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We have a master community email list. It is nice place to get started if you are new to the community or are coming back and are wondering
what to do. Introduce yourself and ask for help. Or just listen. We won't mind. The community is made up of a huge number of introverts which means LISTENING is held in high esteem. We will direct you to the right spot for your questions. It's fine if you know nothing, just stop in and you will be welcomed.
It is also the place to ask about things like what to do with your sugar intake in the afternoon while you are still on Step 1 and we won't open that discussion on the Step 1 list :). . Join it now.
GROUPS
The groups list is up on the web site. Just sign up for the group you would like to join. Read about the group before you ask to join. If you are starting or returning, join the Step One list. Don't join Step One and Step Two and Step Three all at the same time. If you. have any trouble joining, send me an email at kathleen@radiantrecoverycom and we will get you all set.
CLASSES
Return to Radiance [aka 28 day rehab] is a unique learning opportunity to get back on track with a group of people who are highly motivated to move forward with healing. This small group experience has proven to be incredibly effective at
getting you focused, mobilized and motivated. You commit to a month at a time, share on an email list, come to weekly chat, and attend a Zoom meeting if you like. We have fun, make specific plans, share success and laugh at regression. We call it healing. Sign up.
JOIN US ON FACEBOOK
If you prefer talking on Facebook, come over to our group there. Radiant Recovery®,.
WORKING WITH KATHLEEN
People have been asking for a long time how they might be able to work with me directly. I provide individual one on one intensive coaching called Signature Coaching. I can help you step out of the craziness of sugar addiction, return to steadiness and clarity after slipping away, slow down and focus on your recovery, or deepen a steady rhythm of recovery. This particular option is especially helpful if you did the steps a while ago and then kinda meandered away. Or if you are facing some intense times and would. like skillful
support.
This particular level of coach involves sharing your food journal and assessing where you are in the process on a whole different level. It is a big step and an act of commitment because generally we are told "do not tell" how it really is.
Signature coaching offers several options. Most people do a 3 month process that includes doing an in-depth assessment of where you are in the process, designing an individual plan for you and then talking with me once a week via phone or Zoom to work on your progress. You will learn to do an efficient journal and to
identify your strengths and challenges.
Other people chose to do a month long intensive to get a sense of whether the process is suited to their style. And some people continue to work beyond the initial 3 months in special arrangements we work out for their budget and progress. All signature
coaching starts with an initial assessment meeting at no charge to you. This time allows us to collaborate on the best way to work with your food and style.
This is the way to step out of feeling overwhelmed with where to start and what to do. Because it is so individualized, we can work on what is right for you at this point in your journey. People tell me that coaching
helps them feel safe and focused. We work with your style, your rhythm. This is a unique opportunity to release your fear and let go of shame.The guidance can shorten and ease your process so that in 3 months you will do what you might take a year to do on your own. Signature coaching is also an excellent way to tackle any special needs you may have. like wanting to get sober, or dealing with insulin resistance, or integrating doing the
food with special medical concerns.
And in fact, we have developed some creative personalized plans especially suited to where people are in the program and what will work best to support them.You can go here to learn more about it. Call 505-345-3737 if you would like more information. I am ALWAYS happy to talk
to. you about options. We can do a "meet and greet".
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"Learning that you can have positive feelings from a thousand things other than food is a wonderful insight."
Testimonial for the Week
Every once in a while, I will get a note that just stops me cold. This was one of them. How could I ever explain what it means to me that these things happen?
Since Thanksgiving, I have been getting feedback from various sources that my daughter Molly, who has obesity and Down Syndrome has been showing an increase in energy, enthusiasm for physical activity and strengthened endurance. She has been doing step one with me for almost 3 months and I woke this am thinking about the change in her.
We did the Turkey Trot race on the morning of thanksgiving, and she took off without me and her walking sticks thinking it grand that she was beating her Mom. She is an apple tree in a musical next week and the players remark about her humor and her willingness to endure the long practices. Just all-round improvement and it delights me a lot.
She can't understand the steps but relys on me to apply them, so we just have a parallel plan. Her sneaking and obsession with food seems to be lessening as well since moving all food to 3 times a day and a snack. That is it! That is all I want from Santa....Thanks Kathleen.
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Originally, I was going to include a recipe for my Mac and Cheese which has to be the simplest recipe in the world. But last week in chat, Gretel was asking what she could use for Christmas morning breakfast. We had an absolutely wonderful discussion [in
case you wonder what we do in chat] and I thought it would be fun to share it with you. I am including the actual dialogue because it is way more fun than just a report.
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Gretel
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I am in quest for a breakfast casserole for DH and me since we can have breakfast before we start the rest of the day. Not sure what it will be yet, but something we will both like instead of shakes we have every day
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Chloe
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Nice
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Alison G
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sounds good Gretel
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radiantkd
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do you guys eat bread?
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Chloe
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not really
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Alison G
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rarely
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Gretel
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not usually
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PE
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homemade
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anna27
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I like Ezekiel bread
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Irina
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gluten free, a slice
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Janice
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as recreational food
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anna27
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Oh yes, PE, and homemade
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Nancy P
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only bread-like things made with non-wheat flour
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Marcy
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gluten free whole grain
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Alison G
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homemade sourdough when I do eat it
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radiantkd
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you could make a French toast casserole without the sugar
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radiantkd
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gluten free
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Nancy P
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That sounds good!
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Gretel
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ohhhhhhhhhh, then i'd want syrup LOL
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Marcy
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:)
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radiantkd
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or whole grain GF waffles
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Marcy
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applesauce?
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radiantkd
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applesauce
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Chloe
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applesauce or yogurt
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Gretel
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ah that would work, with cinnamon
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anna27
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frozen blueberries heated into a sauce?
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radiantkd
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and little pork sausages
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Chloe
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yes
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Marcy
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:)
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Janice
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cook down blueberries
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Gretel
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DH loves bacon and I do too, we probably would do that
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PE
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I was thinking of something like that earlier
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Chloe
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i eat almond butter and Greek yogurt on my pancakes
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radiantkd
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blues and pork sausage is delious
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radiantkd
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we are so creative
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radiantkd
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See I will put this in the newsletter
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radiantkd
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LOL I was waiting to talk with you
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Chloe
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:)
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radiantkd
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or buckwheat waffles
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Gretel
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yummmmmmmm
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Chloe
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yes buckwheat is nice
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PE
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I love buckwheat waffles
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Nancy P
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We make a vanilla pudding for our waffles. 2 batches - one with milk, the other dairy-free. And one without sugar, just for me.
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PE
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now you have me thinking chicken and waffles for brekkie
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PE
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with sweet potato waffles
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Gretel
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Actually buckwheat pancakes with applesauce and bacon I think is going to be what I will do!
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Chloe
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decided
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radiantkd
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that sounds delious
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Gretel
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I don't have or have room for a waffle maker
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Gretel
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but buckwheat pancakes with applesauce would work well
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radiantkd
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`I got Bob's Red mill buckwheat pancake mix
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Gretel
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yes!!!!!
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Chloe
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yes
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Gretel
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I will get that!!!!
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Chloe
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good mix
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Gretel
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And Irish butter
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radiantkd
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absolutely
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anna27
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yum
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Gretel
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DH found some at one of our supermarkets
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Gretel
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and loves it
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Marcy
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:)
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Nancy P
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How is Irish butter different from plain butter?
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radiantkd
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LOLOLOL
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radiantkd
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jogger fat content
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PE
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you guys...I laughed when I opened he fridge here, there was sitting Kerrygold
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radiantkd
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higher
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Gretel
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Only your tongue will know LOL
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Chloe
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Lol I just went and read!
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Nancy P
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OK
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PE
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I had to eat "less fat" cheese in Ireland to make it approximate to our normal cheese
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radiantkd
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aout how it is different?
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PE
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it is loaded
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radiantkd
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the cows eat very green grass
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Gretel
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:)
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radiantkd
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the butter they export is their low grade
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PE
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you actually can taste the difference in the food, I mean from what the cows eat
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David, my oldest son, runs our store. He makes sure your orders go out quickly and works with you to find the best things suited to where you are in your process.
Welcome to all the new people! If you are just getting started, my suggestion is to order some Restore, a Journal and a copy of the cookbook. The cookbook has the. most incredible information in it - not stuff that is in the books. I actually even use it myself LOL.
I am featuring Zinc this week because of all the information I am reading about it being viral protective. Kathleen was really happy when Nordic Naturals started doing a formulation. She loves the company and uses this formula herself.
Our store has grown because of your requests and input. I like to think of this as the community service store - an interactive opportunity for people who are healing from sugar sensitivity.
Thank you for your continued support of Radiant Recovery® and the store. If you have any questions, you are welcome to call me at the office.
Thanks
David
Come visit our STORE.
Call 505-345-3737.
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Your Last Diet: A Surprise Awaiting
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After all this time YLD continues to be a favorite place for people in the community. If you struggle with your body image, if you have chased diets for years, here is a wonderful alternative.I was thinking about YLD because someone asked me if it would help her lose weight. So I said, "yes" but really it is
designed to help you stop fretting about your body. Truth in packaging, you know.
Here is a quote from a YLD member:
It has been quite a while since I checked in with you folks. It was not because I wasn't following the plan or had lost interest. Life was unusually stressful from early Dec to the present and I have been putting "stress management" at the top of my agenda. I continue to be absolutely in awe of what Kathleen has discovered. I feel
I have found "my home" - a place where I feel at peace with my body. I weighed myself today for the first time in 2 months - I have lost 10-12 pounds since starting on this journey with you. And, more importantly, I feel so good in my body. I've read with interest what some of you have been saying about the loss of emotional energy around weight loss. This feeling of being OK with where I am now - no, not just OK, but radiant - is incredible.
I did post a instruction sheet for how to get to chat. It is in the files at the YLD email list online. We are working on making it simpler and easier to get in. Please call me at 505-345-3737 if you have any trouble with it.
If you are not a YLD member, come and join us. Click here if you are ready to change your life or just plain ole have fun.
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You CAN say No
Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.
Margot Silk Forest is one of my most favorite people in the world. She taught me how to graciously say *no*. I think this is a great time of year to hear it again! I have included her list of 42 ways to say No right here. And one thing I will share about learning this skill - most of the time, if you are having a sense of humor and kindness while holding your ground, it is WAY more effective. Now sometimes, you can say no in a clear and kind way and the person will still be mad at you.
This is especially true if you are setting a boundary with a person who is in active addiction. If you are in that situation, ALWAYS remember that you will be blamed
42 Ways to Say “No”
(or buy time until you can)
especially during the holiday season!
by Margot Silk Forrest
author of A Short Course in Kindness
A lot of us have difficulty saying “No.” This list, offered with compassion and a little humor, will help you get comfortable with turning people down, refusing to answer
nosy or offensive questions, asking people to stop doing something you don’t like, and telling others you disagree them.
As you develop your “No” muscles, see if you can shift from saying “I can’t” to forthrightly saying “I won’t.” Also try exchanging “I don’t want you to…” for “Don’t….” You
will feel vastly more empowered -- and have more time for yourself and the people you really care about when you do.
When Someone Asks You To Do Something For Them or With Them
- The enthusiastic (polite/helpful/etc.) part of me would like to say yes, but the rest of me is overcommitted (more realistic/unwilling/etc.).
- I don't know. I'll have to think that over.
- I wish I could help you out, but I’m overextended/overcommitted right now.
- I'm going to pass. I'm really trying to slow down my pace these days.
- That’s something I’ll have to think about.
- I don't have my calendar with me, but I can call and let you know tomorrow.
- Sorry, I'm already booked.
- No, I can't make it after all. But it was nice of you to ask.
- I’ll think it over.
- Thanks, but I'm way too tired.
- No, that's not really my thing.
- Don't hold your breath!
- I have an appointment that day/night. (And you don’t have to say what it is!)
- That’s not for me, thanks.
- Oh, that sounds interesting. Let me think about it and get back to you.
- I'm not sure if I'm free that day/night. Let me check and call you tomorrow.
- Sorry, but my schedule is too full right now.
- The part that wants to make you happy wants to say yes, but the rest of me won the vote. I'll pass.
- Thanks, but I don't think I will.
- That’s not really something I enjoy.
- That doesn't work for me.
- That doesn't fit for me.
- When you want to have some fun saying no, try one of these: Not in this lifetime! Forget it! Dream on! No way, Jose! You must be kidding! Not in a million years! Are you out of your mind?
When Someone Does, Asks, or Says or Asks Something Invasive
- I'm not comfortable with that.
- I'd like to ask you not to _________________________________.
- I'd like you to stop __________________________________.
- Please stop doing that. I don’t like it.
- I'm uncomfortable right now with what you're saying/doing.
- That’s not something I talk about except with family.
- Let’s talk about something else.
- I want to keep that to myself.
- That's my business.
- I'm surprised you think you have a right to that information.
- I don't feel like talking about it.
- And you are asking me this because… ?? (Try saying this with a look of utter disbelief.)
- Sorry, that's not something I talk about.
- I never answer questions like that.
When Someone Says Something You Disagree With
- I see it differently than you do.
- We certainly don't agree about that.
- I have a different point of view.
- My experience of _______________________ is somewhat different.
- I hear what you are saying, but I don’t agree with it.
Copyright © 2003 by Margot Silk
Forrest
"If you are going to be with a person in a dark hole, take a ladder and a lantern." the steps are the ladder and our humor and perspective is the lantern.
You are not alone. Grace is unfolding.
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