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June 15, 2015

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We have a couple of fun things to share. We have made new business cards for you to use in sharing information about the program. Here is the front and back of them. In designing the cards, we have done a lot of thinking about our *identity*. A lot of changes have happened in the world of sugar in the last year. What once was a fringe idea has become all the rage. Of course if you are here, you know that just *stopping* sugar is NOT the answer and in fact can make things a whole lot worse. So we want to continue reminding people that we are the ones who talk about *healing* rather than just stopping.



We are continuing to do the planning for a revised website and services. I am sure you will be excited to learn about coming changes - simplicity and focus.

This class will begin Wednesday, June 17, 2015. Please click on the name of the class and it will take you to the registration page:

Radiant Clothing (2 weeks) - will explore our relationship to clothes after you start changing your sense of your self. How you want to dress, what works, what doesn’t work. What about all the clothes in the closet that do not fit. Do you want them? Even if they fit now, are they what you want to wear? How can you have a sense of style? Come have fun and play with us in a journey of discovery.

This class will begin Wednesday, June 24, 2015. Please click on the name of the class and it will take you to the registration page:

Using Radiant Resources (1 week) - is a free orientation for those of you who are brand new and would like to find your way around all the things we offer in the community. One of our mentors will show you the ropes. Watch for the welcoming email with a link to join the Yahoo list we use as our classroom.

A number of you have asked me how the classes work. Check the class list page for more information on this. And please go read the questions and answers before you write to me. If you have trouble getting through the process, write the tech forum.

Be sure to visit our Radiant Recovery website and Community Forum regularly.



**Quote From Kathleen **

All this work will create enormous gains for you. As you 'do the food,' you are going to reconnect with your birthright.


**Testimonial of the Week **

Well today was our last day of our mini grown-up holiday....the children return tomorrow!!!..... we woke early...funny that when you can actually enjoy a lie in, the builder opposite and my body clock have different ideas!

I got up and made my shake, but being decadent I took it back to bed and enjoyed it while reading and chatting to hubby..it was lovely really talking with no interruptions!

After a few chores, we decided to visit some garden centres and nurseries, I used to go a lot, but then there was no space left for plants and sin of all sins Lily dog developed a taste for things horticultural...not a good idea if you want to please your mistress! So she is older and wiser now..and I have lost some plants this winter.

Now garden centre fare isn't really RR friendly...cakes and scones..white stuff is the order of the day. So, armed with this knowledge, we plumped for my yummy egg and salad sandwiches before commencing battle with the hordes in the petunias!

'Twas lovely to sit in our garden and eat lunch together, it felt like a date, without the butterflies in your tummy :o) A blackbird on our roof completed the scene and sang a beautiful tune!

I was pleased that not all the west country had followed our lead and the garden places weren't too busy. One place did some nifty hats, which we both had to try on and giggle over. We eventually ended up in my favourite nursery where the only problem is deciding what not to take home. Despite my love of so many plants, I did manage to stick to my purple and orange colour plan, and after a lovely decaf tea stop we came away with some gems at bargain prices. Well they are small, which suits me, as I love to watch them grow, impatient gardeners literally pay the price! Sadly I couldn't find a particular type of rose I was after..but I can wait, and it means I have to go visit these places again ;o)

Back home, tea was already planned and DH cooked. We had lamb chops with fresh mint from my garden, skins on mash, broccoli, cauli, peas and carrots. Followed by some Hereford strawberries and a dollop of cream...yum!

A bit of gardening was calling....well chopping and clearing mostly, but we did plant the Clematis that was acquired today. Hopefully it will be happy winding its way up some gnarled trunk.

Relaxing time now!

Tomorrow we shall collect the children, we are both looking forward to seeing them and hearing more about their adventures.

Hope you all had a good day too.

G x


**Notes from the Forum **

Why I stay with the programme? That is an easy one for me to answer.

Here is me pre steps: I have a lovely life but I am totally anxious, weight obsessed. I have rosacea/acne and dermatitis. I live on a permanent yo yo of dieting. Certain foods pull me in and I feel controlled by it. I am tied to drama and worrying. I am fat and self-conscious and less-than. I have the same old black tops and leggings and I cant fit in anything else.

Me with steps steady: I still have my lovely life and I appreciate it. I am calm. My skin is clear and I don't feel embarrassed about it any more. I have a keen eye on my journal and work on my weight maintenance. It's work but I don't feel driven by that any more, it's just something I do. I have a great freedom around food now and I get to choose. I have a normal BMI for the first time in my life. I love shopping for tops and jeans. I don't get pulled into other peoples drama so much these days. It's peaceful.

If something is off in my steps, I have a little reminder of what life used to be like. For instance, last year I ate some unwise pecans with sugar on.... I got very rosy and looked sunburnt and DH said .... 'What did you eat ?' And added to that, while travelling I didn't get enough protein etc - well! I felt low and grumpy and the world was against me. I knew it would pass though and focused on the steps as much as possible to rebalance.

So it is so easy to stay and not slip. No contest about it, I so much prefer steady, I wouldn't say it has been easy, though. There were times in step three when I thought I had fallen down a hole and would never get out. But I don't regret those experiences. I learnt such a lot from them.

The 'tools' that help me are: journal (because if I don't journal I forget) and connection. Reading the forum and listening to everyone's ideas and reminders. Focusing on my step. I do step seven but often have a special eye on one of them according to my circumstances.



** Radiant Recovery® Store **

We still have a few sets of the Magic Bowls left in case you missed the offering last week. If you have no idea what this is about check last week's newsletter. (smile)

This week I want to feature the Radiant Recovery cookbook. It has some great recipes. But it also has lots of other neat stuff, like info on browns and how to calculate proteins and material that has not been published anywhere.

I love the cookbook. I think it is a great resource for any radiant kitchen, or for any kitchen wanting to be radiant. And a number of people have been posting recipes from the cookbook on Facebook.

Please send questions and suggestions. I love hearing from you and truly want to help you do your program better.


**Radiant Kitchen **

Strawberry Soup

  • 1 lb. (about 4 cups) sliced strawberries (fresh or frozen)
  • 1 c. apple juice
  • 1 1/2 tsp. lemon juice
  • 1 1/2 tsp. apple cider vinegar
  • 1/4 tsp. ground cinnamon
  • 1/4 tsp. ground nutmeg
  • 1/4 tsp. ground black pepper
  • 1/8 tsp. ground cardamom
  • Yogurt or sour cream for garnish
  • Sprinkle of cinnamon for garnish
Combine first 8 ingredients in a blender (strawberries through cardamom). Process until smooth; you may need to work in batches. Chill at least 3 hours. Garnish with a dollop of yogurt or sour cream and dust with ground cinnamon. Serve cold. Makes 3 servings.

Notes: If you use frozen strawberries, be sure to purchase unsweetened brands. You may wish to slightly thaw berries to make processing easier. This soup can be served as a refreshing appetizer or as a light dessert. The addition of black pepper may seem odd to you, but it is an old culinary trick which greatly enhances the fruitiness of the strawberries. Do give it a try!

Another option that I love...if you add the soup to your Vitamix and put in a bunch of ice, you will get the most amazing ice cream. There is something about the pepper.
For great program-friendly recipes, check out our Cookbook in the store and visit our online Radiant Recipes site.


**Radiant YLD **

Your Last Diet If you are concerned about gaining weight, or about losing weight, or about your body size, then join Your Last Diet online. This is where we talk about fat terror, and your legitimate concerns about about your weight and what to do. And as a YLD member, you will have the joy of attending weekly chats in real time with Kathleen. For those of us who go, it is the highlight of the week.

If you would like to join us in YLD, come find us here


**Radiant Living **

This is where we work with all the things that are not specific to the *food*. Radiant Living is gear to those of you who are settled and steady on step 7 and would like to explore *life* issues with your friends and colleagues.

If you would like to join us in Radiant Living, come find us here


**The Infamous Day Four **
Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D.

Many of you who have been around this community for a while have heard us talk about a “day four.” And you wonder what this is. Not referred to in any of the books, it actually is a key concept for us in making sense of out recovery. Let’s deconstruct it a bit.

Day one opens with something we call a BE spike. This refers to an event that causes a quick and high rise in the level of Beta-Endorphin, the brain chemical responsible for “runner’s high.” The first experience on day one will be a day of great emotion. It can be a high, or grief, or loss or excitement. Let me give you some examples:
  • The day you get married
  • The birth of a child
  • The day you got told you were being laid off
  • The day you graduated from your Ph.D program
Or it can be an event:
  • Finishing your first marathon
  • Having a huge fight with your husband or partner
  • Having a totally unexpected sexual encounter
  • Having an incredible emotional breakthrough
  • Doing an intense workout at the gym after you have been just dabbling
  • Having a sugar binge
Day one, then, is a day of intense feelings. Let’s say that was Sunday. Then on Thursday, you feel out of sorts, you feel cranky, edgy, and vulnerable. And it makes no sense. You don’t know that Thursday is the balance day for Sunday, so you think you are losing your mind. You crave. And even if you are on step seven, you crave. And you may well go through a whole list of feeling edgy, weepy, angry. And at the same time your brain is saying, “What is wrong with me?”

There are little day four's, and they are mind-boggling day four’s. Sometimes a day four will come on day three. And unless you have prepared for it ahead of time and know what is happening, you will be thrown for a loop. In the middle of it, you will not remember. Let me give you an example of something that recently happened to me. It caught me off guard and is a perfect example of a mega day four.

On Sunday afternoon I had made a play date with a ten year old. We planned to go swimming at a friend's and hangout. I told his dad we would meet at 2:00, planning for a swim date. Just before I picked him, I got a call from the friend with the pool. “I’m doing errands. Can you come at 3:30-4:00?” No problem. I picked up my play date at 2:00 and said, “Ok, we are going on an adventure. We have 90 minutes and you get to pick it. “Ok,” he said, “I know a place down by the river. I can take you there.” Sounded good to me. He guided me turn by turn, told me where to park the car and off we went.

I was wearing my flip-flops. I had planned for the pool. We walked, and walked and walked. It was hot, it was dusty, and I got grit between my toes. Eventually we got down to the Bosque, the wooded area that shades the Rio Grande. The birds were calling. There was not a soul around. My little flip-flop feet were hurting.

We cut through a tiny path and through tall Russian olive brush, and then there is the magnificent river. It was breath-taking. He collected tadpoles. I remember being ten and collecting tadpoles in the arroyo after summer rains. This was an exquisite moment in New Mexico time. A moment suspended in my heart like a slow-motion movie.
I checked my watch. It was 3:20. I figured we'd better head back. I washed my feet, the flip-flops in the river, keeping in mind that the early nature people used to make clay pottery from the mud of the river. Dirty feet, washed in sacred river, muddy feet cleaned with water of life.

We walked back to the car. I was grateful for the half gallon of water from Traders Joes. We went swimming, it was a fabulous day.

On Wednesday I did chat and couldn’t focus. I felt edgy, irritable and cranky. I didn’t want to be there. I felt overwhelmed by too many rescue dogs. I wondered why the mentors hadn’t shown up, I fretted about the laundry I had left at the laundromat, I raged about the repairman who had casually told me the part for my washing machine wouldn’t be in 'til next week. Ronan threw up in the living room. My daughter warned me to stop rescuing dogs if it made me angry. I was angry that day, angry that the dog collars were chewed, the kenned fence ripped, the dogs abandoned. After chat, I went to the laundromat to get my clothes. I looked at the vending machine, I wanted a diet coke, and I wanted a Butterfinger candy bar. I even thought about a beer and pizza.

I went home, tried to take a nap, the phone interrupted it. I tried to plan dinner and found that Ronan had eaten what I had planned to eat (why he threw up). I made a snack. I went to mentor chat. I shared how I was feeling. Someone asked (of course), “How is your food?" And, of course I snarled, “Fine.” That particular interaction is the Hallmark of the day four. The “Fine.” This, of course, made me laugh. And once I started laughing. I could remember that this too will pass.

So I did life, I did chat, we had fun, we laughed. Later in the evening, I went on IM (instant message) with a dear friend and started bubbling; the pain and grief of an event that happened six months ago came bubbling out. She understood, She said it was simply part of my pain, my tears, the experience. I think on day four the veil is thinner, the skin that protects us from emotional pain is delicate. We feel more deeply. With low BE, we remember the old days before healing - how it was to feel so deeply and want something, anything, to take the pain away.

But this time, this time in recovery, I could know that feeling it is better than taking it away. That the tears are like the river, washing my heart like washing my feet in the river. I went to bed and left the salt on my face. I fed all the dogs, rescue dogs in the back, puppies in the north, my dogs in the kitchen. Folded the laundry, crawled into bed with back against the wall. Turned off the light, listened to the fan, closed my eyes and let sleep come.

In the morning I was back in my body, back in myself. I have a copy of the IM. I will put it in my journal for sorting later. I have a plan for all dogs. The laundromat is nearby. Dinner is set, my housekeeper is dusting, day four has receded, I bless it for what it revealed.


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