on that in May. If you have been playing with the idea of coming, this is going to be one special Ranch. We still have that one slot left and I would love to have you!
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I feel very strongly about offering you a a number of ways to work with me directly. I have set up a whole range of options for you to do that - going from private coaching to being involved in small groups. This link will show you all the choices.
Chats are offered 4 times weekly through the Your Last Diet Program and the Radiant Living Program. We have talked about Adult Children of Alcoholic issues, Gaslighting, Problem Solving, among other things in the last month. I have been told this is one our most helpful offerings. Those who come to chat flourish.
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This is how it worked where the Appleton video took place. I am going to send a copy of LSA and the video to my school board. Also, as a teacher, I do the best I can in my own classroom. The other teachers in my school pretty much know what I do and how I feel about sugar etc...but if they are in denial as to their own problems with sweets, they don't really want to hear it. I do this one person at a time. My teaching partner is very supportive of this and does the same thing I do.

This year, I am going to go one step further...not just promoting ONLY healthy snacks, I am going to try to insist that EVERYONE bring a snack every day with protein in it. I can do whatever I can in the classroom, but if the district is still giving the kids less than quality food, then we have a lot more to do. I will try with my parents too, but that is also difficult since most don't even speak English...but I'll do the best I can.

The kids are one of the best methods of getting to them...and I tell them how I feel about the stuff and what they are and aren't allowed to eat in my classroom. Since kindergartners still like/love their teacher, it seems to be helpful!!! I have had parents tell me I have brainwashed their children (in a good way). It's very cool watching a 5 year old tell their parent that a lollipop isn't a healthy snack.

So...I guess where I'm going with this....you can do whatever you can, one teacher at a time...one parent at a time, one child at a time. You have already planted seeds.

Elaine

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I get a professional magazine called Herbalgram that is produced by the American Botanical Council. They announced the arrival of a new monograph they have done on the value os pycnogenol. I went over and read it. it kinda knocked my socks off. we have carried pycnogenol in the store for a long time because the last time I was looking at it, I was really impressed. This new publication takes the knowledge base WAY beyond where I was 5 years ago. In fact I am so impressed with this document, I want to do a review of it in depth for you. I will work on it this week. You can go over and read it if you like at their site.. But it is pretty dense.

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Dopamine also deals with memory. I am going to start taking the pycnogenol tomorrow :) And I will be reading, reading when I can get an uninterrupted 2 hours tomorrow afternoon. And I will get back to you. By the time your order reaches you, you will have the details of the information.

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Chats, chats, chats. They keep getting better. The topics are getting deeper. Now we are moving into the process of getting ready for weight loss. If you are a member, make sure to come and join us.

I don’t think I understood that this program is much more than weight loss until I got “stable”. Weight loss was the motivating factor for me in the beginning, so I understand why everyone is talking about it. It is so nice to be even-tempered and “radiant” that I would continue the program if I hadn’t lost weight, but it’s nice to know it can do both! One friend commented that I have such willpower….nope…I wasn’t the slightest bit interested in it. Enjoying the people at a party instead of obsessing over the food, do I look fat, how much can I eat without people noticing…can you imagine? I find that miraculous!

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Entitlement and Blame

Kathleen DesMaisons, PhD

Many people ask me how they *know* that they are on step 7. Is it a date, hit detox, and then wham, there you are? Is it having a perfect program, every step clean and organized and sorted? How can someone on Step 7 muck around or be sloppy with the food journal? Do they have to revert? If they wobble, do they *lose* their status?

Now, what I am going to say here may surprise you. But step 7 is really about a state of being rather than a destination. Step 7 is affectionately called the *getting a life* step, but really, that hardly defines it. It is about how you meet the world and it is radically different from how the world was before you started the program. Let me walk you through the transformation.

I know from lots and lots of experience that the hallmarks of untreated sugar sensitivity are what I call entitlement and blame. We feel done unto. My husband, my boss, my mother, my children, my life, my stress, my health *made me*. You feel victimized by circumstance. It made you be this way. If he hadn't....I wouldn't be this way. You do not take responsibility for what happens around you because you do not feel empowered. You feel helpless in the face of things happening. And you blame the outside world for things not working.

At the same time, because you feel victimized you feel you are entitled to things. Well, I deserve to be...because..they owe me. Often this is the company owes me because I am poor and work hard and they make lots of money. I hear this as I deserve to not have to pay for the program because I am poor and am entitled to it for free.

These feelings, are biochemically induced. Now, that sounds pretty outrageous doesn't it? However, these are the very feelings that change with the program. Working with your journals helps you to see connections, and something called consequence. If I eat this, this happens. No one does it to me. There is a connection between what I do and what happens. You start making little connections..and over time they grow. As you get more steady, you can make more powerful connections.

Yes, my husband is abusive, but I stay here. Things like that. You start seeing yourselves as players rather than victims. And even more striking, when people critique you, you have this remarkable detachment. You take what is real, own it and are even grateful for the feedback rather than being devastated by it. For example, early in the program, if I offer a suggestion, not even a critique, but a simple reflection that perhaps eating a potato the size of a football might not be the best option, the person who started the program 3 days ago is either brushed or outraged that I do not understand their special situation and they go off in a huff or unsubscribe from the program for a year. If I say that to a person in balance, they say *Oh my, whatever was I thinking about. Thank you.*

I listen for this change. Sometimes it comes early. But most often it is the change that tells me most about Step 7 consciousness. One of my leadership people makes a mistake. We have a code for mistakes called the FANTASTIC! code. They say, *Oh fantastic, let me go clean that one up*. We laugh and it is no bigger than an error to be corrected. Or someone wobbles, and I say, *Hey, how about a sabbatical while you steady up there?* and they say...*yah, yah, let me go catch my breath and tighten up my plan. My timing is off, I am eating out too much.* And they do. Now let me tell you, working and playing with people in this energy is beyond comparison.

You all feel it drifting through. Those of you on the more senior lists drink from the well. Those of you just starting know this is what you want. This is part of radiance, this humor, this joy, this resilience. It is way more than no longer yelling at your kids. It is getting a life. No more blame, lots of taking responsibility. No more entitlement, just humble willingness to work, show up and participate. Pretty nice from where I sit.

Here is the Annie Lane column that brought so many of you here.

Dear Annie: I read with interest the letter from "Weird, Stupid or Selfish?" – whose husband eats all the decorative candy she puts out. His inability to resist sugar resonated with me, as I have sugar sensitivity and have engaged in exactly the same behaviors. I simply could not resist sugar.

After years of struggling and dieting and sitting in work meetings obsessing about the doughnuts instead of the topic at hand, I discovered the book "Potatoes Not Prozac," by Kathleen DesMaisons. Her theory is that people who are sugar sensitive have brains that respond differently to sugar, alcohol and refined carbs and that what they eat and when they eat it have a huge effect on them. She shows how to rebalance blood sugar levels, serotonin and beta-endorphins through small lifestyle changes and offers the latest research, free online support and seven steps to change your life. It is not about willpower; it’s about biochemistry, which her program can slowly improve, just one tiny step at a time, with amazing results.

I have been sugar-free for six years now, lost 25 pounds and never gained any of it back. I can go to dinner with family and don’t even think twice when someone orders dessert. I don’t have cravings, and sugar is no longer on my radar. I am more focused and more tolerant, and the daily mood swings are gone. The woman who wrote to you could suggest to her husband that he check out http:// radiantrecovery.com to see whether he does have sugar sensitivity. At the very least, she would be better informed about this condition. – Happy Without Sugar

Dear Happy Without Sugar: I hadn’t considered that health issues might explain

her husband’s behavior. In fact, I hadn’t even heard of sugar sensitivity.

Thanks for opening my eyes to the condition! I’d like to encourage all readers to talk to their doctors if they find themselves compulsively eating sugary snacks.

—Email questions to dearannie@creators.com

ANNIE LANE

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