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Dec 27, 2020,,
 
Hi {!firstname_fix},  
 Well, we passed through Christmas time. I suspect for most of us who celebrate, this year was strange, very strange. I felt disconnected and just wanted it to be over. David had gotten a tree from the mountains. His friend had brought it down. I just felt sad that a living thing had to give its life for me. We decided not to put lights on it, or to put the ornaments in case Miss Rosie decided first Christmas would be time for more shredding. Christmas Eve felt sadder because it usually is such a sacred time for me.
    The luminarias have always be the most important part of the season. I think this year, many people were just feeling sad as well. There were very few out and in fact a number of people were doing "light shows."   It all just felt weird.
    But something happened on Christmas morning. I was alone in the house and went in and spent time with the naked tree. Light was just breaking and it lit up the tree from behind and it was so beautiful, so full of tree energy. We had stockings. Rosie shredded the tissue and lay like a hamster in her shreds My Sister in Law and Brother had sent a heavy box that turned out to be a robot vacuum. Three dogs in a dusty town means a lot of hair and a lot of dirt.
     We decided to activate the robot. Andrew put its brushes in and got it ready. I pushed "A" on the remote which told it to do its thing The little robot ended up sweeping my entire house, all by itself. I don't know why this touched me so much, but it just seemed so tender, so sweet. This little disk just did its thing, no comments, no fretting, just making its way about and sucking up debris.  It doesn't sound funny, but I felt as if my inside debris got sucked up as well. Saved by a vacuum on Christmas Day sounds like a fitting end to 2020.
    Today I feel back in my body, and feel as if my spirit has come home to roost like the little robot when it was time to "go home" to his charger. I am looking forward to the new year. I feel grateful for being able to plug in and recharge.  Much will unfold. Thank you for your patience and kindness. 
   
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Hi guys...good morning! Prepping the oats went well last night, although I put the pan back on the turned-off burner after adding the oats to the pan.i even heard jo's voice in my head, "do not put the pan back on the burner...it will boil over..." :-) and guess what! It did! It gave me a good laugh... always testing and needing to learn it for myself. Oh well, at least I didn't get mad at myself.

 

I couldn't wait to peek in the lid this morning! They were too crunchy for my taste so I added some water and heated them up. They cooked up nicely while I cooked eggs and reheated sausage in the microwave. I added cottage cheese to them -- ate them with 1.5 egg/cheese omelet and 1.5 pieces of sausage.

 

I got breakfast in just within the hour but it took me the whole hour in the kitchen. I wasn't as focused as I'd like to be but hey I did it.

 

Tomorrow I'm going to do the same breakfast just to see if I can prestage a couple of more things (plates & bowls seem to confound me in the morning somehow) to get it in me sooner.

 

Thanks!

Jane

 

Granola

 

One of our community members and the liaison for the Parents group, Stacey, invented this recipe and everyone just loves it! She even takes it and puts it into fancy gift bags and gives it away as gifts for the holidays. I bet you will all love it, too!

  • 4 cups old-fashioned rolled oats
  • 2 cups sweetened, shredded or flaked coconut
  • 2 cups sliced almonds
  • 1/2 cup vegetable oil
  • 1/2 cup apple juice
  • 2 teaspoons ground cinnamon

Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F.

 

Toss the oats, coconut and almonds together in a large bowl. Pour the vegetable oil and apple juice over the oat mixture. Add the cinnamon, and stir with a wooden spoon until all the oats and nuts are coated with the liquids. Pour onto a sheet pan. Bake, stirring occasionally with a spatula, until the mixture turns a nice, even golden brown, about 25 to 30 minutes.

 

Remove the granola from the oven and allow to cool, stirring occasionally. Store the cooled granola in an airtight container.

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Soyal

Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.

 

Today I want to share with you about my most treasured period of the year, Soyal.

Soyal is a 16 day ceremonial period, practiced by the Hopi Indians, the oldest group of Native Americans.  Soyal starts on Solstice, the shortest day of the year and is a call to the spirits to keep the sun from disappearing. It is a time when the spirits, known as Kachinas come down from the mountains to live with the people to call and honor the power of the sun.

 

Soyal is a period of 16 days that establish the mood for the coming year. I feel very connected to it because I was once doing a training at Hopi in Decemeber and learned directly the reverence the people have for this time. I always thought it was intriguing that Soyal ends just at the same as Epiphany in the Christian tradition. It feels like a quiet time of formation, and at the end of it the *light* be it the sun or the son will be presented to the world.

 

I love the principles and want to share them with you.

 

Soyal begins with an expression of assurance that the ceremony will accomplish its purpose, and end with a feast of celebration and a public Kachina dance. The intention is set at the beginning and then celebrated 16 days later with the knowing that it will happen.I think the addition of the great conjunction between Saturn and Jupiter adds to the potential power of Soyal. My intention is for reconciliation and healing.

 

Elders teach that Soyal time is a time to teach respect for others so there is to be no disturbing behavior. Hopis believe that loud behavior is self centered, it interrupts others and disturbs the spirits who are setting the intention of abundance for the year to come.

 

I love the idea that we might create our own Soyal and concentrate on our own attitudes and feelings that will bring us closer to our people and quiet the turmoil in the world.

 

Soyal creates inner peace. Our problems will quiet. We fret less because we trust that things will be all right. If we trust in the balance of the universe, we build an inner strength that will shield us as the balancing works its way. Following the Soyal instructions will give us freedom.

 

Here are the instructions.  As you read, reflect on what this might mean in your life and think about your connection to the people who were here before any of our American ancestors were. And remember that these traditions and intentions stretch back hundreds and hundreds of years.

 

1. Use wholesome words when you talk to or describe people. Uplift, and do not hurt others.

 

2. Ask the Spirits to listen to you and to bring the rain of loving care down upon the whole world.

 

3. Guard against disturbing or loud behavior.

 

4. Teach children to respect others, and tell them why they should do this.

 

5. Think of the earth as Mother Earth or Earth Mother, a Spirit person who is a living organism who feels and responds.

 

6. During these sixteen days, do not dig in the earth, since Mother Earth is joining you in this Soyal period of peace and preparation.

 

7. Talk with those who are close to you of the past, the present, and the future. Discuss what is going on in the world, and try to determine where it is heading. Do not postpone the strengthening of your bonds with family members. As Maasaw knew it would, this has become a neglected area in our way of life here in the United States, and it is something we need to correct.

 

8. Review with yourself and these same close ones the Divine laws. These laws will vary with different cultures and religions. But we all know, or at one time did know, our own, and we know the Hopi laws now. Talking about them will refresh our minds about what we were taught to do, and will expose how far we have strayed from these mandates. If we do not do well at this discussion, we will know that we need to return to our Sources so that we can do better next year.

 

9. Review your own conduct during the past year, and the conduct and attitudes of people as a whole.

 

10. Make an honest self-examination, and see where you can make improvements. This is a touchy topic, and one that can easily be ignored. If we hope to do better than we have, we must take a good look at ourselves and be honest about what we find.

 

11. Make plans for the forthcoming year. Prepare in advance the known and the unknown. This will include a review of the prophecies. Keep an eye on what is happening at Hotevilla, as well as around the world. What do YOU need to do to get ready for the Great Purification? It is wise to think this over.

 

12. Remember that the Creator, Earth Mother, Father Sun, and the other Helper Spirits, the controllers of movement here and in the universe, are making their own plans, based upon the course the Great Play is following. Try to determine what this course might be, and prepare accordingly.

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