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October 24, 2016

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I have signed up to take a painting class. The first assignment was to go and collect *red* things from nature. Here is a fascinating thing. We really don't have red things in our nature this time of year. They are all yellow. I have to talk with the teacher about what to do. I can tell you that being a *student* has really affected me in terms of how we will be doing our classes. I have known that introverts (and a huge percentage of sugar sensitives) are introverts, we need time and quiet to process things. What I didn't know is that the stress of trying to navigate a *new* way of learning is almost paralyzing. And of course as little sugar sensitive C57 mice we are apt to crouch in the corner when faced with what feels like an overwhelming situation. Check in here if you would like to read about the C57 mice.

Anyway, look forward to some changes in the classes. The first of these will be how we do the step classes. Last week we decided to try an experiment and offer the step one class right in the step one group. It is working beautifully so I plan to expand this model to all the step classes. You won't have to sign up, you won't have to pay and you can just do the class right in the group. You just need to be in the group to get access to t he class. We will continue to announce these classes here in the newsletter.

Ranch in Albuquerque will be on May 12-13-14. I put a description up to describe what we will cover. Don't forget there is a pretty significant discount for early registration.

This class will begin Wednesday, October 26, 2016. Please Signup and it will take you to the registration page:

Using Radiant Resources

This FREE class will teach you all the ins and outs of the resources in the community. You will learn to navigate the community forum, learn how to use the resource center, check out Radiant Ranch, and learn your way around the website. You will be on your way with an invaluable resource in your pocket!

This class will begin Wednesday, November 1, 2016. Please Signup and it will take you to the registration page:

Step Two

Learn how to choose the right book, how to get motivated, what to include, how to know how you feel. You will confront shame and embarrassment, clear out old history and have fun in the process.

Check the class list page for more information on how the classes work. See the the Class Schedule here.

Be sure to visit our Radiant Recovery website and Community Forum regularly.



**Quote From Kathleen**

All this work will create enormous gains for you. As you "do the food," you are going to reconnect with your birthright.


**Testimonial of the Week**

I have lost some weight. My clothes are becoming baggy. I hate to clothes shop. (After washing, things never fit as in the store). We went out of town this week to a bigger city. I decided to visit the second-hand stores and consignment/gently-worn clothing stores. I picked out some jeans, a few t-shirts/blouses and a casual suit. I am pretty pleased. I didn't spend more than $25 and have some form-fitting outfits. I have worn one of the blouses and really like it. This is nice and I know the stuff will fit after washing.

Kinda funny as I keep telling myself, "No not size 18 or X-large, you need medium and 14 or 16." All part of healing. Maybe I don't hate to clothes shop after all!


Healing is grand


**Radiant Ambassadors**

Selena head shot It looks as though the levels of sugar in our foods is being taken a little bit more seriously in the UK with some experts equating it to tobacco.

Here is an article I found recently:

It does sound as though sugar is being made out to be the enemy here, but at least there is more recognition of its effects on the public at large.

And I think that can only be a good thing.

Mind you, what would happen if I were to contact Action on Sugar to suggest something that might help? Watch this space!

Have you ever wondered how to find prior newsletters? Here is where they are posted. I just had a fun time browsing through them.


**Radiant Recovery® Store**

COVER OF THE CD AND SHOWS A BEACH AT SUNSET WITH KATHLEEN'S 3 DOGS ON IT I heard about Kathleen's Finding a Safe Place" CD and when the budget allowed it, I made a point of ordering it. It couldn't have come at a better time. It arrived at a time when I was really concerned about one of my grown sons. A couple of lapses in judgment could lead to some very serious long-term consequences.

I had not been sleeping well that week, so I was pretty off-balance when all this happened. I'd been searching my food journal for clues, keeping my sleep journal stats carefully, and I suspect the change of seasons plus my husband's and my different temperature preferences were part of it.

At the height of my distress, here comes my package from Radiant Recovery! I started using that CD that very day. I liked the fact that it didn't ask me to imagine my ideal life, or make any particular demands of me. All I needed to do was imagine myself feeling safe. The second time I listened to it, it was soothing to the point of tears. I was a much calmer person when we went to see our son than I would have otherwise been.

The best part of all is that I slept all the way through the night for two nights now! I will add "meditation CD" to my sleep journal as part of my routine for good sleep.

In my unhealed days a challenge like this would have sent me straight to chocolate. Even more recently I would have started snacking on cheese and whole grain products. This time my Step 3 is steady and I'm getting good sleep, so I'm sending this out to YLD.

I would encourage anyone to get this CD and see what it does for their program. If I feel this good after only two days, imagine what 30 days will bring!


Please send questions and suggestions. I love hearing from you and truly want to help you do your program better.


**Radiant Kitchen**

We just celebrated our youngest son's birthday and this is the cake I made for him. It is originally a muffin recipe, but I am giving it to you the way I made it for the birthday cake. Kathleen asked me to share it with you, so here it is:

  • 1 jar baby banana (or 1/2 cup mashed)
  • 3 T. light olive oil
  • 1 egg
  • 1 cup oat milk
  • 1 tsp alcohol-free vanilla extract
  • 1 1/2 cup whole wheat pastry flour
  • 1/4 cup carob powder
  • 1 1/4 tsps baking soda
  • 1 T. baking powder
  • 1/2 cup shredded coconut
  • 2 cups heavy cream
  • 1 T. vanilla
  • 1/2 cup mashed banana, to taste (optional)
Preheat oven to 350. Beat the banana, oil and egg until creamy. Add in the milk and vanilla extract. Stir in the remaining ingredients and mix until just combined. Pour the batter into a 9 inch round pan and bake for about 20-25 minutes. Let cool completely. Using a sharp knife or a cake cutter, cut the cake in half so that you have two layers. Place the bottom layer on a cake platter and spread with the frosting. Place the second layer over that and then frost the tops and sides.

To make the frosting, chill the beaters and bowl very well. Add the heavy cream to a medium sized bowl and whip on high until thickened. Add the vanilla and banana, if you wish, and whip again until stiff. Frost cake.

For great program-friendly recipes, check out our Cookbook in the store and visit our online Radiant Recipes site.


**Radiant Your Last Diet**

Some of you have asked if you should wait to join YLD until after you have done step 7. Absolutely NOT! Come now. YLD provides intense support for beginning the program. Chats are fun and the team is super.

This is one of my most favorite Connie quotes. If you want to know the heart of what we are doing, Connie says it.

Two different questions, two different answers. (I'm a long-time 7- stepper and I'm still fat. )

What you didn't ask is, am I healed from bingeing after 40 years? YES. I feel like I'm still in the honeymoon period from the happiness of that.

Sounds like you think "the problem" is fat. For me "the problem" is addiction, and a side effect is, it made me fat.

NOW that my addiction is quieted down, to take off the fat, I need to tweak my food and exercise, to re-deploy the pounds I gained while bingeing. And I am. But since it takes a while, I am yes, still fat. And gasp, sometimes I take a break from that and coast.

I could do it faster if I wanted to do a "weight loss" plan that included food deprivation or punishing exercise. I truly honestly don't give a rip about that desperate rushing any more. And when I adopt a plan that includes moderate exercise and moderate food changes, then it goes more slowly.

If you would like to join us in YLD, come find us here


**Radiant Living**

I think a lot about what *radiant living* means. Two years ago, I went to New York to visit my 82-year-old Irish Auntie. My daughter came down from Vermont, and her cousin came out from the city. My daughter wrote a poem that sort of sums up this visit:

Pear nectar and Caprese omelets
Vespa, egg creams
Old photographs of mothers reading to daughters
and little girls in Radio Flyers
birth certificates, deeds, wills, ship rosters
27 Dresses
romantic letters from an Italian lover
the French count and his castle
shopping, stories, lattés, newspaper clippings
calculating ages and ordering events
saloon keepers and grocers and King’s Scholars
Barnard, Hofstra, teaching, studying, traveling, working long hours to put children through college,
generations of women scholars
writing letters, sharing memoirs
telling long-forgotten stories
pasting together history
passing along history
passing along Prada

It was a time of gathering family stories, making sense of history. My grandmother went to college in 1906. What an incredible thing that was. It was very moving to me. I have been mulling it all over since I have come home. It is so amazing to see how we are shaped.


If you would like to join us in Radiant Living, come find us here


**Trying a New Way**

Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.

People often ask me how they can sort something out. You say, “Kathleen, I just can’t figure out what to do.” Often you are desperate and feel that you have to know NOW.

Well, first of all, the haziness, that sort of fog and cloudy sense of not knowing, is often induced by what you are eating, or by when you are eating. Skip a meal and get dumb. Have sugar and whites, and get foggy and not be able to make sense of anything. These are the times when you push forward trying to find answers and you feel as if you are pushing into cotton. Nothing comes, even if you wrestle for hours.

The first way out, of course, is doing the steps. I know you thought that doing the food would just deal with cravings and your weight, and maybe mood. But there is a huge payoff...you get clarity as well. The fog lifts. Things make sense. Answers come unbidden without thrashing. They come in the shower or on the way to the bank or on a walk with the dog.

But let’s say you have a problem now. You can’t wait for step 7. You need some practical skills today. So let’s do some of those.

Usually, sugar sensitive people munch – this means you say, "Is it this? Is it that? Is it this? Is it that?" You never find anything, you just fret for hours. The task is to go under what appears to be the question and seek a deep answer. Go under the surface, see what it conceals.

When you start you will often think you are too busy to sit with it. Or if you sit, you just munch so why bother. This is different. You take one issue, and you decide to focus on it. You call a sense of clarity. You basically decide to leave the munch and ask the real question. Let me give you an example. I recently had a discussion with a friend who is trying to figure out some major life choices. Should she go to graduate school, what if she gets the new job she was interviewed for, should she stay with the old job, what if she has to move, how will she have enough money? Sound familiar? So I suggested this technique of going under the munching. I asked her what she wanted in her life in 5 years. I asked her to sit with that in stillness for maybe 30 minutes and let all the “stuff” quiet. This is going under the surface. Not the munching, but the real question.

She did. And she discovered that she really, really wants to be an art therapist. You might imagine that all the munching faded away. Once she was clear, the choices were clear. She didn’t have to wait for step 7. And she realized that she had been munching for weeks and had never stopped to ask what was underneath. And I know this sounds too simple. But that reaction is a function of biochemistry. Nine times out of ten, things are simple and we complicate them.

Once she was clear, she focused her energy and in 3 days, all those issues were settled. Concentrated focus is a mighty tool but we rarely use it. We dissipate it with sugar or munching. This is a learned skill. And skill coming with doing. In this case, the *doing* is getting quiet. Remember that your molecules know what is best. But the sugar static gets in the way. Quiet the static and answers will come.


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