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May 26, 2021,
 
Hi {!firstname_fix}, 
    All rightie. Here is an unexpected newsletter in the middle of the week. It is completely random. I will get back on schedule on Sunday. Seems like this time is kinda random. I have been having fun reading about PTSD and dopamine depletion. It helps me make sense of having intention, intention and then suddenly 10 days have gone by.
    Regular life is returning. I still like having groceries delivered LOL. I like slow and reflective. I am happy to be alive, happy that the dogs are ok, happy that my children and grandchildren are ok. And very, very grateful for our community.
     
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I have interrupted the schedule to design and offer a 28 day rehab class for people who are needing support in crawling out of dopamine depletion mode. We talked about this as an idea last Sunday when we did a follow up ZOOM meeting to Radiant Ranch. We just started it today. Totally flexible times, different modes of learning, very affordable and really fun.
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People have been asking for a long time how they might be able to work with me directly. We wanted to set up something that was accessible and affordable so we designed a system of coaching that seems to be working well. If you are serious about enhancing your program and would like to have ongoing coaching, this might be a good option. Support is provided in a small group with people who are looking at similar concerns.  I am in each coaching group. This is not a class but is a process to support your progress. The process includes peer support with my  guidance and direction.
    Coaching includes the 28 day rehab process right now.
 
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    I also provide individual one on one intensive coaching called Signature Coaching.  I can help you step out of the craziness of sugar addiction, return to steadiness and clarity after slipping away, slow down and focus on your recovery, or deepen a steady rhythm of recovery. This particular option is especially helpful if you did the steps a while ago and then kinda meandered away. Or if you are facing some intense times and would. like skillful support. 
 
     Signature coaching offers several options. Most people do a 3 month process that includes doing an in-depth assessment of where you are in the process, designing an individual plan for you and then talking with me once a week via phone or Zoom to work on your progress. You will learn to do an efficient journal and to identify your strengths and challenges.  Other people chose to do a month long intensive to get a sense of whether the process is suited to their style. And some people continue to work beyond the initial 3 months in special arrangements we work out for their budget and progress. All signature coaching starts with an initial assessment meeting at no charge to you. This time allows us to collaborate on the best way to work with your food and style.
    This is the way to step out of feeling overwhelmed with where to start and what to do. Because it is so individualized, we can work on what is right for you at this point in your journey.  People tell me that coaching helps them feel safe and focused. We work with your style, your rhythm. This is a unique opportunity to release your fear and let go of shame.The guidance can shorten and ease your process so that in 3 months you will do what you might take a year to do on your own. Signature coaching is also an excellent way to tackle any special needs you may have. like wanting to get sober, or dealing with insulin resistance, or integrating doing the food with special medical concerns.
    And in fact, we have developed some creative personalized plans especially suited to where people are in the program and what will work best to support them.You can go here to learn more about it.  Call 505-345-3737 if you would like more information. 
 
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Yep, it all starts with breakfast. I can't speak for anyone else, but I think I kept looking for the "quick fix" rather than do the steps. When I finally, honestly admitted the quick fix wasn't working, then I was finally willing to do whatever it took to do the steps, THE WAY KATHLEEN WROTE THEM. And isn't that a concept (smile). I kept wanting to do them MY way, then wondering why it didn't work.

 

So, breakfast, breakfast, breakfast. You are on your way.

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We have continued to hold chats. Each Wed night we get together and talk about the process of body image and how weight loss [or not] fits in. T Chats used to be serious stuff. People were anxious and overwhelmed by being fat. We no longer feel that way. We have a solution that we know works. Our task has become simply to help people stay focused on the doing. 

 

Here is a quote from a YLD member:

 

It has been quite a while since I checked in with you folks. It was not because I wasn't following the plan or had lost interest. Life was unusually stressful from early Dec to the present and I have been putting "stress management" at the top of my agenda. I continue to be absolutely in awe of what Kathleen has discovered. I feel I have found "my home" - a place where I feel at peace with my body. I weighed myself today for the first time in 2 months - I have lost 10-12 pounds since starting on this journey with you. And, more importantly, I feel so good in my body. I've read with interest what some of you have been saying about the loss of emotional energy around weight loss. This feeling of being OK with where I am now - no, not just OK, but radiant - is incredible.

 

I did post a instruction sheet for how to get to chat. It is in the files at the YLD email list online.  We are working on making it simpler and easier to get in. Please call me at 505-345-3737 if you have any trouble with it.

 

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A Story of The Clown

Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.

 

I share this article from time to time. I think it is particularly appropriate right now. See if you can see how Radiant Recovery® is like the doll hospital.

 

I was visiting my brother and we were chatting in his storage room where he has his exercise bike set up. I noticed the clown, Clowny, sitting on some magazines. It was Clowny, my brother’s doll from a long time ago. Long enough to be on the edge of collectible and antique. So I asked him where he came from. *Oh,* he said, *I was putting things away and found him in a box.* This is an important find. So I told him that I thought he should get Clowny restored. His clown suit was frayed, his cap was chewed off, his shoes were almost worn to the skin, and his nose was patched. My brother knows about restoration because he has some old Native American textiles and old maps and things. He treasures old things. He liked the idea.

 

We went online and googled doll restoration. It seemed as if Clowny was from the family of Raggedy Ann and Andy dolls. We tried a couple of Ann and Andy restorers, but the chemistry wasn’t right. We found a doll clinic in Atlanta - ah the joys of the internet and the US Post office. Yes, Linda would see him and tell us what she thought. So my brother sent Clowny off in a box.

 

The first message came back as a functional exploration of what needed to be done. My brother’s replies to the clown restorer are in bold.

 

 

Hi:

 

Well, interesting project.

 

#1, clean clown body, as from years of use, he will dry rot most likely, if NOT done. OK

 

#2, replace black boot feet. Is it necessary to replace ?

 

#3, replace head, re-stitch features on new face, (keeping color of fabric as close to original as possible) - will not match exactly, but when dressed, one won't notice particularly. Is it really necessary to replace?

 

#4, re-attach old hair to new head. *I removed the "patch" to see what type nose was there, appears to be a green triangular one? Advise if you remember-am I correct, most of it is long gone, I see only faint evidence of the original for my clues. I see the stitch marks of the brows, black thread, think they were black. OK

 

#5, re-stuff Mr. Clown. What is his name? OK - "Clowny"

 

#6, Clothing: Either clean up and patch old suit, or make a new one using a fabric with the flavor of the old, but we are minus the material for the hat. We can make a new suit/hat, or restore the old, making some sort of hat to accompany the suit. Definitely clean up & patch old suit.

 

The old suit is mangled at the sleeve edge, but I could add a ruffle on the end of each sleeve to hide the damage on the one sleeve, and they would both match then. The hole in the center of the neck ruffle can be hidden with a pom-pom. I prefer to retain the integrity of Mr. Clown, because if I change him in a dramatic way, he is no longer (YOUR CLOWN)! I completely agree.

 

Once I clean the the body, I remove the head and I iron the face. I trace very carefully the features, they are my pattern that I will use for thr needlework for the features. Originally the mouth and eyes were outlined in black. I follow this carefully, so as not to alter what was original. I even try to hand stitch as was original to it. Great

 

The one problem is the hat. There is a wee bit of fabric still on the head, remove it, perhaps incorporate a tad of it onto the new one, perhaps a dot on the new hat so it adds a connection. Good

 

What I am attempting to do, in my own sneaky artistic way, is to restore Clown, not make him look like he rolled outta Walmart! Oh yes.

 

I mark the old head, so that I can replace his ratty (but clean) old hair back onto the head, even tho pieces are missing. You wore it off, it stays that way! If I add more, not your Clown guy anymore! You chew end of his hat? Not nice! Yes

 

Okay, there you have it. It can be done successfully, little bit of magic to make it happen, but we can get the job done. Trust me, I love these brain teasers.

 

Please let me know what your desires are, and thank you for contacting me with your needs.

 

 

So they came to agreement to proceed. And then something started happening. Here is Linda’s next note:

 

 

Hi:

 

I'm alive and kicking. Clowny and I are having a great time. He is presently in his "birthday suit", because his "suit" is soaking in chemicals and coming out remarkably clean. I'm impressed. I removed his hat, and there is some fabric there. I believe the original had a rolled stuffed brim all the way around like a skinny donut. The hat possibly might have come to a point like a clown hat with perhaps a pom-pom attached to the end, or was a dome attached to the donut like brim. I'd bet on the clown pointed version with or without pom-pom. You ate it, what was it?

 

1. Shoes. The original will not hold up to restuffing, but I will use the old ones as a pattern, "age" the black fabric so it will not "bounce" off his legs visually. As I force the stuffing into his feet, they will not hold the filler, they will split apart, too dry rotten. I need that foot support to stuff the remainder of the legs.

 

Another thing. I'll bet "Mom" made Clowny and I also retain the stitch integrity, as I open up each leg/hand compartment individually at the side seams, I do not undo the original hand stitching, but go into the machine stitching instead. Whatever set of "loving hands" did the work, those stitches remain intact.

 

Each compartment is emptied before cleaning is attempted. Nasty old stuffing is removed, patching is done before the "bath", detailing, afterwards.

 

2. I was thinking about the head all day long, as it is so important to his originality. I am going to "patch" him from the inside, support the torn face from the inside, and try to hide as best possible, the damage. It will show, but it will not be as obvious as the "patch". Once I put the nose back on, which is totally gone, less a few telltale stitches, it will draw attention away from the rips. He will just look well loved, but original too. There is plenty of thread in the mouth, also, someone tried to paint it red at one point.

 

I think we are in agreement in that saving his face is paramount, and we both give the Walmart approach the "boot"!

 

I just had a couple of dolls come in that were "restored". They were the total pits. As I was speaking to my customer, I was systematically ripping the wig off one of them and the look on her face was hysterical. I was speaking very matter of factly, waving around this wig as I spoke. Too funny. Something as inappropriate as that wig, bit the dust immediately.

 

The fact that the "white" of his suit is coming clean is great, then the additional hat fabric will not stand out. I will also trash the pom-poms to give them a little AGE.

 

His body is VERY fragile. Saliva, tears, grease/grime, acidity, etc., break down the fibers. The face is the MOST fragile part. The body must be cleaned SLOWLY, any stitching is done without any tension, as it would rip right out of the existing fabric.

 

I believe you will be well pleased with the end result. I love the abstract part, the challenge, to see what I can pull off. Personal challenges engage my mind, oddly enough, easy stuff bores me to no end! In over 30 years, I never thought that there was something that I could not fix. What is really weird is that I'll accept a job period, and figure out HOW I'm going to fix it LATER, go figure! Guess the abstract/artist thing gels. Not a clue.

 

Anyway, we are rolling with Clowny, he is sleeping, I covered him up, he was freezing! Wait till I "operate", and screams of agony resonate from my studio.

 

 

My brother and I started talking about when he had Clowny. I knew he had him when we were in Tucson because I remember seeing pictures of him carrying him. As we talked, we both had this image of Clowny in Milwaukee, just after I was born. Clowny when Peter was in the snowsuit and Mom had a new baby. And we talked about the fact that Clowny was a homemade doll, not a Raggedy Andy type fellow. It seemed to fit, maybe a Midwestern doll from a church sale. We hung up.

 

I was smiling thinking of that little funny dolly. Then Peter sent these emails along and the idea that *Mom* made the doll stopped me cold. It is possible, I thought. My mother’s mother was an incredible seamstress. She made all sorts of doll clothes for my mother by hand. Tiny stiches, little dresses with smocking on the front, little knickers and undershirts to match. So my mother learned to sew. And that winter she was at home, not working. She could have made Clowny. Somehow that idea just fill me with peace. Sort of like Mom’s loving being restored.

 

Linda seems like my kind of woman. She does dolly restoration...I do people...

 

Here are her words again, I think they apply to all of us.

 

I mark the old head, so that I can replace his ratty (but clean) old hair back onto the head, even tho pieces are missing. You wore it off, it stays that way! If I add more, not your Clown guy anymore! You chew end of his hat? Not nice!

 

the body must be cleaned SLOWLY.....

 

I hope you like this story as much as I do.

 
 

 

 

 "If you are going to be with a person in a dark hole, take a ladder and a lantern." the steps are the ladder and our humor and perspective is the lantern. You are not alone. Grace is unfolding.

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