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Jan 19, 2020, 
 
Hi {!firstname_fix},  
   I went to acupuncture today and my acupuncturist said she felt that we are planting seeds. It made me think about how our community can grow in new ways.It made me think about how I might revise our class structure. We have so many new people who are sincerely wanting to learn more about what it is we are doing here. This thinking has prompted me to write more  about this. I will share on the community list.
    It is RANCH planning time. The dates will be May 15-16-17. Ranch is a wonderful opportunity for old timers to renew their programs and new people to become proficient. It will be a small group in a gorgeous and relaxing setting. It is a highlight of the year for many of us.
    As I noted last week II did a really fun radio show with Giovanna Rossi.  Let me know what you think. We talked about the "imposter syndrome" since you KNOW I have an opinion (and a solution) for that one! Do listen and please leave a review.
    I am glad you are here, glad you found us and it is my joy to be in service to to your healing.
   
 
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We have talked about having one place where everyone can talk together. Our move to io is allowing us to set up an easily accessible email list to do this. Conversations are grouped into topics so you can search for something you are interested in and join in, or you can
start a new topic. This discussion is held on a list at our host service.

People are talking, bring your questions and ideas!.Join it now.

 

GROUPS
The groups list is up on the web site. Just sign up for the group you would like to join. Please note that Radiant Living and Your Last Diet are paid membership groups so there is a fee with them.
 
CLASSES
We do classes in several ways. Some classes are done right on the lists and there is no added charge for them. Some classes are done separately a couple of times a year. The Reflections class is done once near Solstice and Christmas with no charge. Come over and check the class page. We will announce any classes here in the newsletter. As I said above, look for some changes in the new classes being offered.
 
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WORKING WITH KATHLEEN 
     Coaching is a special offering for people who are serious about enhancing their programs and would like to have ongoing coaching. Kathleen personally runs the coaching groups.This is not a class but is a process to support your progress. We have added a special chat for people in coaching. It meets twice a week to accommodate those who are in Greenwich Mean Time and those who are in USA time.
    Coaching includes several options now: Return to Radiance Coaching for those who have done the steps in the past and then drifted and would like to get back on track. Skilled Coaching is for people who are steady on the steps and ready to work on Step 7 life skills.  
    Coaching is $20 a week, billed in 2 week intervals. If you wish to join sign up for coaching and then we can talk about which section to join.
 
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    I also provides individual intensive coaching called Signature Coaching.  It can help you step out of the craziness of sugar addiction, return to steadiness and clarity after slipping away, slow down and focus on your recovery, or deepen a steady rhythm of recovery.
    This is a 3 month process that includes doing an in-depth assessment of where you are in the process, designing an individual plan for you and then meeting once a week via phone or Skype to work on your progress.
     This is the way to step out of feeling overwhelmed with where to start and what to do. Because it is so individualized, we can work on what is right for you at this point in your journey.  People tell me that coaching helps them feel safe and focused. We work with your style, your rhythm. This is a unique opportunity to release your fear and let go of shame.The guidance can shorten and ease your process so that in 3 months you will do what you might take a year to do on your own. Signature coaching is also an excellent way to tackle any special needs you may have. like wanting to get sober, or dealing with insulin resistance, or special medical concerns.
 
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"Try to write in your journal as you go through the day. Carry your journal with you. Write it out. It connects you to your body better."
 
Testimonial of the Week

Eva wrote:

 

LOL bet you didn't know that doing the food saves money.

 

Hello Friends,

 

This statement of Eva's got me to thinking last evening. When I first started to eat breakfast I thought "OMG this is going to cost me a lot of money." I thought eating protein would be very expensive. I never gave a thought to the fact that every day when I did eat at about eleven o'clock I was spending about ten dollars. I would go to the delicatessen and order two double egg sandwiches on a roll, with extra butter. Two apple turnovers, two hot chocolates and two packages of Walkers Shortbread cookies. This was before starting the steps. So I spent about $10.00 every day for breakfast.

 

When I started the breakfast step which at that time was step two I ate at home. Eggs are fairly inexpensive so even with eating four eggs it cost me maybe $2.00 for breakfast. I would have four eggs, two red skin potatoes and two red peppers fried. After a few weeks I knew that I needed dense protein for my breakfast.

 

So I started eating left over chicken, a chop or steak for breakfast. Even if I had a piece of steak I estimate my breakfast cost no more than $4.00 every morning. I was having meat, a baked potato and some vegetables. Not exactly being deprived I would say.

 

When I moved on to step three I began to carry my lunch to work. Before I did the steps lunch costs me about $12.00 every single day. Well, I do eat in lower Manhattan and the prices are high. I was only going to a coffee shop and still my lunch was $12.00.

 

I began to carry my lunch which I estimated cost me between $3.00 or $4.00 dollars a day. I would have salmon, some kind of brown and two cups of vegetables. Sometimes I also carried some fresh strawberries. My work mates said I was eating like a queen.

 

After a couple of weeks of eating those two meals on a regular basis I had well over $100.00 left out of my pay every payday.

 

Before beginning the steps I was always sick. I went to the doctor about once a month. My CO-pay was $15.00 every month and sometimes I would go back again. So that was about $30.00 a month. Now I go to the doctor about once every four months.

 

I also lost a lot of pay with sick days. I had a migraine almost every month before detox. I would be sick for four or five days and nothing seemed to help the migraine. The doctor wanted to give me a series of injections in the base of my skull. Since doing the detox I have gotten so much better health wise. I had one migraine headache in the last three years. So I have not lost pay because of taking so many sick days.

 

And I do not even want to think about all the money I spent on cake. A slice of cake here in Manhattan is about $3.50 to $4.00. Before I did the steps I would go for cake every afternoon. Usually two slices of cake and some milk. Another $10.00 at least every day. Than every night on the way home I bought a pint of premium ice cream at a cost of $3.00 a pint.

 

Now I enjoy making the food I need and not paying restaurant prices every day. I can afford the best meat and fish. I will buy the best vegetables and I know that these foods are supporting my health and my program.

 

Hugs,

 

Ann

 

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Please send questions and suggestions. I love hearing from you and truly want to help you do your program better. I am putting Restore in again because you got so excited about it.

 

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I was grocery shopping over the weekend and realized it was later than I realized. I thought I would get an individual package of protein powder and make a little shake. I recently changed to a low sodium way of eating so I ended up reading labels. I was shocked to see the levels of sodium in almost all of the powder products now being sold. It made me realize that George's® Restore is even more special. Here is the inside information about the product I developed:
  • New Enhanced Formula
    I played with the ratios to improve the taste. Many companies these days are reducing the amount of whey protein isolate because it is more expensive. We have decided to maintain the level and use a product from a different supplier. Different cows, better taste. 
    And we have continued to purchase only the best, highest grade of WPI made by ionic exchange filtration rather than hydralization. This ensures there is no underlying bitter aftertaste.
  • Improved Taste
    I didn't think it could be better, but it is. It is subtle. You might not tell if you are adding lots of stuff to your shake, but when we did a taste test like a wine testing the tasters unanimously agreed that it was far superior and got a round of applause.
  • More Protein Per Serving
    The level of protein per serving is up by 6%
  • No Added Sweeteners, Chemicals or Hidden Flavoring
    This is the same claim we have made since the very first shake was made. Nothing has changed. The ethic listed on the label is basically an emulsifier that is added by the manufacturer and allows the product to mix.
  • Highly Bioavailable Amino Acid Profile
    This WPI is made in such a way that the amino acids get into your system really quickly. This is why so many people refer to George's®Restore as 'soft' and healing. Don't be misled by amino acid claims on the muscle mag products. All whey protein products have them because they come from the same protein source. The key is how they are processed.
  • 20% more per jar
    We thought you would like more servings per jar.
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SIMPLE CHICKEN
Pumpkin Pie

Ingredients:

  • 4 chicken leg quarters, cleaned
  • 1 medium onion, diced
  • 2 cloves garlic, crushed
  • 2 T. paprika
  • sea salt to taste (optional)
  • 1 T. water

 

Heat frying pan. Add onion and garlic and saute 2 minutes. Sprinkle chicken on both sides with paprika and salt. Add chicken to onion and garlic, skin side down. Add about 1 T. of water to the bottom of the pan. Cover tightly and lower flame to a simmer. Cook chicken for 1 1/2 hours or until tender. Optional: At the end of cooking, you can remove the cover and turn the flame to high. Watch the chicken carefully as it can easily burn. Remove the chicken from the heat when the sauce is reduced by half. Spoon the sauce over the chicken and serve. [yes, I know that is a picture of a whole chicken LOL.I need a picture of the recipe, who wants to send me one?]

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Your Last Diet: More Than What You Think
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YLDonline is a membership program run directly

by Kathleen DesMaisons herself.

 

   

When should you join YLD? Anytime you want extra coaching. Anytime you want to be able to talk about losing weight. You DON'T have to be on step 7 to join us. In fact, the sooner you join, the easier the whole process is. Here is what Jaki commented about it when some one left in a panic about not being able to lose 30 pounds in thirty days:

 

No I didn't lose weight 'fast' on this programme - but then I didn't lose any weight permanently on the other 40 years worth (including Jenny Craig) which I tried before it (ouch).

 

I have, however, lost weight slowly, surely and steadily and felt better than I have ever felt in years. I am also totally free of the psoriasis which plagued my hands and elbows for the last fifteen years and I sleep through the night every night instead of not dropping off until 1 - 2 am and then waking up after three or four hours.

 

This has happened over 22 months which is 20 months longer than I ever stuck to anything before (smile).

 

I hope you will come back to us when your weight panic has lessened as I am sure we could help.

 

Good luck.

 

Jaki.

 

If you would like to join us in YLD, come find us here.  
 
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EXERCISE - Your Way to Thin

by Kathleen DesMaisons, PhD

 

[Print this article and read it 5 times]

    You have been extraordinarily diligent in sorting out what you need to do in order to lose weight. We have talked about food, feelings, thyroid, and insulin resistance. You have worked your way through each one. Now we are down to exercise. And this one is big.

All of you have heard that “exercise is good for you.” Most of us assume the basics. We think, “exercise is good for you” means exercise will make you lose weight because more exercise means you burn more calories. If you burn more than you eat, you will lose weight. But for many of you, this equation hasn't worked.

    We attribute this problem in getting the weight off to a change in our metabolism. We think we are slowing down because we are older, or because our hormones have changed. Sometimes, we might notice that we don't get out a lot, but generally, we will attribute gaining weight, or having a hard time losing to slower metabolism.

And factually, it is very likely true that we are not “burning” the way we used to. But ironically, our basal metabolic rate (BMR) may be very similar to what it once was. The problem is more likely do to our decreasing ability to mobilize fat for burning and to have the oven going hot enough so it needs the fat to burn.

 

We Are Fat and Out Of Shape

    Those of us who are most in need of exercise are either unfit or fat or both. Getting out and exercising seems totally unrealistic. There may be huge shame at being “seen.” “I could never go to the gym, Kathleen. I would be way too ashamed to be around all those athletic young people!” “Are you kidding, I can't even walk for more than 5 minutes without being out of breath!"

    It is a circular process. The less fit you are, the less likely you are to exercise . The less exercise you do, the more your fitness level drops. Round and round and you get rounder. But the good news is that this cycle works in reverse as well. The fitter you become, the more you will want to exercise and the more fit you will become. And take heart, the worse you are to begin with, the more dramatic the results will be.

 

The Hardest Part Is Getting Started

    The hardest part is getting started. Feeling out of shape may overwhelm you. You may feel fat and ugly and don't want anyone to see you. You may feel you don't have money to join the gym, or have no clothes to wear for exercise. You have no time, you don't want to get sweaty and have your hair get frizzy before work. It is too much bother.

    Exercise sounds like a great idea but you never get to it. You will just work on the food. You know if you do the food just right, you will lose weight and things will be fine.

It is possible for some people to lose weight just doing the food. For some of us, though, we cannot and will never lose weight just doing the food. We can go through ever “trick” in the program and if we don't exercise, we will not only fail to lose weight, we will actually GAIN weight even though we are doing the food perfectly.

    If we want to change the life long pattern of dieting and gaining, we absolutely, unequivocally have to exercise. This is not an optional part of your healing plan. It is central to it.

 

Finding the Way Out

    Now, I am the first to admit I am not the fitness queen of the universe. Like you, I have struggled with my exercise program and motivation. I have tried something for a few weeks and then get busy and forget to exercise. And would revert to my slug ways. Finding my way out of inertia took:

  1. Coming to grips with the fact that I HAD to exercise no matter what
  2. Understanding WHY exercise was so important to my program
  3. Finding an exercise plan that fit my style and body
  4. Getting mobilized to start

    As I started to learn about exercise, I discovered that most of what I thought was erroneous or very incomplete. I was stunned. I think of myself as being reasonably smart. But on the exercise line, I was a dummy. In these articles, I want to take you through the process that got my attention, got me mobilized, and got me moving. It woke me up to fitness and continues to motivate me to move.

 

    You can't move in your program without moving. Moving your body will tell your muscles and your cells that your are SERIOUS about this. It is time for you to have a body that reflects who you really are. Let's go back to the exercise to remember the “look” of your body. Check out your shape, your clothes, and your style. Imagine too, how s/he moves. First, watch from a far in your imagination. Then step in and feel from the inside. What is it like to move?

    You may experience a sense of fluidity and grace when you step in. Or you may get really discouraged because you cannot even imagine how that person might move. Fluidity and grace may be so far from how you feel, that you can't even make a mental image of yourself.

    Don't be alarmed. Stay with me on this one. If you don't have an image, I guarantee one will come. You will have the most profound change of any of us. As you connect with your body through exercise, you will begin to feel, and through one tiny little change at a time, you will remember the moving self. And if you can already remember or imagine that self, the image, the feeling will guide you when you get tired or bored or impatient with the process.

 

Developing an Exercise Plan

    First you will get fit and then you will lose weight. Read that again. Fit comes first, then weight loss. ARGHHHHH! You say. More waiting. More slow. Can't we just roll ahead with it? Nope. Fit first, then weight loss. Just as in learning to “do” the food. Until you could shift from a weight loss mentality into being in relationship with your body, the program cannot work.

    Your Last Diet is not about your final diet; it is about stepping out of diet mode. The exercise continuum is just like the food part. First you master changing your metabolism back to fat burning and then we apply that change to specific weight loss goals. It is slow, boring and incredibly effective.

    But before I walk you through the changes you will make, I want to walk you through some of the “why” of it. I want you to understand in detail, the body changes you are going to make. Blindness and ignorance about our bodies have availed us of nothing. This time, we will start from the inside out.

 

Two Types Of Fuel

    You body uses two types of fuel to drive your muscles. Sugar and fat. It converts all you eat into these two fuel sources. Carbohydrates (sugars, white things, brown things and green things) convert glucose the basic sugar fuel of your body. The fats you eat convert into a whole range of fat servers in your body. These include fatty acids, monoglycerides, triglycerides, low density and high density ch..... Now these may make your eyes glaze over. Whenever I used to get the to "fat" story, I would go unconscious. It seemed way too complex to get. I couldn't even remember which cholesterol was the “bad” one, let along grasping monosaccarides and fatty acids. The good news is you don't have to remember all of them right now.

    Let's just focus on the little fatty acids. Imagine them as tiny little tubbies swimming around your blood stream, They want to be useful. They have their hands up to be called on. “Take me, take me,” they cry. And if the muscle doesn't pick em, they swim on off to a new site hoping for their chance at muscle burn.

 

Triglycerides

    When they get tired of swimming, the fatty acids go rest in the fat cells. When they do this, they hook up in teams of three. When the little fatty acids join together, they are called triglycerides (Three fats). So your fat cells are filled with little triglycerides. When the fat cell gets full, the little fat buddies (now known as a triglyceride) spill back out into your blood stream, now joined together.

    When doctors measures your triglyceride levels, they are measuring the spill over of the fat buddies. “High triglyceride” means your fat storage is overfull and you have lots of the buddy chains floating around. If your fat storage is full, you are fatter than your body needs your fat closets are overflowing.

    Your body was set up to store fat because fat is the best and most efficient fuel you can get. You were originally designing as a fat BURNING machine (not a fat storing machine).     You are meant to burn fat to sustain movement. Long ago, there were no fast foods, no grain storage silos. You ate what you caught or gathered. Food came at infrequent or unanticipated intervals. When rabbits and roots were available, you ate em. When they weren't, you depended on your fat stores. Getting fat was not an issue. You burned what you stored and you used what you ate.

 

How To Be Efficient Fat Burning Machines

    Our bodies have long since forgotten how to be efficient fat burning machines. We need to help them remember. The cells know and will work with us if we activate the cellular memory of moving. We retrain them by exercising.

There are two types of exercise. Aerobic and anaerobic. I sued to think that aerobic exercise was something the Jane Fonda's did at the gym. Body shaping tights, loud music and slim young woman sweating together under the tutelage of an aerobics instructor.                 This was not something in my frame of reference.

    This is NOT what aerobic exercise means. It simply means burning WITH oxygen. If you are gonna burn fat, yah gotta have oxygen. If you get “out of breath” and the amount of oxygen you take in goes down, you will burn glucose, not fat. To burn fat, you need to exercise less strenuously than what we have been conditioned to think is necessary to “burn calories.” But you have to do it for more than a few minutes.

    The problem with most couch potatoes is what I call the “forget factor.” Our muscles forget how to burn fat. They only know how to burn sugars because that is most of what we give them (sugar and white things). The sugars also satisfy the level of exercise we are most likely to do. We never get to the fat burning stage.

 

How long it takes

    How long it takes to “remember” to burn fat depends on the level of fitness we are in. High level athletes start almost immediately. In fact, they may start to burn even with the “idea” of exercise. Anticipation and whoosh, the burner turns up. Moderately fit people's burner ignites at about 15 minutes of aerobic exercise. Out of shape people don't start burning until about 30 minutes of exercise. Our muscles don't really believe us. They think we are kidding and figure they will hold out till we stop.

    Now I know, I know what you are thinking. THIRTY MINUTES!!! The idea of thirty minutes may seem so far away from where you are that you will never start. The task is too big.

    But let's backup. We are going to do a two-phase process here. First we are going to do fit and then we are going to do fat burning. Fit means being able to walk a mile in about ten minutes without getting out of breath.

    Realistically, when you start, you may be able to only do five minutes. You may only be able to walk one block. You may be able to only do 282 steps or 25 steps The important thing is to simply work with where you are and START. If you can only do five minutes, then walk 2 1/2 minutes out and 2 1/2 minutes back. But do this three times a day. There is NO shame. Make it functional. Take nice music with you. It makes it more fun. If you don't want to be outside, join Planet Fitness and find an aerobic exercise machine, ask them to teach you how to use it, and start with one minute.

    

Start walking

    People who are less fit need to exercise in smaller, more manageable increments more often. Start walking. Write it in your food journal. Sneak a morning walk in, plan a lunchtime walk. Once you master 5 minutes, move to seven and then to 10. After you master 10 minutes, go to fifteen. After you are really comfortable with 15 minutes of walking, shift your focus and see how far you can go in your 15-min time slot. Count telephone poles, notice houses. But PAY ATTENTION.

    Paying attention because your fitness level is going to change quickly. You want the fun of knowing how much it shifts. Once you can do fifteen minutes at a reasonable pace (enough so you feel brisk, but not so much that you get out of breath), slow down the pace and extend the distance. Make up a little chart so you will know whether you are working on time or distance.

    The changes in interval and intensity will alter your fat burning memory. We are getting an old, rusted and dirty machine from the barn. First round cleans it, then we scrub with steel wool and then we oil it. And then, after all that, we sharpen it before we use it. We get it ready. If you try to take it out, crank it up and expect it to run perfectly, you will be sadly disappointed. You and the machine will get into trouble. It will break, jam or freeze up. Take care and you can restore it to its full use, with the patina of age. Do your exercise the way you have been doing your food. Build with small increments and pay attention.

 

Getting fit

    Remember that the goal for this phase is getting fit. Getting fit means reminding your body that it knows how and wants to burn fat.

The hardest part of this phase of the program will be the first day. Everything in you will resist starting. Your will forget, you will be horrendously busy, you will have a deadline, a doctor's appointment. It will suddenly be cold, or hot, or raining outside. The kids will need to go to soccer practice, you will need groceries. You will be sleepy. Anything, anything to not go on the walk. Day one is hard beyond imagination. Day two will still be hard. But day three will bringing a twinkling of change. Keep at it. Check in with the forum, check in with the lists. Share with us what is happening. Use your support system to help you get started. But most important, get yourself moving.

    The next article will strengthen your fitness level and then move you into fat burning.

 

 

Here is the Annie Lane column that brought so many of you here.

 

Dear Annie: I read with interest the letter from "Weird, Stupid or Selfish?" – whose husband eats all the decorative candy she puts out. His inability to resist sugar resonated with me, as I have sugar sensitivity and have engaged in exactly the same behaviors. I simply could not resist sugar.

 

After years of struggling and dieting and sitting in work meetings obsessing about the doughnuts instead of the topic at hand, I discovered the book "Potatoes Not Prozac," by Kathleen DesMaisons. Her theory is that people who are sugar sensitive have brains that respond differently to sugar, alcohol and refined carbs and that what they eat and when they eat it have a huge effect on them. She shows how to rebalance blood sugar levels, serotonin and beta-endorphins through small lifestyle changes and offers the latest research, free online support and seven steps to change your life. It is not about willpower; it’s about biochemistry, which her program can slowly improve, just one tiny step at a time, with amazing results.

 

I have been sugar-free for six years now, lost 25 pounds and never gained any of it back. I can go to dinner with family and don’t even think twice when someone orders dessert. I don’t have cravings, and sugar is no longer on my radar. I am more focused and more tolerant, and the daily mood swings are gone. The woman who wrote to you could suggest to her husband that he check out http:// radiantrecovery.com to see whether he does have sugar sensitivity. At the very least, she would be better informed about this condition. – Happy Without Sugar

 

Dear Happy Without Sugar: I hadn’t considered that health issues might explain

her husband’s behavior. In fact, I hadn’t even heard of sugar sensitivity.

Thanks for opening my eyes to the condition! I’d like to encourage all readers to talk to their doctors if they find themselves compulsively eating sugary snacks.

—Email questions to dearannie@creators.com

 

ANNIE LANE

 
 
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