Re: A Promise to Myself
In Response To: Re: A Promise to Myself ()

Hi Katie,

One of the most unexpected delightful benefits of doing this program is
that on step 6, many of us realize that that negative voice is a function of
low beta endorphins. When we balance those (happens as part of step 6),
that negative voice pretty much goes away.

In fact, it becomes a marker for having spiked beta endorphins--it's like a
pendulum swinging back from high to low. It's nothing to worry about now,
but just know that the negative voice is biochemical and not really "you." :h9)

JoEllen

: Hi Maria!

: Don't you hate that negative voice?

: I just had a long talk with my 17 yo
: son who told me all about his
: negative voice. I felt so bad to
: hear he is struggling with it
: also. I imparted my wisdom of how
: I have dealt with it over the
: years but the truth is, I have
: that daily voice that I have to
: quiet down.

: I read somewhere that this inner
: critic comes from early childhood
: experience but I don't really
: agree. I think it comes from a
: pre-historic time when our brains
: needed it to survive. Then I found
: this in the Huffington Post
: "humans were designed to be
: keenly aware of negative
: circumstances and consequences as
: it helped our ancestors
: survive." Bingo! Yes, I agree
: with this!

: That doesn't make it easier to quiet
: but it helps to understand that no
: one did this to us. It is how we
: are hardwired. When my mind goes
: negative, I hold up my hands to my
: face and say stop, or picture a
: stop sign in front of me, or tell
: myself that I don't want to listen
: to myself right now and will deal
: with it later. All work to some
: extent. Maybe I should name that
: voice. Establish a relationship
: with it. Tell it that I am not
: disgustingly overweight and will
: never be attractive. What does
: that voice know about me? LOL.
: Arguing with myself.... I might
: call my voice Vader or Darth
: Sidious... someone on the dark
: side. And use The Force to keep it
: quiet!

: Keep posting, I would love to hear
: what you have to say!

: Katie