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Aug 25, 2019,
Hi {!firstname_fix},
I was telling my grandson about something that happened last week. He said you might like to hear the story. I go through my Facebook feed in the morning. It takes about 15 min or so. I seem to get a lot of flashmob posts. This morning, a post came up with a guy in a grocery store in the produce department. He was arranging the vegetables and then burst into song. I think maybe it was Figaro. They were singing with the potatoes and cucumbers. I turned the volume way up and I just started to cry. It was so incredible. It surprised me. So Andrew said, *Do they know you like Opera?* I said, *I suspect not, it is not something I talk about.* I realized that when I was very little the kids used to rag me about my vocabulary. I never thought about it. It was language my mother used, and I read lots of books. But the kids thought I was putting on airs or something. It caused me a lot of pain, so I tended to censor my language. I think I do that with my love of opera. He told me to share this. I am sharing the link too. The secret life of Kathleen.
Please note that we have reinstituted Radiant Living Chats on Monday at their usual times. We will be having topics and I will post that list at the Yahoo Living list on the web as well.
If you are interested in ordering a copy of the new book, I would love for as many of you as possible to do any preordering through Bookworks. If you do this, it registers in a different way on the *best seller* charts. If we can get everyone to buy their books at the same time, then the *books sold* algorithm picks it up in a very specific way. Pre-orders count. And pre-orders done through your local independent bookstores count extra. Pre-orders done through my independent bookstore get even extra credit.
And I have negotiated a special deal that any orders from Bookworks will have free shipping. If you have already ordered, you will not be charged for shipping. If you have not yet ordered, you will not be charged for shipping. YEA!
People are still asking me whether it is worth it to get the new edition. And the answer is YES, YES, YES! The core is the same - the steps are there, but I have added a prequel about why you got to the place you did. I talk about what it was like for you as a child and how it was different from being a regular kid. And then I have added several new chapters about what it is like AFTER you do the steps.
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Coaching is a special offering for people who are serious about enhancing their programs and would like to have ongoing coaching. We will do individual assessments to sort out exactly where you are in the process. You will be guided in making your own individual plan. You can learn about journaling and adjusting your food for your own life needs – what to do when. You will be given tools and shown how to use them.
We are just starting a new group called Return to Radiance Coaching for those who have done the steps in the past and then drifted. Skilled Coaching is for people who are steady on step three and ready to move through four-six. The small groups stay together as they learn skills. And Special Coaching will be geared to people who have special considerations going on. Right now, we are working on moving out of restrictive eating. If you want to sign up for Special, put a note in the notes section so I have context.
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Signature Coaching is intensive individual coaching geared to your specific situation. You may want to step out of the craziness of sugar addiction, return to steadiness and clarity after slipping away, slow down and focus on your recovery, or deepen a steady rhythm of recovery.
This is a way to step out of feeling overwhelmed with where to start and what to do. Because it is so individualized, we can work on what is right for you at this point in your journey. People tell me that coaching helps them feel safe and focused. We work with your style, your rhythm. We address your fear and let go of shame.
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"When you understand your sugar sensitivity, what has been an overwhelming mystery in your life becomes a fascinating journey in self-discovery."
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When you understand your sugar sensitivity, what has been an overwhelming mystery in your life becomes a fascinating journey in self-discovery.

Doing the food can change things like the "cranky" and the "overwhelm" and the "guilty" and even "being plain old tired" too, I think.

Overwhelmed was a word that appeared in my journal so often as I worked from step 3 to 6. Now - on step 7 - doing the food has taken me to a place where I can problem solve rather than simply putting up with things that might not be working. Doing the food has given me the ability to see clearly and work solutions out.

This week for example, I've been feeling overwhelmed - but this time it is specific - I can clearly see what I am overwhelmed about and yesterday after mediating I sat quietly and came up with some solutions.

I can remember doing step 3 and thinking and sharing that I would have to give up a contract because it didn't work for me. What happened in fact was that I did the food and found the contract worked really well for me. I don't think I will keep it for good because it is a lot of work, but right now I need the money and I think I'm learning stuff too and so I am sticking with it.

For me, one of the fun parts has been working out how to remain really steady on my food given the work challenges. I have learnt it is doable - some of my solutions I've shared here. And the steadier I am with my food, the easier the work is too. So I am thinking - if we focus on the food - a lot to the other stuff will work better too.

Karen

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Step Four, The Potato
baked potato with butter
We have been experimenting with how to make the nightly potato. This is the best way I have found:
Use a Russet potato about the size of that one to the left. Wash it and then rub it with olive oil. Kath says the oil keeps the pores open so the steam escapes and you don't get an explosion. It must be true since I have never had a potato blast open.
Cook potato in microwave on high for 3 min. If you are cooking more than one, adjust the time. We do 4 min for 2, and 5 min for 4. Play to see, I think it depends on the power of your microwave.
Then put the potato. into a preheated oven at 450 degrees for 30 min. Do it a little longer for more potatoes. Don't poke em or prick em.
The insides will be fluffy, the skin will be crispy. I use ready good butter LOL. The combination of this yummy potato and the really good butter means I EAT it before bed and have fabulous dreams and relaxed days.
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Your Last Diet!
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I am leaving this same information up here in the YLD section because if you are not a member yet, I want you to READ it and join :). Things are getting exciting.

I had someone ask me why I don't just tell people what to eat in order to lose weight. It really pushed me to think about what it is we are doing in YLD. The key concept is about LAST - this means the whole point is to get you to realize that diets are not the story. Diets = restriction which is simply one more way of taking away power. YLD is all about *empowerment* which means it is slow, thoughtful and transformative. It can be a little disorienting since it is so different from what you are used to.

Chats, chats, chats. We just keep talking, reflecting, learning. You will learn about fat terror, about the myths of obesity, how dieting fosters *restriction* and what that means for your long term success. We add new science to help you understand why you do what you do.

I’m in my third year of recovery and THIS year is the worst roller coaster of trying to balance my protein/sugar/mood swings. Was at wit’s end, wondering where could I find a doctor who knew addiction recovery AND nutrition when my sis sent me a blurb on your book. Went to bookstore and the words leapt off the cover at me! I KNEW it was more than just blood sugar; I had been doing food combining, protein in the a.m ., etc., for years, even before I quit drinking. You have saved my life and, more important, my peace of mind by filling in the blank spaces in my diet management. All I want is to feel normal after I eat! Even after I had the blood sugar thing down, I was still experiencing weird feelings, and there they were in the book: a column for beta-endorphin and one for serotonin! Thank you so much for giving me direction!! God bless you! I have been telling everyone about your book.

—M. S.

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Lunch

Kathleen DesMaisons, PhD

This article comes from an excerpt in Little Sugar Addicts. I originally wrote it for parents who are dealing with their children. However, as I am doing a lot of thinking about lunch, I thought it would be fun for all of us. I am actually going to post that list on my own refrigerator. I also am making bento boxes for myself. I wanted a Mother to make lunch for me. She never did. So now I am being what I wanted.

Before we talk about what to put in the other two meals of the day, let me share a little about the idea behind lunch and dinner for children. The most important rule is eating on time. Most sugar sensitive parents have trouble with regular meals on time. I mean this very kindly. You get distracted or involved or busy and you forget that it is 11:30 and your child needs to eat lunch. You figure the snack will tide her over and she will be fine. You know that you can push yourself a little more and just finish up. That may be true for your grownup body; it is not true for your child.

So, step 4 means having to pay attention to time. I know, you thought I was going to say you have to pay attention to food. Yep, that too. But first, lets do time. Children really cannot go more than about 3 hours without eating. Your parent job is to make sure they have food on time. It is funny; most parents think the contents of the meals are the most crucial. They get very motivated and start thinking about what to feed their children and dont really factor in when. The more I talk with sugar sensitive parents, the more aware I have become about when.

Lets start with this. Think about the children who eat at home with you. This will be little ones who are not in day care and most of them on the weekends. Do a quick review and see if time is an issue for you. What are your typical routines? Do you even know when your children eat lunch? Start with what is easiest in making a time change. It may be weekends or it may be the during the week routine. Spend a week and see if you can get all the lunch times you have control over within the same 30-minute period every day. Just try this and talk with your children as you are. Get a sense of what supports this and what messes up your plan. Just as we have done with everything we are doing, knowing what gets in the way will give you choices about what you need to do to make this successful.

Marty always gets in trouble on Saturday. She takes the kids out to do Saturday errands. She has just one more thing to do and pushes the time edge until her kids are falling off the cliff. One boy starts getting wild at 3.5 hours. The other starts to whine at 3 hours. Her daughter gets pale and quiet.

Suzanne is fine with her kids on the weekend, but has a terrible time during the week. She works out of her home and gets on the phone - 11 becomes 12:30 in a flash. She has sweet kids; they are very cooperative and dont whine or create a problem. She just didnt notice that they got pale and lay down on the couch at 11:30. She just thought they were being good.

Many parents really have to work on this one. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Talk with your children and see if you all can identify ways to have everyone help remember time. Set an alarm clock. Give the 5 year old a digital watch so he can come remind you. Write out the schedule and put it on the refrigerator.

If every one goes off to school, plan for the weekends. Talk about lunch at breakfast time. What are the plans? Where? When? And then, of course, what?

Lunch needs to have the same amount of protein as for breakfast. By now, you and your kids know the protein drill. Sit down with your kids and talk about lunch options. Be very specific. If they have fast food choices at school, have THEM sort out which choices will work. They may discover that they need a supplemental protein package. Talk with them about what will work. Here are some ideas for wraps. Use whole grain tortillas, or corn tortilla or put the stuff on a leftover baked potato.

  • Grilled chicken, mayo, lettuce, tomato, onion Fajita
  • Flavor tofu (or meat), onion, peppers, salsa. Serve with brown rice .
  • Scrambled eggs, potatoes, chili, cheese & beans
  • Chicken Salad with grapes and pecans
  • Grilled salmon and roasted red pepper dressing
  • Roasted veggies with shrimp/chicken/pork
  • Stir fry veggies with shrimp/chicken/pork
  • Sandwich meats and cheeses piled high
  • Sloppy Joes made from ground hamburger or turkey and Sloppy Joe Mix
  • Navajo Taco ground beef, beans, lettuce, onion, tomato and salsa
  • Peanut butter and apples and raisins
  • Planned over meatloaf, cheese and sliced tomato
  • Tuna salad with apples
  • Egg salad with onion flakes and tomatoes

Here is the Annie Lane column that brought so many of you here.

Dear Annie: I read with interest the letter from "Weird, Stupid or Selfish?" – whose husband eats all the decorative candy she puts out. His inability to resist sugar resonated with me, as I have sugar sensitivity and have engaged in exactly the same behaviors. I simply could not resist sugar.

After years of struggling and dieting and sitting in work meetings obsessing about the doughnuts instead of the topic at hand, I discovered the book "Potatoes Not Prozac," by Kathleen DesMaisons. Her theory is that people who are sugar sensitive have brains that respond differently to sugar, alcohol and refined carbs and that what they eat and when they eat it have a huge effect on them. She shows how to rebalance blood sugar levels, serotonin and beta-endorphins through small lifestyle changes and offers the latest research, free online support and seven steps to change your life. It is not about willpower; it’s about biochemistry, which her program can slowly improve, just one tiny step at a time, with amazing results.

I have been sugar-free for six years now, lost 25 pounds and never gained any of it back. I can go to dinner with family and don’t even think twice when someone orders dessert. I don’t have cravings, and sugar is no longer on my radar. I am more focused and more tolerant, and the daily mood swings are gone. The woman who wrote to you could suggest to her husband that he check out http:// radiantrecovery.com to see whether he does have sugar sensitivity. At the very least, she would be better informed about this condition. – Happy Without Sugar

Dear Happy Without Sugar: I hadn’t considered that health issues might explain

her husband’s behavior. In fact, I hadn’t even heard of sugar sensitivity.

Thanks for opening my eyes to the condition! I’d like to encourage all readers to talk to their doctors if they find themselves compulsively eating sugary snacks.

—Email questions to dearannie@creators.com

ANNIE LANE

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